I've become addicted to alcohol and don't know how to stop
Q. Hi agony aunts. I really need some help. I am 32, married and a mother of three. My husband was going through a mid-life crisis back in 2018. He hated that he had not accomplished what he wanted to at his age. One of his good friends backstabbed ...
A. 9 November 2021: You haven't told us how much you drink. The ultra safe level is 14 units per week.
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Nice but shy colleague?
Q. Hello, How do I initiate talking with a nice woman who seems very shy? We are colleagues but don't work together and we are quite mature. I know she is divorced and a mother of grown up sons but she doesn't seem to socialise much at the workplace...
A. 9 November 2021: Hello.
So far so good. I don't think she is particularly shy now, after a couple of small retorts.
I get them impression she is Mega busy on the job, simple as that.
Answers appreciated, and taken on board.
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Nice but shy colleague?
Q. Hello, How do I initiate talking with a nice woman who seems very shy? We are colleagues but don't work together and we are quite mature. I know she is divorced and a mother of grown up sons but she doesn't seem to socialise much at the workplace...
A. 8 November 2021: Hello. So far so good. She is not particularly shy, but she is glued to work 99% of the time.... (read in full...)
I think I have a problem with something on my penis.
Q. Dear readers I think I have a problem with something on my penis. There's small bumps that circle my penis, right where the shaft meets the head. They've never caused me problems, but they are odd and I'm confused as to what they are. They'v...
A. 25 November 2014: Both conditions are standard anatomy.... (read in full...)
The night we met she went out had sex with her ex afterwards!
Q. Advice needed please! I met this girl a couple of months ago on a night out with friends, we hit it off straight away, swapped numbers and had a really good time that night. We started dating soon after and are going steady now. Everything h...
A. 27 September 2013: You are over reacting. Sex sometimes just happens because people want it to happen. Don't doubt this woman just because she did so before you were involved - it doesn't mean she is still committed to that guy.... (read in full...)
Do you just let your ex become a stranger?
Q. My ex isnt willing to see me with someone new and i dont want to see his either so we defriended each other on facebook (FYI: It was a bad breakup) We are in different countries so we will never ever see each other again. Do you guys just let your ...
A. 27 September 2013: Are you my ex by any chance? I did exactly what you have had to do and also find it very unsatisfactory. It has been over a year. If you can put "feelings" to the side you could try and stay friends but it really is not as simple as that.
The only... (read in full...)
My ex is taking time out to work on herself as she's severely depressed, should I wait for her or move on?
Q. I'm super torn up about a break up. My ex girlfriend is having major mental illness issues and can't hold down a functioning relationship anymore. we had been together for over a year, and she'd always battled with severe anxiety and depression, but ...
A. 13 September 2013: Hello. I think you must take her health more seriously than your own needs in this relationship. I get the feeling from your words that you are probably making her worse just now. You need to step away and give her space to heal herself. ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex? Please help!
Q. I left my ex last January. She moved to be with me from another province 2 years ago. Things were not working, but I loved her very much. After months of still spending time with her bc she had no friends or family here, and her crying and begging, ...
A. 12 September 2013: So, you are building up this story that she rejected you then went on to two totally inappropriate boyfriends and now she is miserable and using your passport problem as an opportunity to attract you back?
It will be YOU chasing HER up if you do c... (read in full...)
Any tips for coping with feelings of jealousy and insecurity over ex-husband's new girlfriend?
Q. Any tips for coping with feelings of jealousy and insecurity over ex-husband's new girlfriend? I know it shouldn't bug me, and I don't want my ex back, he was a very bad husband (putting it mildly). I think my ex is dating now and the woman I thin...
A. 6 August 2013: Remember, a public profile is happy-shiny-people-holding-hands. In private your ex-husband is your ex-husband.... (read in full...)
Twin Flames...A real or imagined concept?
Q. Do you believe in the concept of twin flames / soul mates? Do you think you've met yours? What does it feel like? Examples of movies that depict this kind of love are: The English Patient The End of The Affair Dangerous Beauty Brokeback ...
A. 6 August 2013: This only happens in a frustrated relationship. I met a girl who I felt was "all right". After it ended she became my true love. If she had not ended it she probably would not have got much further than "all right".... (read in full...)
Without my glasses I didn't realise she was much older. How do I extricate myself tactfully?
Q. Dear all, I do not know how I have found myself in this situation... I met this woman at salsa and discovered we work for the same organization. She was kinda pretty and interesting, so I kept in touch with her. We had lunch at the park 5 days ...
A. 5 August 2013: What is wrong with the truth in this situation? Tell her you want to date with fun but do not feel you want this as a long term relationship? Maybe she just wants some fun too.
The risk you take in following that is you might end up with one of y... (read in full...)
What did her text mean? Was it good? Or not so good?
Q. Hello I,m a 52 year old man , and I,ve just been on a first date with a woman. we had lunch, and at the end of the date, I said can I text or call you and she said yes, but a few hours later, before I texted her to thank her ...
A. 31 July 2013: I thought it reads coy but positive. She is trying to not go over the top. Looks like a 2nd date will be accepted.... (read in full...)
His new girlfriend news has set me back a bit.
Q. Dear Cupid I haven't been on here for a while as I've been doing so well, but today I feel a bit unsettled because I've just found out that my ex has a new girlfriend. I'm not going to contact him or anything like that, and I wish him well, ...
A. 29 July 2013: Hello, well, I am sure you are not still "friends" on FB with him but sounds like you checked out his profile. Use the block feature. Due to his crazy behaviour this new GF sounds a bit faked but even it were real should it be a bad thing for you?... (read in full...)
Do you guys still hate or forgive your exes after being dumped?
Q. So my ex and I were in LDR and he dumped me out of no where a couple of months ago. I've been through every phase,grief,hating him, missing him and now trying to forgive him. I don't know what to do is better for me. I mean we've been through a ...
A. 13 July 2013: Rather than "hating" you should rethink the relationship in your head and focus on his negative qualities. You can start by seeing the selfishness that is inherent with his rejection. You seem to already be doing this - keep on those lines.... (read in full...)
Am I not over my ex?
Q. My girlfriend sometimes brings up exes in conversation and this stirs up old feelings for my ex who I got over last year after a year and a half - is that normal? I strted going out with my girlfriend a few months after i got over her. Does it mean ...
A. 12 July 2013: I commiserate as I find myself in the same situation at the moment. Doubly bad for you as you miss her son. It is difficult in this age of social media to block people out of your life.
I suggest you accept it is normal to have feelings but mayb... (read in full...)
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