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Should I have a fling??! My wife has had two!!

Q.   My wife had two affairs, each one with the excuse i wasn't giving her enough attention. How can you compete with someone trying to woo her for the first time, my mysteries have all been revealed already. Ive tried to carry on in the relation...

A.   16 June 2008: Stick it out till the kids are 18, then pack your stuff and get the heck out of there! In the meantime, as gross as this may sound, consider an 'open marriage,' she may be into it since it's happened more than once...If you decide to go with a ... (read in full...)

I've lost my sex drive...why?!?!? How can I get it back???

Q.   I have a weird sexual problem. I'm 19. I should be craving sex all the time. I know I used to crave sex all the time little more than a year ago... I have no desire now. I do have sex and it isn't like a chore, even though I get no physical pl...

A.   16 June 2008: try a vacation from each other, (not a BREAK!! ;)) But, like if it isn't easily and readily available, you'll start wanting it i think, probably a week at the most...i went thru the same thing and it lasted a whole freaking year! But then it came ... (read in full...)

If a woman says she hates you is that a good sign??

Q.   If a woman says she hates you is that a good sign? Does it mean she as feelings for you, and thats got to be better than indifference. Does she just need turning around?...

A.   16 June 2008: I always tell the guy i love "i hate you"....but when i type it or say it, in my mind i'm really saying "I love you" - i just don't want him to know it!!... (read in full...)

He keeps looking at me, does he like me or not?

Q.   I used to be really good friends with this boy and i really liked him as in more than a friend ( still do). For ages he would look at me and smile at me. I could turn round suddenly to find that he was looking at me. When we went on this trip...

A.   28 May 2008: Sounds to me like he likes you, but is REALLY shy! All of you (your friends and his friends) should go to the movies together. Then you could try to sit by him and see what happens...Good Luck!... (read in full...)

He calls me all the time, is he into me or his baby mama?

Q.   So I know this guy who tells this girl that they are just friends, yet he treats her as his girlfriend. She has known him 3 years and they recently had a baby together. He said that she told him that she loved him and he told her he did too as a ...

A.   28 May 2008: He's into you both! I'm in the same sorta 'relationship,' except my guy's married...he calls/txts me non stop all day! Then tries to convince me that he doesn't sleep with his wife, seriously, LOL and only 'loves' her because she's the mother of his ... (read in full...)

How can I compartmentalise my feelings like a man?

Q.   There's a stereotype that says that men are good at compartmentalizing their feelings and actions. I was wondering if anyone thinks that women can do the same? Is this something anyone can learn or is there some reason that men are more prone to ...

A.   28 May 2008: Unfortunately, I don't really have an answer, but i AM giving you my support!! i've been asking myself this SAME exact question for a year. I tried to do it, but it all blew up in my face! I'm eagerly watching your question, hoping someone has the ... (read in full...)

Will I find love again? And will I still have feelings for her?

Q.   i dated my first love for 3 years and 2 years on and off. will i find love again? and will i always have feelings for her?...

A.   27 May 2008: You will, to both questions ;) You will find love again, absolutely! You will also always have feelings for her, but not the crushing, soul draining feelings that you probably have now. They will fade and you'll just remember your time together as a ... (read in full...)

I think I might have an infection! Just started having sex and now have a slight stinging sensation when I pee...

Q.   I suspect iI have some sort of infection in my private part. I have recently started having pleasureble sex with a guy on campus. During and after sex I become very aroused and as a result I get dripping wet! Although we always use protection and I ...

A.   27 May 2008: Bladder infection. I got them all the time with my first boyfriend (he was waaay too big for me and it agitated everything, not fun..). I still get them time to time, especially when using protection. If you don't want to see a doctor about it, you ... (read in full...)

Why does he want his mistress to be fat and his wife to be thin??

Q.   Ok, I realize most of this will not make sense logically. I am currently having an affair with my best friend (we are both married.) He pursued me for two years and i finally relented since i am now going thru a divorce; we are NOT in love. But, ...

A.   27 May 2008: Thank you everybody for your answers! These are great perspectives and help me out a lot! It is a strange relationship, i admit. His wife is a decent person, and i have nothing bad to say about her and actually i feel for her, because he's not an ... (read in full...)

Does this make me gay? If I am one of a kind, does that mean I'll be lonely?

Q.   Hey! I am not attracted to genetalia of men nor women. The only thing I find sexually attractive in women are eyes and running my hands through their hair. The thing that really excites me is the thought of a man sitting on my face and ...

A.   27 May 2008: 'Bi-Sexual', 'Gay' and 'Straight' don't mean anything. They are just labels. All that matters is what you do with the person you're with, no matter the sex. Don't worry about 'being lonely,' because someone ALWAYS comes along, especially when you're ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend uses porn a lot so I tried it too and now I feel awful!

Q.   Hi Pleae help, I feel really terrible. I found out a few months ago that my boyfriend was fairly heavy porn user. I know it was probably naive but I really hadn't realised, and it really hurt me. I guess if I had known just that he used porn, bu...

A.   27 May 2008: Porn is fun. Porn is REALLY fun when you enjoy it together! As far as the guilt over the chat room, be honest with your BF and tell him that you tried it to feel 'closer' to him and to understand that side of him. Let him know that you realize that ... (read in full...)

Does size matter? And how do I increase the size of my penis?

Q.   DOes the size of a man's penis really matter? And how do i increase the size of my penis?...

A.   27 May 2008: NO!... (read in full...)

How else besides lab tests can a pregnancy be determined?

Q.   IF a woman is suspected to be pregnant, what other means of test aside from lab tests can it be proven. like what color her vaginal secretions are? are they sticky or what?...

A.   27 May 2008: The best way for me to tell was my boobs hurt! That happened almost immediately, within a few weeks. It's a significant pain too, not like anything felt before.... (read in full...)

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