Why do I have stretch marks if I'm not growing?
Q. Why do I have strach marks in my chest area if i'm not growing quickly? I also have them on my inner thighs, really embarassing to waer a bathing suit anyway why I don't think i am growing there and is there a way to get rid of them?...
A. 2 June 2009: You may be growing, just not in a very noticeable way. During puberty, girls generally put on more fat all over their bodies, not loads in one place, just little its everywhere. That could have caused your stretch marks. It's also to do with ... (read in full...)
Is the way I masturbate incorrect?
Q. I don't masturbate the conventionol way with my hands around my penis, instead I usually rub against something? I'v read articles claiming this may make my sex in the future less enjoyble, I was just wondering should I force myself to try ma...
A. 1 June 2009: It won't have any effect at all on your future enjoyment of sex. Don't worry about it. I don't even see any logic in why it would, sex is a completely different sensation to any kind of masturbation, so how you masturbate won't make a difference to ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so horny all the time?
Q. hi i'm a 13 year old girl and i'm really horny. also, whenever i think about sexualy thoughts i get a warm sensation in my vagina... what is this?? another thing to.... i really want to have sex!...why is this??...
A. 1 June 2009: It's your hormones and it's just how we humans develop. The real deep reasons are to do with evolution. It's very natural to feel that way, because way back before we were civilised, the best way to pass on your genes was to have loads of babies, ... (read in full...)
I just don't feel like I can compare with the girls he sees in porn
Q. I feel totally hideous and this is keeping me from enjoying and wanting sex. I feel too self conscious. My boyfriend watches porn, but it's not like he's addicted far from it actually. But these women look a thousand times better and this puts me ...
A. 1 June 2009: Pornstars aren't hot, it'd be like having sex with a deceitful barbie doll - including the plastic part. There's actually something very attractive about girls just looking natural, it's much more attractive than some cheap slag making fake moans ... (read in full...)
No sex for 5 weeks! What's up with me?
Q. I need advice. My boyfriend of 3 years and I haven't had sex in 5 weeks. He was away for one, and we were on a family vacation for another. (no privacy). But the bottom line is I have NO sex drive. He has told me he is saving for a ring and wants...
A. 1 June 2009: It's certainly not abnormal, but that doesn't mean you need to settle for it. It could be caused by so many things. Sex drive is very... fragile, a lot of things can throw it off. Stress about your job, your family, your relationship or ... (read in full...)
How do women squirt?
Q. Can any one tell me how do women squirt? What does women do to squirt? Can anyone explain to me in detail what she do and how shes doing it? And when you feel you are close to ejaculation how do you release it? Does it feel like a pee? Do u release ...
A. 1 June 2009: I mentioned this in another answer. It's an article from the New Scientist and it answers all of your questions. http://www.new... (read in full...)
How can I stop him hurting me?
Q. I have been going out with my bf for 2 months...the other night things were getting really heated and he really wanted to finger me, i wasn't sure because I've never been fingered before but let him.....but after 5 seconds or so it had tell him 2 ...
A. 1 June 2009: I presume since you haven't been fingered, that you also haven't had sex. This is probably something that will go away once you've had sex because that stretches the hymen out etc. That's probably not much help for you because the last thing you w... (read in full...)
I need change...any recommendations?
Q. okay so summers coming and im on to high school and i want to change. hears how i am now: im VERY shy, skinny and bony, unconfident, selfconscious, NOT very popular, and i fall for guys too easily. i know that the only wayt o fix all of that is by ...
A. 1 June 2009: Well, it's not actually that hard to put on weight if you're eating enough, unless you have a metabolic disorder that is.
To gain weight safely, you should only be putting on about 2lb every month. To do this, you need to consume approxim... (read in full...)
Don't know if wife wants a threesome?
Q. been married for 10 years my wife and i watch porn and when three somes are on she gets turned on and i would ask if she likes what she sees and she always says she yes when i ask her if she wants a 3-some she always says i would never do that one ...
A. 1 June 2009: I think you have to realise there is a massive difference between fantasy and reality. She may get turned on by the idea of threesomes, she may get turned on by the idea of having sex with other men while you watch and she may even get turned on by ... (read in full...)
9 years and the thrill is gone
Q. I've lived with my girlfriend for 9 years now but im not happy. At first it was great we couldent wate to be together. We lerned new stuf together every day. Now I feal all the bonds and Excitment have gone. I feal as thogh im a taxi service, ...
A. 1 June 2009: After 9 years, rather than talking to strangers on the internet about this, maybe you should talk to her about it, especially if you're thinking about ending it (best not mention that though). Put it in a less hostile manner when you talk to her ... (read in full...)
He thought my friend was cute too!
Q. today my friend told me that this really cute guy i was flirting with thought i was insane weird and yet funny. of course that bothered me but what bothered me more was that he though my other friend was cute and she was tlking to him too. this...
A. 1 June 2009: We weren't there so we can't really tell you what you did to put him off...
Here are two common things that it could be:
1. You came on too strong (it was too obvious that you were into him and that made him uncomfortable) or,
2. You were t... (read in full...)
How can I get over my erection phobia?
Q. This is gonna be long..sry ! i need help tho.. Ok so today me and my girlfriend were alone in the house..we started taking of our clothes etc..started foreplay and stuff butshe had her panties on and i was trying to think a way to go inside her ...
A. 1 June 2009: I'm not endorsing sexual behaviour if it's illegal at your age in your locality. Assuming it is legal, he is some advice:
Basically you just need to relax. Not just you, both of you.
I'd suggest that you both spend some time together, comple... (read in full...)
The annoying thing on my mind
Q. Hey, I'm a 16 year old guy and will be 17 in 2 weeks. Me and my gf both lost our V plates to each other when we were 15. My girlfriend is 3 months younger than me which makes her a year behind me in education. Thing is, even though now we ar...
A. 1 June 2009: I'm in a very similar situation to you actually, or more accurately, was in a similar situation. My parents have always been fine with it, my girlfriend's parents were so angry about it that we had to pretend that we wouldn't do it any more.
It's ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time or should I let it ride?
Q. I need someone's opinion who knows what's going on .... I am 20 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, Shane. He's 19. I do love him sincerely and care enough about him to spend the rest of my life with him, as naive as that ma...
A. 1 June 2009: I think you're wasting your time. You're just going to keep yo-yoing from together to apart again. I don't think it needs much explanation and I think deep down, you know yourself that you can do much better than him.
He's proven that he can't ha... (read in full...)
I'm confused, he is so bi-polar with his feelings!
Q. ohkay so this is a little long but i need to say it all. and thru the whole thing dont think im a slut. im 13 and in 7th grade. one day on my bus i met this guy that i saw everyday and thot he was hot for along time. but i never talked to him. then ...
A. 31 May 2009: I don't think you're a slut. But I do think you need to be careful. Things that you may or may not do may be illegal where you live, but I don't think that's important, so I won't get into that right now, but it's something that you should think ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of getting hurt again. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently got out of a very bad and extremely hurtful "friends with benefits" relationship that lasted around 7 months. It ended badly and I suffered a lot of emotional abuse and got my heart broken, by an absolutely horrible person. ...
A. 31 May 2009: We can't tell you what to choose, only you know exactly how you feel. But perhaps this advice will help.
Take it slow.
That will give you a lot of protection from getting hurt. You'll be able to get a good idea of what your relationship is ... (read in full...)
How can I move on from them?
Q. Well...my ex broke up with me a day after we did stuff, and went really far. It's been 2 weeks and I was crying about him because I still love him, and my best friend was like it's okay, he's a jerk , he's not worth it and everything. Then I find ...
A. 31 May 2009: Time and distance are the only things that are going to help you get past this. It's not fair, but it's going to take some time to get over this and it won't be at all easy.
Put distance (it doesn't have to be physical, like moving to another ... (read in full...)
He turns to his friends for all of the fun times...
Q. What does it mean when after a year+ relationship that your boyfriend wants to spend more time with his friends? He never does anything with me anymore other than chores and wants to go out with his friends to do fun things and go drinking and play...
A. 31 May 2009: This is blunt and I feel bad for saying it, but I think that you should cut your losses and break up with him. Him being this uninterested at this stage in your relationship is a warning sign - it's something that's not likely to improve. If ... (read in full...)
A question about female ejaculation...
Q. I'm trying to learn how to cum a lot. I'm aroused by my boyfriend, but he wants me to cum so he can actually see it flowing from me. Even though I would love to learn how to squirt, but that's out of the question right now. Please someone help....
A. 31 May 2009: It might not actually be possible for you to ejaculate or even for you to orgasm vaginally (if you do orgasm during sex, it could actually be due to clitoral stimulation).
Your boyfriend needs to understand this. Things that happen in porn, ar... (read in full...)
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