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Should a 40 year old man want to date a 19 year old woman and then get her pregnant?

Q.   Is it normal for a forty year old man to want a relationship with a nineteen year old girl and then get her pregnant?...

A.   2 December 2005: Yes, it's normal. Depending on the circumstances, the pregnant part may be a bit weird but within the boundaries of evolutionary logic. Whether or not it's ethical is another question. And just because it's growned upon by society doesn't ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend would be perfect, except that he feels I'm not good enough for his family!

Q.   My bf and I have been together for almost 6 months. I am 29 and he is 27. I have three children from a previous marriage, he has never been married and does not have children. He lives about 30 miles from me, and works about 5 miles from me. H...

A.   2 December 2005: Well, looks like you're hot, smart, and with it. In that case keep him around for company and sex - mutual exploitation. You're still young so you shouldn't have too much of a problem finding a guy to make Brady Bunch version N. It'll be ... (read in full...)

Is she cheating on me? The signs are there but I don't know for sure.

Q.   Hi,I am a 23 year old guy,and my girlfriend is 19 and we been together for 5 years,we are having some problems. It first started out 2 months ago she was at work and she let some guy use her car and I had to find out myself about it,and then she had ...

A.   1 December 2005: she;s boinking him. move on. ... (read in full...)

I kissed a girl and now my boyfriend wants a threesome!

Q.   My partner of 3 years has been living in america for work over the past 18 months. I've seen him 3 times in that time and we talk everyday. At a party me and my best friend (girl) were very drunk and kiss and fooled around when we realised what was ...

A.   1 December 2005: Don't do a 3 some if you're the jealous type. But maybe you can offer a girl on girl show for him. He'll be indebted to you for a long time. And maybe it'll help you loosen up. Too many benefits in giving him a show (or a 3 some) at this point ... (read in full...)

My online love's family can't stand me

Q.   I love someone. She is 16 and i m 24, it is an online love, she loves me alot and so do I. Our family find it crazy, especially her dad is against it he told her she can only meet me when she is 18 but her mom is ok with it, plus her dad doesn't ...

A.   1 December 2005: You sound like you're 24 going on 16. No wonder you two are the perfect match. Wait two years, then meet her and go from there. In the meantime, write letters and sneak a few e mails here and there. ... (read in full...)

My ex-lover is back on the scene, now that I'm over 18... and she's angling to get me back!

Q.   I am now an 18 year old female and in my last year of sixth form. I had a relationship with my 33 year old female teacher which started in August 2004 till September 2005. My parents found out about it and put a stop to it. The police decided i...

A.   1 December 2005: Oh get over it. It's as unhealthy or healthy as you want it to be. You're looking for a crutch and you've found one because society tells you that it can be one. This is a case of you making your own hell. Meanwhile, there are people around the ... (read in full...)

I caught my 10-year-old daughter masturbating!

Q.   I hope you can help me with this because i just dont know what to do! I have a 10 year old daughter who is very happy- go lucky and has lots of friends. Last week i walked into her bedroom to find her straddling her bedcorner and thrusting. I told ...

A.   1 December 2005: What are you, from Bible belt land? The 1950s? Are you a glacier? Do you really want your daughter to become a glacier? Masturbation will make her blind. Trust me. Happened to me. ... (read in full...)

I lied and I got sprung. Now I want to get my boyfriend to trust me again!

Q.   Hi. I have done something incredibly stupid. I lied to my boyfriend. He might be leaving or at least sleeping in there. A few weeks ago when I went home to visit friends and my parents, I went to a party. Knowing how uneasy it makes him about my...

A.   1 December 2005: Okay, so you've admitted to being a lush. And maybe he's a control freak. Dump him. The bigger question is who told on you. Figure out the mouth and get Pakistani on him or her. ... (read in full...)

She treated me like a boyfriend until she told me, "Sorry, I'm a lesbian!"

Q.   I've recently been chasing a girl that I met a few months ago in a club. As soon as I met her, there was a connection. I felt a spark whenever we spoke and being around her made me feel so comfortable. We met up casually whilst we were out sepe...

A.   1 December 2005: She's not confused. Either she's not that into you and wants to let you off without putting a spear through your manhood (and yeah, you sound like one of those annoying overly sensitive nice guys that women don't care for), or she really is a ... (read in full...)

Why do I feel awkward when my boyfriend talks about us in the future?

Q.   Sometimes I feel myself getting scared when my bf talks about the future with me. It seems like he's picturing me in his future, which I think is great, but how about if we aren't together for that long? I feel like I don't wnat him to get his hopes ...

A.   1 December 2005: Run away. No, you're not taking it too seriously. Run before he gets too deep into the marriage stuff. Then you'll feel even worse when you dump him. A slap in the face is better than being crushed by a boulder. Do him a favor. ... (read in full...)

After almost a year of dating we haven't had intercourse...and it's driving me crazy!

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for a little under a year, and we have a fun sex life, with one exception; we have never had penetrative sexual intercourse, and she says she wants to wait until she is married. I do see my self marrying her, ...

A.   1 December 2005: Be tender for an evening and then tell her you love her (even if you don't). That usually works. You can also try alcohol. At least masturbate her to make sure she's not a glacier. ... (read in full...)

After he kissed another girl, he assumed I'd dump him. Should I?

Q.   My bf kissed another girl last wkend, he told me straight away and basically assumed that I'd dump him. The thing is I do forgive him, I admire the fact that he told me straight away and he even went and told his parents and I know he feels ...

A.   1 December 2005: He told you right away and expected you to dump him because he wants to break up with you. He doesn't have the balls to break up with you so he wants you to break it off. If he's really into you, there's no way that he'd tell you right away. H... (read in full...)

My bf's religious beliefs makes him celibate but I am finding it tough.

Q.   I find my bf sexually attractive, but his recent religious convictions make him not want to do anything physical, which is perfectly fine with me, although it's difficult sometimes I have to admit--but whenever we go out for the day and come back to ...

A.   1 December 2005: You're boyfriend is likely a closet case. He's gay. And if he's not gay, then he's a religous fanatic. Either way, stay away, unless you're not into sex with a guy or you enjoy living under a rigid set of rules. Plenty of straight religiou... (read in full...)

We fight over our collective future. We patch things up, but then we do it all again!

Q.   Hi, I hope someone can help me out. My girl-friend and I have been in a relationship for many years now. A major problem in our relation is that we fight a lot, mainly about the future. She wants to concentrate on marriage etc while I want to ...

A.   1 December 2005: Marriage and career are not necessarily at odds with each other. It depends on how you understand marriage. For some, marriage is about making a career stronger. And if she doesn't want to have a career, then she's lazy, weak willed, and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend would be perfect, except that he feels I'm not good enough for his family!

Q.   My bf and I have been together for almost 6 months. I am 29 and he is 27. I have three children from a previous marriage, he has never been married and does not have children. He lives about 30 miles from me, and works about 5 miles from me. H...

A.   1 December 2005: Okay, 29 with 3 kids, that's better. So maybe you're not White trash. But damn, you sure did have a lot of kids early. So you're a suburban redneck. You should've worked on a career for a bit longer, just in case your dude runs off. Anywa... (read in full...)

I'm nice to my girlfriend, so why is she always so unhappy?

Q.   I'm 16, and I've been with my girlfriend for a while now. I'm always nice to her and I always try to make her happy. But she always seems to be unhappy. Most of the time, it's about absolutely nothing though. I know it can't be her period, because ...

A.   1 December 2005: Either she's chronically depressed and needs medical attention or you're just not doing it for her. First off, women don't want their men to be nice. Nice means petty, innocuous, and unoriginal. Quit being a sissy. Grow up and be a man, ... (read in full...)

Two men in my life...which do I choose?

Q.   I love 2 men and dont know what to do. Mike has been my boyfriend for the past 3 years on and off. There is 16years difference between us and he is an alcoholic. We have been through a lot and he is constantly letting me down. I love him and if he ...

A.   30 November 2005: Ah, the boring guy versus the exciting guy dilemma. Boring guy is harmless and unoriginal but steady, while the exciting guy isn't stable but adds a bit of Hollywood to your otherwise dull life. The solution: have both, if you think you can be... (read in full...)

My boyfriend would be perfect, except that he feels I'm not good enough for his family!

Q.   My bf and I have been together for almost 6 months. I am 29 and he is 27. I have three children from a previous marriage, he has never been married and does not have children. He lives about 30 miles from me, and works about 5 miles from me. H...

A.   30 November 2005: Here's the problem. You're White trash (come on, 27 and 3 kids already?). At least that's how his family and friends see you. And are you sure that the two of you have "seriously talked about marriage"? What you interpret as marriage talk he... (read in full...)

I just want him to talk to me...

Q.   My bf is studying intensely before a major set of exams 2-3 wks from now. My parents are visiting next wk and have wanted to meet him (never have before). Previously, my bf had agreed - even seemed interested to meet my parents. Today I made a...

A.   30 November 2005: He's not interested in you as a serious girlfriend for reasons that aren't clear. When a guy is truly interested in a girl, he'll make time for her, even if it means not sleeping and ignoring his friends and family. Since he's making excuses, he's ... (read in full...)

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