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July 15,2010

Hello Cupid,

It's been awhile I haven't stopped in said a few words. So, I got my GED on the 29th of December (right before new years), and I had gotten a job as a PCA (Personal Care Attendant) a month before I had received my GED. I am so proud of myself n now - I am an active college student attending Centura college and I am majoring in Associate of Occupational Science - Medical Assisting with Management Focus. I just passed my studies n made a 1214 out of 1340, can you say "YAY!"..so now, I am working towards getting my License and buying a car so I can drive back home to CALIFORNIA, where I am originally from. Louisiana is not for me, I still hate this place..The people are such haters ( i never dealt with this kind of nonsense in CALI), they are so nosy as hell, they are schemers, manipulators, deceitful and devilish minds, all of that..I just can't stand it out here, that is why I am working my way back home. I hate this place with a passion and I don't like the people out here neither. They don't want to see the next person do well, but yet, they want you to be as low as they are because they ain't got nothin goin for themselves, besides the teenagers that are trying to get the hell out of Louisiana..LOL..Until then, all of you will hear from me in B.Hills or Hollywood because I got 2 job offers there. Excited and can't wait to be there..Well, that's all for now, til next time..

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