Was she really not able to talk or just brushing me off?
Q. I have a phone numer of this girl [She's an exchange student from Italy]. My friend gave me her number and she never see me before. I called her today and she said she's busy and can't talk right now. Does it mean she doesn't want to talk to ...
A. 6 September 2009: why don't you text her instead of calling her? texting is less personal and she might prefer texting since she has never seen you. ... (read in full...)
He didn't leave me his number
Q. So I met this pretty cool guy the other night, and he ended up staying over my dorm. We hooked up (and by that, I mean only made out), and he had to leave for work in the morning. When I woke up, he wrote me a note, saying that he had a great ...
A. 6 September 2009: are you sure he's single? ... (read in full...)
I'm 26, afraid of women and never had a girlfriend
Q. Hello. I've got something i could do with some advice on and i've not gone on the net about it before so please forgive me if i maybe dont explain this particularly well but i'll give it a shot. Basically i recently turned 26 and i've never had a...
A. 6 September 2009: frustration won't get you anywhere. stop comparing yourself to your friends (it's inevitable I know, it's just human nature to compare ourselves to other people our age) but you need to live your own life without trying to measure up to what you're ... (read in full...)
Destined to be single and alone for the rest of my life
Q. I'm late 20's and never had a girlfriend and don't think I'll ever have one. When I was a child I was often called ugly by girls, this made me resent them, and I never so much as bothered try to talk to a female about going on a date. During my...
A. 3 September 2009: why don't you make a bit of an effort and try to get your life on track? Start by looking after yourself more. As you said, you're average looking so I'm sure you could look much better if you try to look after yourself more (exercise, buy new ... (read in full...)
After 1 week he's already having problems being in a LDR???
Q. Hey, I truely appreciate the time that each have taken to read and advise me through this. this first paragraph is the background, so you can have some type of context. if you do not wish to read all, skip it.. I have been dating my boyfreind...
A. 30 August 2009: give it some more time and see what happens. if you feel that he 's unhappy in the situation talk to him and see if you'd be better off staying just friends. ... (read in full...)
She won't go to a hotel to have sex because she says its "dirty"
Q. Hello, I have been dating my gf for close to 2yrs. The first six months we had great sex. However we stopped for a while since her mom started staying home and we had no place to have sex. We love each other very much and we often talk about ...
A. 30 August 2009: i think you should talk to her about this. don't mention having sex in a hotel but tell her that you're attracted to her and love her and want to have sex with her...I think she must have other reasons for not having sex with you. Saying that having ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my ex a message to let him know I'm still thinking of him?
Q. i was with someone for over 3 years...rather than rehash all the tiny things that made me insecure, jealous, just didn't feel right etc...i can admit i was wrong on some of those things and reacted too jealous at times and should have been more ...
A. 29 August 2009: email him , what have you got to lose? the most important thing is that you email him a simple friendly email. don't have any high expectations. he may have moved on by now or is seeing someone else so you must be ready to accept that and deal wi... (read in full...)
Lonely and longing for friends but I run away when they try to get close!
Q. I don't have any friends, and I tend to get quite lonely. However, I find it really difficult to meet people, and nobody seems to want to get to know me, even when I try to be friendly to them. I find it easier to connect with people on the in...
A. 29 August 2009: i go through phases like that sometimes. I used to long for some close real friendships or dating a particular guy and when it became a reality I backed off. I just felt I didn't want to change my life ... something didn't feel just right. until I ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but I told him I'm not
Q. ok im turmoil here :( Im seeing my bf, we both in love, making future plans together ect... thing is im lying to him. Im still a virgin! even tho i've told him im not. Infact im lying to everyone about this, im like the 40 yr old virgin. i hate it, ...
A. 27 August 2009: don't worry about what you told him...he might not even realise when you have sex with him that you're a virgin. just relax and tell him you haven't had sex for a while so that will explain any awkwardness :-)... (read in full...)
She slept with someone on holiday, within weeks of us getting together. Is that a bad sign for the future?
Q. So, I’ve been seeing this girl for about a month (long distance) and we started having sex after 3 weeks. She had a preexisting trip to Europe she started calling me two weeks into the trip on a daily basis. Joking (not expecting that she would) I ...
A. 25 August 2009: has she slept with him or making out with him?anyway it's not a good sign..if she was really into you then she wouldn't have kissed the other guy. I don't want to burst your bubble but she doesn't seem like someone you could trust. even though it's ... (read in full...)
Had a holiday romance, the guy doesn't seem interested now we're back home, and I can't get over it! What should I do?
Q. Hello all. I am still upset, and grieving after a one week holiday romance that happened 6 weeks ago now. I don;t know what 's the matter with me, but I run it over and over in my head, and miss him so badly, night and day. I tried contacti...
A. 24 August 2009: I went through a similar situation to yours...but mine was a bit more complicated ...I asked a question about it a few days ago, here's the link:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-know-how-to-stop-thinking.html
It's been more than a... (read in full...)
Women aged 20-29 - please answer this!
Q. I've been seeing my gf for about 4 mos (I'm 39- shes 25) I know big gap. Anyway, about a month in -- we had "the talk" ---and I found out about her not so innocent past. It made me sick to find out she had slept with 15 other guys before me. ...
A. 23 August 2009: many girls through their 20s go through a slut phase...and many other girls DO NOT go through a slut phase. She's had made some mistakes which she regrets, it's up to you if you'd accept her or not. Condoning such behaviour because you think that ... (read in full...)
I find it hard to make friends, no one likes me
Q. I have a really big problem... no one likes me. I've always found it hard to make friends or talk to people, I think I might have panic attacks sometimes I don't know if its social phobia. I never know what to say to anyone or how to start a ...
A. 23 August 2009: don't feel worthless. remember, you'll get through this. I think what you need to do is to stop caring about what other people say or think of you. Just try to be friendly with people, smile and make small talk but don't go out of your way to be a ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I can't stop thinking of her!
Q. Hello, I work as a Navy Seal, and from that domain I know this girl, we were going out before (From that domain couple of years ago.) But then I re-meet with her, she's a fine and good gal, she has personal problems and sticks to me more often, she ...
A. 23 August 2009: do you have her contact details? email her or text her , ask her that you'd like to have a chat with her. then call her and let her know your feelings....in a simple way, declaring undying love won't work but let her know that you're thinking of ... (read in full...)
How do I breakup with him and not break his heart?
Q. My boyfriend of three months is going to college 4 hours away and he wants to stay together. He's such a sweet guy and I know he cares about me so much, and offered to drive back and forth at least once a month, but I think it's a bad idea. I'll ...
A. 23 August 2009: it's clear that you're not into this guy...if you loved him you would take a chance and make it work. Since you're not willing to try (like he is), you've got no other option but to be honest and tell him that you don't see a future with him. he'll ... (read in full...)
What to do when medical condition makes sex impossible?
Q. I am a healthy man in my mid-thirties and in a relationship with a wonderful woman for many years (not married). Years back she developed a health condition that got worse and worse, which is unfortunately not well understood and doctors don't kn...
A. 23 August 2009: If you really love this woman, don't hurt her by trying to get another person in the picture. It's difficult not to imagine yourself being sexually fulfilled through intercourse for the rest of your life but like you said there are plenty of other ... (read in full...)
Why am I so lonely? What's wrong with me?
Q. I've been feeling lonely for a while. I feel like nobody gets me, I don't know if it's a phase that every teenager goes through but why do I feel this way? My life has been on hold, well, the same, forever. It seems everybody is getting on with ...
A. 19 August 2009: everyone feels like that from time to time, don't worry too much about this....you'll get through this phase and you'll have better times. be optimistic.... (read in full...)
Should I take a chance and visit him and see where things go, after being apart for 15 years?
Q. 15 years ago I sent the love of my life packing. I am 15 years older then him, back then he was in his early 20's and I was in my late 30's. Now he's in his late 30's and I'm in early 50's. A lot has happened to both of us during the last 15 years, ...
A. 17 August 2009: If I were you, I'd take a chance. what have you got to lose? if it doesn't work out you can then move on, but at least you would have tried. good luck, I hope everything works out well for you.... (read in full...)
How does it make you feel when Valentine's Day comes around and you're still without that special someone?
Q. This question is for the single women of the dearcupid community, any age also k. K, so ladies, let me ask this to you, being single is hard sumtimes I know, but what goes on in your mind when your wishing you had someone to hold you in the early ...
A. 17 August 2009: I get days like that but then I realise that it's the price I have to pay for being very very choosy about which guys to date!!... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my wife's best friend and curious of what it's like to sleep with another woman! What should I do?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 11 years now and she has been the only woman I have ever had sex with. For about 9 of those years she has had a lot of issues physcially and mentally that has caused her to totally lose her sex drive. For the most ...
A. 16 August 2009: divorce your wife and get another woman. but don't cheat on her!... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship and now, he doesn't text me back! What can I do?
Q. I met a guy and we dated for about 3 weeks. We both felt a great connection and really liked each other. We do not live near each other, so we talked over text message when I had to return home. At first the texts were very nice and sweet and said ...
A. 15 August 2009: stop texting him. he has your number, he would text you if he wants to. sorry if this sounds harsh but probably he's not interested anymore...out of sight, out of mind kind of thing.... (read in full...)
How can I choose where to live... my country or his?
Q. Hi, i really need some advice. I have been in a long distance relationship for 6 years now..we are very much in love but are unable to decide where to set up home..in my country uk or his Malta. He is the only child and has elderly parents ...
A. 15 August 2009: I'm Maltese so I know a thing or two about Maltese culture ;-) The fact that he wants to take care of his elderly parents shows that he is very considerate but it also shows that perhaps he might not be able to make a full commitment to you. Did he ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with my girlfriend without breaking her heart?
Q. So me and my girl been together for about 6months. 3months into the relationship i moved away and we kept going as an LDR. For some wierd reason After I moved away we started talking on the phone for like 12hours straight everyday and got really ...
A. 15 August 2009: you will break her heart but better be honest and tell her now than prolong it. be sensitive about it and keep in mind that she's going to be hurt but you've got to do as soon as possible.... (read in full...)
I'm 33 and have never been in a serious relationship. Am I doomed to be an old maid?
Q. Okay. So I am 33 years old and have never been in a serious relationship. I feel like most men my age would not want to be with someone who has so little experience. I think I'm a great catch. I am a little overweight which tends to hold me back ...
A. 15 August 2009: there are men out there who would be bothered by your 'inexperience' but there are also a lot of other men who would prefer to have a woman like you. you don't have any ex-problems or kids from previous relationships so that's definitely a plus for ... (read in full...)
Ok with texting but don't know how to talk on the phone
Q. Okay me and my girlfriend have known each other for a long time but never really talked to each other, and since we never gone to the same school we've never really seen each other. But latly we have been text messaging each other and it's Been ...
A. 15 August 2009: you're not the only one who feels awkward on the phone. I'm a girl and I still don't like talking on the phone. I'd rather send a text /email regularly than phone but that's just me. but if your gf likes to talk on the phone, then try to make an ... (read in full...)
Tried to stay friends with the ex but I get ignored, should I just forget it?
Q. i was going along with this girl for a year and she was crazy about me ...we enjoyed each other's company and there was definately something special between us ..we shared whatnot and hanged around a lot ...then i dumped her for some reasons and she ...
A. 15 August 2009: she might still have feelings for you so she's trying to avoid you or limiting contact for her own sake. please be understanding, if she likes you then that's why she's acting this way. ... (read in full...)
Why do I find it so difficult to have a relationship? Am I too picky?
Q. I'm a 23 year old female, postgraduate student (will be graduating this year), working part-time and looking for a full time job. I have plenty of male friends and they all tell me that I'm very attractive, smart, confident and mature for my young ...
A. 15 August 2009: hey, thanks for your answers. I'm definitely neither asexual nor sexually attracted to women . I have no doubts about my sexual orientation, I'm attracted to men only (I always find myself being attracted to foreign guys!) Although the sex urge is ... (read in full...)
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