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My mom breastfeeds my brother in public and I hate it!

Q.   I hate it when my mom breastfeeds my baby brother in public. What should I do? She has done it several times. Why the hell would she wanna do it in public? She's crazy. It embarrasses the hell out of me. It's also disgusting. Is there a way I ca...

A.   26 June 2012: Look y'all, if the baby is hungry, she's gonna feed it. In public, it doesn't matter. At home it doesn't matter. That's what they're for, and I know it's awkward at your age, but don't ask her to stop. Believe me, if the baby is crying, sometimes ... (read in full...)

Slept with my best friend, now what?

Q.   I have had a male best friend for 6 years. There has always been a sexual tension and we both have always been attracted to each other but have kept it platonic/ PG13 because I think we both knew we were scared and not ready to explore that side of ...

A.   26 June 2012: If he truly wanted to, and he's had feelings for you...then your not just another girl...I recommend further exploring your relationship...it will hopefully lead to good things. Don't make it awkward, and just face it like you would normally, and ... (read in full...)

I'm a 20 year old virgin...is that a turn off?

Q.   I'm 20 years old and I'm in college. I've never had sex because I've never had a boyfriend and never wanted to sleep with random guys. No one ever believes me when I tell them I've never had sex mainly because I go out/party/drink a lot and ...

A.   21 June 2012: I wouldn't see it as a turn off, butler me ask you this: is it a turn off for you if a guy is a virgin at 20?... (read in full...)

Do I give my ex the 100th chance he wants, or a fresh start with someone I know will treat me better?

Q.   I have a bit of a dilemma with two boys, me and my ex (j) who I've been on and off with for 9 months now and we have had some really bad relationship problems, and i was crazy about him but he has broke my heart so many times over the last 7-8 ...

A.   5 June 2012: Your answer is in your title. If one treats you better than the other, then he's the one you should be with. And if you don't want to be in a relationship with your ex, then don't be.... (read in full...)

I always back off when things get real, and he is a good guy ...

Q.   A guy that I've had an ongoing flirtation with has told me that he's falling in love with me, after I started to lose interest. The thing is that he is very sweet, he has been hurt before, and he's very attentive- a "good guy", even if he's not...

A.   5 June 2012: I've been put through it before. Im the same way. Can't open up. Feel awkward in social situations. Relationships are increasingly harder to both become involved in, and to continue. While I could just sit here and say the same old: listen to y... (read in full...)

I'm 17 and don't know if I want to lose my virginity or not

Q.   I'm 17 and basically, confused about weather I want to loose my virginity or not. I'm one of the oldest of my friends and I'm the only one to be still a virgin. I know that at least a small part of me wants to loose it, but the other half of me is ...

A.   2 June 2012: Ive got to say you should wait...I can't get too deep into this conversation, because a lot of women who read this would get mad, and some guys too. But yeah, just wait and do the world a favor. People need to stop having sex so young. It ruins ... (read in full...)

Looking at live people online having sex is wrong, but seeing naked girls dance and grind on men is ok?

Q.   Ok, So I was on here yesterday and saw a question about a girl who's boyfriend was looking at online porn chat shows. Almost everyone replied and said that he was wrong and that isn't appropriate in a relationship; that he was taking it a step too ...

A.   1 June 2012: I'm a guy, and i dontbsee what the big deal is. It's the human body. Nudity is the natural state. I could go to a strip club today and not feel a thing, because I separate sex from nudity. But in my past experience, any guy who would continue t... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   31 May 2012: Eventually...eventually...... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   31 May 2012: What makes sex such a big deal? And why can't I let it go that I'm stuck being a virgin, and I will be for God knows how long...? And how long can it possibly take? I'm tired of missing out on everything in life. I've never been drunk, never gotten ... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   30 May 2012: Why is sex an "intimate act"? And what does "waiting for that special someone" even mean? If it's just waiting to meet someone you want to lose it to, then how many special someone's can there possibly be?... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   28 May 2012: I've been getting a lot of advice recently about sex and virginity...I don't know how to feel about it anymore. Some people say it's a big deal, others say it's not. I'm getting tired of people saying "wait for the right person" though. How can I ... (read in full...)

Are sex and a relationship different or the same thing?

Q.   I just want to know what guys think of this... Are sex and a relationship different or the same thing for you as a man? Which one do you usually choose and can you tell us why? ...

A.   27 May 2012: I agree with Karlos. Sex is an act, while a relationship is an emotional thing. As a guy, and a virgin, I would choose a relationship. I personally have a few problems preventing me from having sex outside of a relationship though, and I'm not the ... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   27 May 2012: It should be illegal to take this long. :P... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   27 May 2012: But one can only take so much refusal before depression sets in, and while it's true that it's not a contest, it damages your self esteem being shot down...a lot of times I feel like I'm just not good enough. :/ but I've been told that before.... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   26 May 2012: Ive always heard that...I dunno though...I just doubt I'd do well with a girl who's attractive enough to have trouble getting a date... .... (read in full...)

Should I ask my mom why she hates my boyfriend?

Q.   Should i ask my mum why she hates my boyfriend? I’ve been him for 18 months however we were friends long before this, however she has never taken to him and is often rude to him and about him. She tells me not to get serious, accuses me of not ...

A.   25 May 2012: Our parents, to a certain extent, will never like our friends, dates, fiancées, lovers, etc. At least, I know mine don't. At the same time, she's known his family for years. Maybe there's something you don't know about them, or maybe she just does... (read in full...)

Wife and I have been married 10 years. Should we throw out photos of our exs?

Q.   My wife and I have been together for over 10 years but have just had some old possessions dropped off at our house by our parents / parents in law. Funny timing that they all dropped off boxes at about the same time. A lot of this is stuff fr...

A.   25 May 2012: Memories are just that-memories. I think to some extent everyone remembers their exes. Because,to a certain extent, thinking about the last can make most people happy. Bt it's a personal choice. If you both decide it's better to get rid of them, or ... (read in full...)

It's great when we're together, but when we're apart I question the relationship

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years. I know he’s the one because we click. Yesterday he took me to the lake and we had a picnic. He told me I stole his heart and he always wants me to keep it. He is just about the nicest guy I have ...

A.   25 May 2012: I understand what you mean when you say you don't get to see each other often, as I've been there many times before. All I can tell you is that your feelings will change every day. One day you'll want to be with him the entire day, the next it's no ... (read in full...)

When I was reluctant to de-flower her she seemed to turn off me. I love her. What do I do?

Q.   i love this girl...we met online and started dating for over one year... i told her everything about myself on how i left my rich and balanced family to live in a tough place, because of the problem i have with my dad... she accepted me. Then one d...

A.   25 May 2012: I recommend doing something people would call romantic. Sometimes that spark needs a jump to keep going. Do something she doesn't expect. Something you know will make her remember those feelings from before. Girls love that stuff. As for the vir... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   25 May 2012: But that's the problem...I don't just focus on sex or the popular girls. They're out of my league, and while sex has always been a big thing with me, I've more been looking for someone who wasn't bat crap crazy. No luck there either. I'm out of high ... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   25 May 2012: I hate that thought...learning process...it's embarrassing...having to "learn from experience". It just makes things worse. And what you said is the main problem. About the no other woman thing...it's a major downer, especially for me. I've always ... (read in full...)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

Q.   If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...

A.   23 May 2012: It's all about whether or not you can "get some". If you can't, then you can't consider yourself an adult. People who can get with a girl now days...they're the ones we look up to. They're the popular people who we all wish we could be. Virgins are ... (read in full...)

Why shouldn't I be embarrassed about being a virgin?

Q.   Hey, I just have a quick question. I asked everyone here a while back whether I should tell my girlfriend that I'm a virgin or not and people kept telling me I shouldn’t be embarrassed about it. Why? Why shouldn’t I? Most guys loose their the vcar...

A.   23 May 2012: I'm also a virgin, I'm 18, and I disagree with everyone above. Virginity is a curse, and a burden. And it is a big deal. There is an emotional attachment that comes with sex. That's why relationship break-ups hurt more when your sleeping with the ... (read in full...)

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