My BF and I are in our 40s', but is it ok for us to spend the night together, at the risk of setting a bad example to our kids?
Q. my boyfriend and I met 8 months ago and we are in our 40's. the problem is he has 2 daughters 20,22 and I have one son 7 years old. We don't live near eachother so we don't get much time alone. When we are together we can't be alone in our rooms ...
A. 8 January 2011: His kids are old enough to know the facts if life. Its your baby u need to worry about. Get a sitter of when he has visitation with his other family. It wouldn't be fair to him to be bored stuck with two girls in their twenties while mommy shaking ... (read in full...)
I've just given up caring that boyfriend doesn't treat me right
Q. My bf hasnt always treated me right. And as a result I became very insecure for 2 whole years. But suddenly I woke up and I felt I didn't care. Not about him, I still love him. But I feel like I've just given up caring. I don't know what's changed ...
A. 8 January 2011: You can't love someone if you don't respect yourself. And allowing him.to treat u badly for two year is not a sign of self repect. Don't give up on yourself. Someone will treat u good. Someone will love you the right way. Unfortunately he's not ... (read in full...)
He has been my boyfriend for two months, and is now trying to get me pregnant!
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months now and he started talkinq bout having a baby with me. The thing is im 16 and he is 18. I told him i'm not ready to have a baby that's not in my life plan to be pregnant at 16. even ...
A. 8 January 2011: Wait till after he buys a house and free he finishes school. It's not easy being a student, working and being the daddy a baby deserves. And u may feel bad that "you denying him something specail" but remeber having a babys going to deny you soooo ... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law gave my brother Herpes!
Q. I put that in the title to get people's attention, cause I really need advice on this. I'm tired of the comments my sister-in-law makes about me to my brother, and I'm mad at him for letting her feel like she doesn't have to respect me. Our whole ...
A. 8 January 2011: Good idea. Remeber that there's two sides to ever story.... (read in full...)
My friends are trying to convince me the age gap is a problem
Q. I'm 20 and my current boyfriend is 33, we've been together for 10 months or so. We met via work (we play pro badminton) and I used to play mixed doubles for a little while before we got together, which is where we initially got to know each other. (...
A. 7 January 2011: Be very honest. Tell them that he is very important to you. And your planning on having him around for a long time. Tell them it's important to you that they except your relationship and him...... (read in full...)
My friends are trying to convince me the age gap is a problem
Q. I'm 20 and my current boyfriend is 33, we've been together for 10 months or so. We met via work (we play pro badminton) and I used to play mixed doubles for a little while before we got together, which is where we initially got to know each other. (...
A. 7 January 2011: Age dozen matter what matters is where u r in life. For example maybe he wants to get married and have kids in the next five years, but u can't to go to school and earn a masters then travel europe and don't see yourself even thinking on his page ... (read in full...)
My BF, my daughter, my secret lover, his pregnant wife...my life is a mess of lies and I'm miserable
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years. We were just kids when we got together. Our relationship has had it's ups and downs and for a while my boyfriend treated me like complete garbage. We ended up splitting up for a few months. When we got ...
A. 7 January 2011: My advice ( lord knows im not perfect) leave your bf work on u. This new guy doesn't sound that great ( I may be wrong)...anyways work on u till he gets a divorce or anulment. And then see if u can be togther. But don't rush that relationship.... ... (read in full...)
My BF, my daughter, my secret lover, his pregnant wife...my life is a mess of lies and I'm miserable
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years. We were just kids when we got together. Our relationship has had it's ups and downs and for a while my boyfriend treated me like complete garbage. We ended up splitting up for a few months. When we got ...
A. 7 January 2011: My advice ( lord knows im not perfect) leave your bf work on u. This new guy doesn't sound that great ( I may be wrong)...anyways work on u till he gets a divorce or anulment. And then see if u can be togther. But don't rush that relationship.... ... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law gave my brother Herpes!
Q. I put that in the title to get people's attention, cause I really need advice on this. I'm tired of the comments my sister-in-law makes about me to my brother, and I'm mad at him for letting her feel like she doesn't have to respect me. Our whole ...
A. 7 January 2011: Maybe its not as bad as it sounds. Maybe it is. Either way if he's excepting it there's not much u can do.... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...
A. 5 January 2011: Only you know what's best for you..we can only give opinions. Do what u feel is rite for u and your marriage. But if you do attend and the other woman makes a show just let her. Don't be a art of that. That is verge disrespectful. And your husband ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...
A. 5 January 2011: That's a hard place. One one hand you should go to respect his father, to say good bye, and to support your husband. On the other your going to be stuck on her and what they did. Where you close to his father? If you don't go will the mistress try ... (read in full...)
Living with my brother after being kicked out and afraid that I'm intruding
Q. I've been living with my brother and his girlfriend since my parents kicked me out when they found out I was pregnant. The other day they got engaged. I'm happy for them. I really am but the only thing running through my head is what if they kic...
A. 5 January 2011: Give them privacy. Go out with friend or whatever. And be open to them about your concerns and let them know if they need time alone to let you know. Also make sure they don't feel your a burden. Keep the house clean (more than your own stuff) and ... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law gave my brother Herpes!
Q. I put that in the title to get people's attention, cause I really need advice on this. I'm tired of the comments my sister-in-law makes about me to my brother, and I'm mad at him for letting her feel like she doesn't have to respect me. Our whole ...
A. 5 January 2011: He's the one who choose to be married to her. He'd your big brother and should stick up for you. So if he's not doing his brotherly dutys you should be mad at him. And don't get cought up in that drama... (read in full...)
Fiance's ex forbids him seeing his children if I do something she doesn't like!
Q. im going to make this short and simple. im with my fiance who has 2 kids by his ex-wife, what should i do, everytime i do something she does not like she tells him he cant see his kids. its not fair to him, what should i do ?...
A. 4 January 2011: Call the police and meet them at her house (or where ever the court says to pick them up). Make sure he has the court order on hand. Do it every single time. The cops should give him a report if he asks for it. Keep the reports and after you get ... (read in full...)
Expensive love!
Q. dear cupid, i would like to ask, is right to spend alot of money in a relationship to impress your girlfriend....
A. 4 January 2011: As long as your not going in debt or not holding up to your financial responsibilitys then its no big deal. But u got to be careful that she doesn't fall inlove with the money instead of you. And make sure you save someone to.... (read in full...)
He wants to keep things casual and now I'm pregnant!
Q. I am a hormonal emotional wreck. The man I hv been with for many years just informed me he wants to keep things the way they are at the moment. We live in separate homes . The twist in this I am 3 months pregnant . He wants things to remain...
A. 4 January 2011: It doesn't matter if its planned or not. Sex is sex and we all know there's a risk of preganacy and by agreeig to sex you agree to the "what ifs".... (read in full...)
I date a guy and then 3-4 years later I don't love them anymore
Q. I'm almost 28...divorced...2 baby daddy's...what's my problem? I date a guy and "think" I'm in love...then wake up 3-4 yrs later and don't love them anymore? Why can't I commit? Why can't I love someone for the rest of my life? I've always been like ...
A. 3 January 2011: Relationships get into ruts. At the 3-4 year mark the lust is gone. But I think its kind of like running, you got to get your second wind. Do you know what I mean?... (read in full...)
I love her but don't want to be one of her sex slaves
Q. Hi everyone, In short I know a girl who I care for and think I love, the problem is she is beautiful and younger and does not want to settle for any one man. She has a string of open relationships where she is sexually intimate with a few people. ...
A. 3 January 2011: If you do be with her be very very very clear it is a sexual thing. So not get emotionally attached! It sounds as you already do care for her so it might not be a good idea.... oh yeah and remeber use a condom. STD's are no joke. Trust me im a nurse ... (read in full...)
I'm scared he likes her more than me. He's dumped me and hurt me before. What are my options?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He then asked for me back, telling me all he could think about was me and that he just wanted to be with me. He and I then went to hang out, and he wanted me to have sex with him. I kept telling him ...
A. 3 January 2011: Yes perfect statment! Explained it very well Cerberus Raphael!... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to get a boyfriend my age?
Q. i have been single for awhile and i no longer want to be single what are the best ways to get a boyfriend thats the same age as me or a little older cause iam 18teen yearsold and i would like to try to have a boyfriend again that wont cheat on ...
A. 3 January 2011: No clubs or bars! Church, charity events, park, or gym..( or other places that people do healthy things).... (read in full...)
We're both engaged. Should I confess my lesbian crush to my friend?
Q. I'm a 30 year old woman who is engaged to be married to a wonderful man. Our relationship is strong and caring and I am very happy with him. The problem is that I recently realized that I (still) have a very strong crush on a female roommate from ...
A. 3 January 2011: Tell her before the wedding. Text her jokingly like "he's a lucky man! If I was not so tired that one night in college......" and end it with a lol or something... anyways let us know what happens!... (read in full...)
Fiance's ex forbids him seeing his children if I do something she doesn't like!
Q. im going to make this short and simple. im with my fiance who has 2 kids by his ex-wife, what should i do, everytime i do something she does not like she tells him he cant see his kids. its not fair to him, what should i do ?...
A. 3 January 2011: This must be extreamly fusterating for you. U should have your husband to be call the police ever time she go aginst the court order. Have the order with him to show the cop and then the cop should give him some paper work.after a few times bring ... (read in full...)
We're both engaged. Should I confess my lesbian crush to my friend?
Q. I'm a 30 year old woman who is engaged to be married to a wonderful man. Our relationship is strong and caring and I am very happy with him. The problem is that I recently realized that I (still) have a very strong crush on a female roommate from ...
A. 3 January 2011: Talk to him and see what he says about the situation. Maybe he can he will help u talk to her if that's what u want to do... (read in full...)
Fiance's ex forbids him seeing his children if I do something she doesn't like!
Q. im going to make this short and simple. im with my fiance who has 2 kids by his ex-wife, what should i do, everytime i do something she does not like she tells him he cant see his kids. its not fair to him, what should i do ?...
A. 3 January 2011: He should go to court. Get court ordered days and times that he has the kids and then if she doesnt let him have them when its time to get them then she's braking an order from the court and can get into big trouble! The probably the best and most ... (read in full...)
Am I the rebound? What should be my course of action?
Q. I've been dating a man around my age (25) for roughly two months (with some breaks in between because of holidays). We met through a dating site, and he's generally a nice guy, however, he just got out of a 5 year relationship in August, which meant ...
A. 3 January 2011: Sound like he has some serious issue! And clearly has. Ton of feelings for her. He may be a good guy but you just met him at the wrong time. Id end it as nicely as I could maybe try to remain friends and see what happens. GOOD LUCK! ... (read in full...)
I took a girl's lost blackberry and everyone has found out and started abusing me on facebook!
Q. A few days after christmas my cousin had a house party and at this party i found a phone on the floor. I put it in my pocket, planning to keep it but when the party finished the girl who had lost the phone was in tears. But i didnt give it back. ...
A. 3 January 2011: You make a huge apology to her, your cousin, and everyone else. Take complete owner ship for what you have done. Post a public apology on face book explaining whY u have done and how bad u feel.... ur going to have to take some people being angery, ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too big?
Q. i've only ever had sex three times and im wondering about my penis size. The first girl i had sex with actually giggled when she saw it but she told me not to worry because her ex boyfriends was huge. The second girl was shocked. She couldnt believe ...
A. 2 January 2011: Yes some time if its to big it hurts. And you can't put it all the way in. But some r freaky and will take it... anyways can I have your phone number? Lol.... (read in full...)
I'm married, also have BF who's going to leave his GF and I'm possibly pregnant plus I'm in a panic. Help!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man who is 14 years older than me for 10 years. I got with him when I was 17. We had a lot of problems through the relationship, however, we kept going. I couldn't get pregnant, and it took 3 years of trying ...
A. 2 January 2011: For it being so hard for you to conceive you should be thanking god for the miracle of this baby! Yes you r in a hard soot (you put yourself in it) but look at ut child and know that u will feel for your baby that's in you that same way u feel for ... (read in full...)
I want our first time to be without a condom!
Q. My girlfriend and I of a year have made a decision to have sex. We plan on doing it really soon as in a few days, and I want to make it the best experience for her. I've heard that she could get pregnant from my precum which is a problem that I ...
A. 2 January 2011: U can buy spermicide over the counter. Then you wont need a condom. But seriouly read the instructions very well because a lot of people use it wrong. It about $8 a box (he'll of a lot cheaper than a baby). It comes in a tablet that can be inserted ... (read in full...)
I want our first time to be without a condom!
Q. My girlfriend and I of a year have made a decision to have sex. We plan on doing it really soon as in a few days, and I want to make it the best experience for her. I've heard that she could get pregnant from my precum which is a problem that I ...
A. 2 January 2011: U can buy spermicide over the counter. Then you wont need a condom. But seriouly read the instructions very well because a lot of people use it wrong. It about $8 a box (he'll of a lot cheaper than a baby). ... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with me? I push people I love away!
Q. FYI, I'm a 15 year old girl who's never dated and I really wanna this year.Purely my decision. Theres a guy that i really care about, we fell for eachother but once it got to making our relationship official, I started treating him bad (like ig...
A. 2 January 2011: You can't be afraid. Someones going to leave you at some point. Anit going to do the same. Yes it's going to hurt. But that ok. Sometimes you learn from pain. Its not easy but you shouldn't hide from life. And try to treat ur future bf the way they ... (read in full...)
His mom walked in on us having sex!
Q. Hi. Im not gonna go round the houses with this, its embarrassing enough! My boyfriend and i (of 7 months) were taking advantage of his free house yesterday lunchtime ish. His mum unexpectedly arrived home early and caught us having rather heavy sex, ...
A. 2 January 2011: She doesn't sound like she wants to talk about so unless you do I wouldn't push it. But im sure she knows her 23 year son is no vergin. But wow how embarrassing! ... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend let me see him naked?
Q. Hey, My boyfriend and me have been dating over a year, neither of us are sexually active yet but we both really want to. Me and him do foreplay etc but hes started to ask me for Bjs etc. But he wont take off his top or bottoms so I can help satisfy ...
A. 2 January 2011: He's not ready yet. He wants to be ready. But he's not. Give the boy some time. U both r too young... (read in full...)
I was told by my GF :"Girls don't like it when guys last long, they get sore and it hurts down there". Really???
Q. Hi, Happy New Year by the way! So, when I have sex with my girlfriend, first I pleasure her for about 7 minutes until she finishes, then we have sex and I last for about 1 minute on a good night. Now, once I kept "doing it" for a while after I wa...
A. 2 January 2011: Girl CAN get sore! Every girl is different thought. It depends on how sencitive she is down there and how big you are.... but don't forget you can always have a round two.... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want sex and I don't want an affair
Q. My wife has not wanted sex for over 2 years. Should i consider a prostitute. I do not want an affair....
A. 2 January 2011: If it comes to that divorce should is a better option.... why doesn't she want it? Are you doing everything you should be as a man? Has there been infadelity? Has she gained weight? Had a baby? Do you guys spend time together?... what does she ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to abort our baby because his parents will otracise us
Q. I have been married for 1 year and have been with my husband for two (2) years. We have a 13 month old daughter together and he has a three (3) year old boy from a previous relationship, whom we have part-time custody of. My husbands parents were ...
A. 2 January 2011: Can you imagine explaining " I choice abortion because my husbands parents thought it was best?". Can you imagine if you had aborted your daughter? You will feel the same for this baby. It is your choices. But make sure YOU are the one making it.... (read in full...)
I want to initiate an affair with a married friend of my wife and mine
Q. I am a married man,38. I have strong feelings for an older woman who is also married and is a friend of us. I can tell from her looks that she has the same feeling. Nothing has happened up to this moment, not a word expressed, nothing at all. Ca...
A. 2 January 2011: There's no answer that question because there is no good way to cheat. Why don't you ask... how do u get over theses feeling I have for a family friend? Or... How do I make my marriage better? Or...how can I stop being a dirt bag husband? You made ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to my sisters boyfriend with her blessing?
Q. So I have a complicated situation where my sister and her boyfriend are completely open to open relationships where they'll see other people/have sex with them, but will be dating each other as each other's main partners. I'm a virgin and hadn't h...
A. 2 January 2011: Giving it to him is a very bad idea. And loosing it should be something u look back on a positive memorie. Not "I list it to my sister bf who just wanted sex from me"... (read in full...)
Should I let her know I'm his secret lover? He's my ex!
Q. i'am my exes secret lover now.we lived together for 6 yrs. he moved out a yr. ago, but we were still a couple. he met someone 4 months ago and still sees me when he can. he been lying to her from the start and won't tell her the truth about us. i ...
A. 1 January 2011: This doesn't sound like a guy that should have any girlfriend not less 2! He obviously doesn't love you or he would be with you and you alone. The question you should be asking is why do you want to be with him?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is not ashamed of being nude in front of others...
Q. Last night, we had around 20 people over for a New Years party, and I was trying to fall asleep a little later in the night. I was nearly asleep when someone ran to the bathroom (which is right outside of my room) to inform his girlfriend that my ...
A. 1 January 2011: That's not healthy. I wouldn't put up with that. It sounds like he may have some serious issues.... Did he ever say why he does this? Does he have other odd sexual behaviors? Does he have a huge penis? What's the deal? He prob needs to seek help ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with lesbian porn...but I thought I was straight?
Q. I'm Fifteen and I think I'm straight, as I've had boyfriends in the past and I am attracted to boys. But over the past year I've had countless lesbian fantasies about friends, girls I don't know, even girls I made up in my head. At one point I was ...
A. 31 December 2010: Sometimes people are attracted to both sexes. Because your still young don't be so quick to label your self. Some people expirament before finding out who u truly are and that's ok. Your young and still learnig who you are.... (read in full...)
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