Should I tell my wife things are broken even though love is still there?
Q. Hi everyone. I've come to you all for advice before and recieved a mixture of abuse, passive aggression and sexism. I ask you please to respond as if yuo are the shriks you claim to be! Me and my wife have been together 14 years. We have no kids ...
A. 4 June 2018: Cheating isn't going to fix your marriage. It will only make things worse. You two need professional counseling ASAP, or it will be too late.
It sounds like the thing that's killing your marriage is apathy. Google this, and you'll learn a lot ab... (read in full...)
My ex said some things, now I feel so low and worthless.
Q. I am feeling low and hurt. I split from my boyfriend around 5 months ago and got odd texts from him now and then. Anyway started to accept it was over and to start building my life again when put the blue my ex text me to say he was really ill and ...
A. 4 June 2018: He's the one who's low and worthless. It sounds like he suffers from a mental disorder such as Narcissistic Personality disorder.
He lied to you in order to get you back into his life, and it sounds like he's as mature as a five-yea... (read in full...)
What can I do, I realise now me and my baby moving in with boyfriend and his mother was a big mistake.
Q. So long story short I lived with my boyfriend and his mom after we had our daughter at 3 months she is now 5 years old so I really thought we would of had our own place by now but my boyfriend (her Dad) has been on/off job I'm just so tired of my ...
A. 4 June 2018: Is anyone else in the household working or are you supporting everyone?
If you are supporting everyone, that's not acceptable. Something needs to change.
I think you need to get out of this household, and possibly, away from this bum of a bo... (read in full...)
How to deal with the pain of family estrangement?
Q. I was estranged from my abusive BPD mother for eighteen years, because I could no longer take her abuse. My brother, who likely also suffered from BPD, saw this as a personal rejection and wanted nothing else to do with me. He threatened me with ...
A. 3 June 2018: Honeypie and Wiseowl, I agree with all you said. I don't plan on giving her money again, but I would get food for the kids. Perhaps, she doesn't really care about me, but my concern is the kids' welfare. When I was putting groceries in my niece's ... (read in full...)
How to deal with the pain of family estrangement?
Q. I was estranged from my abusive BPD mother for eighteen years, because I could no longer take her abuse. My brother, who likely also suffered from BPD, saw this as a personal rejection and wanted nothing else to do with me. He threatened me with ...
A. 2 June 2018: I just thought I'd update you all. I'm doing much better--though another problem has surfaced. I took a step away and decided to let my nieces come to me if they want me in their lives, and I'm reclaiming my own dreams. One of my nieces rem... (read in full...)
He canceled our second date and hasn’t rescheduled! Should I ask him why or just forget him?
Q. Two weeks ago I met a guy and we had a great date, he asked for a second date while we were still out so we made plans to meet up the following week. The day of our second date he cancelled because he had a cold so I didn't think anything of that, I ...
A. 24 April 2018: I get a bad feeling about this guy. It sounds like he's toying with you. One has to wonder if the cold was a lie. Maybe he met someone else in the interim, but he doesn't want to cut you loose either. Instead, he hopes to string you along. Or maybe ... (read in full...)
How to deal with the pain of family estrangement?
Q. I was estranged from my abusive BPD mother for eighteen years, because I could no longer take her abuse. My brother, who likely also suffered from BPD, saw this as a personal rejection and wanted nothing else to do with me. He threatened me with ...
A. 6 April 2018: Yes, I'm married to a wonderful man. He and I are very close, but he has been working long hours the past few months. I also have two adult sons, and I'm close to one of them. One of the others has autism, and it's impossible to get close to him. I ... (read in full...)
How to deal with the pain of family estrangement?
Q. I was estranged from my abusive BPD mother for eighteen years, because I could no longer take her abuse. My brother, who likely also suffered from BPD, saw this as a personal rejection and wanted nothing else to do with me. He threatened me with ...
A. 6 April 2018: Thanks for all of the input.
Yes, I'm very heartbroken and wanting family closeness, but I'm truly trying to move on.
I do want to add that they do know me. They stayed with me often when they were young and even lived with me for a while u... (read in full...)
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