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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm having a really tough time moving on from a totally heartbreaking pseudo-relationship with an older, emotionally unavailable man. It lasted about 5 years. I was/still am in love with him to the point of obsession. It was really unhealthy but he was so incredibly unique and had some very exotic qualities that I feel I'll never be able to find again. I haven't even seen him in a year, but the feelings are still ever present.Now I've met a really good man - appropriate age, emotionally mature, attractive and crazy about me, but I feel really ambivalent towards him. He's offering me what I always thought I wanted, but I hardly can maintain the feelings of attraction. Was I addicted to the rejection? Do I need someone to be withholding in order to feel attracted to them? My family life growing up was very loving, with very involved parents. I don't want to hurt this new man because he deserves better. I want to be present in the relationship and not thinking constantly about someone who will never give me what I want!!- Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): hun, there's always somebody new waiting 4 u out there somewhere. Relationships are hard and take effort to make them worth while, just ask a couple of really close guy friends if they want to come over to your place and watch a movie or something. Get used to this, and slowly get to know other guys that you have just met, or recently met. Good luck hun!!:)
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