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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. He is (was?) into BDSM. When we first started being intimate and he broached the subject he was very happy to find that I didn't think he was sick and although with no prior experience, a willing partner with him. We talked about it alot, and he explained his kinks, we talked about mine and he slowly began introducing me to play. I was totally into it, but then it all just seemed to stop. Our relationship is strong, loving and exclusive and have an active sex life. But I don't understand why he doesn't seem to be interested in S and M anymore? What happened? Is it just me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): It may have been a phase for him, and he's now had enough play that he's satisfied and feels done with it. It's not you, it's him (and I'm not saying this in a bad way at all). Given that you describe your joint sex life as being so good, I don't think you have any problems, just a change in his desires of what kinds of sex play he wants.
Go ahead and ask him about it, though - not as a problem or an issue between the two of you, but as a question. If you found out you enjoyed it and would like him to bring it back in for you, mention it to him and see what he says. You've got a strong relationship with him, talking with him can only help clarify matters between you :-).
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): Who knows but him? There's nothing in what you say here that hints at the cause so, the only thing to do is discuss it with him.
Of course, there is the possibility that he has too much love and respect for you to subject you to whatever it is you two get up to! Just a thought...
Good luck.
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