My younger giflriend has not told her family about me
Q. Hello I am in a relationship with a lady in Belgium. We have been seeing each other for a year now. She is going through a divorce. What I wish to have advice on is that nobody knows about me except her two close friends, she will not tell her ...
A. 30 December 2005: The only person that can tell you whats going on is your girlfriend. If she loves you deeply then it important not to put too much pressure on her at what must be a difficult time but you deserve to know if there is a future. Maybe she is at a time ... (read in full...)
My best friend is dating an illegal immigrant!
Q. My best friend is dating an illegal immigrant. He told her a while back and they split up for a while as she was worried about her job in the NHS being in jeopardy if he was found out. They have now got back together and have agreed that if he gets ...
A. 30 December 2005: I don't know the legalities but it sounds like your friend has made up her mind to do this anyway. Just be there for her. Try the citizens advice bureau for a legal answer and youre friend is lucky to have such a caring friend as you... (read in full...)
My kids love my ex, but I remember the lies and arguments. Should I just forget it and settle down with him?
Q. I've been seriously dating him for 4yrs. We lived together for 1yr. We split into different houses b/c of the children arguing, he wouldn't get his divorce, he lied for a yr about a situation I took seriously., he never helped out financially, ...
A. 30 December 2005: You've answered your own questions. You would have to pretend he is everything. You would happily settle down with him - spmeone like him. I think you know in your heart this man will not change and that there is someone better for you out there. ... (read in full...)
Think I've blown it with my new girlfriend when we talked about "cheating"
Q. My girlfriend has always said that people who cheat on there partners are disgusting. She has always felt strongly about this. Her friend who stays with her partner because he is well off and treats him terible slept with an ex boyfriend the other ...
A. 30 December 2005: Your girlfriend probably made a point of telling you that she hates cheats as a warning not to cheat and to let you know that she wouldn't stand for it. When the situation doesn't affect her then she is obviously more lenient.
If she loves you then... (read in full...)
My ex says the child is mine, but it can't be! And I can't afford a paternity test.
Q. Dear Cupid, My Ex recently has told me she is pregnant with my child, however at the time she should have conceived I was having a gay relationship many miles away. I don't dare ask if it really is mine, and I can't afford the test nor am I...
A. 30 December 2005: Well if you keep quiet then you are going to spend the rest of your life with a child thinking you are its daddy and maybe paying maintenance.
It depends on how long you were away for as the date I concieved with my daughter was changed by two week... (read in full...)
I'm worried my online friend will return to his girlfriend
Q. hi i met someone online, 5 years ago but that time we couldnt meet cuss he wasnt ready for a true relation yet. so he moved on and met his gf, but we carried on chatting as friends.but i also had a bf but we broke up. when we were chatting he told ...
A. 30 December 2005: I dont think he's sure enough of you to commit and I think this could make you very unhappy in the long run. If he was telling the truth about not being ready to commit then how come he met and fell in love with this girl afterwards.
I would be brav... (read in full...)
Losing my mind over my relationship... My girl says she wants "a break"
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for the past one-year. She is 28 and I am 31. The relationship was great, except for a few minor quibbles. A couple of times I was jealous – once when some male friend of hers grabbed her at a party, and some ...
A. 30 December 2005: Don't take offense but you come across in your letter as very intense. It sounds like she wants to break up . When someone says they want a break they're usually on their way out of the relationship and its the cowards way of saying "lets not see ... (read in full...)
He dumped me by text and now I don't know what to think...
Q. I met a guy at a college party three months ago. It was so obvious that he liked me but at the time I wasn't sure if I liked him as I had just split with my last boyfriend. He gave me his number but I didn't give him mine. I called him three days ...
A. 30 December 2005: The whole point of dating is getting to know someone and you obviously don't know each other that well yet. His actions do flag up some warning bells about jealousy and immaturity (using your friend as a go in between) but you have to make the ... (read in full...)
What does the winking, wedding-ring-wearing, man mean?
Q. There is this man i have been friendly with for the best part of a year. Though we have never specifically met up alone. when we see each other he will be as friendly as ever, even giving me a touch on the shoulder or back whenever i've seen him ...
A. 30 December 2005: He is a married man who likes the attention of someone who isn't his wife. Maybe he's enjoying a bit of safe flirting or maybe he isn't faithful to his wife. Either way then I'd steer clear. It's you and his wife who will get hurt most... (read in full...)
Is it safe yet to talk to girl who my mom embarrased me in front of?
Q. Last year I asked a girl out 2 years below me and I she came to my door and I thought she was going to say yes, but my mother said i couldnt come out so I never found out, and then after everyone had teased me and kept asking her, she just hated ...
A. 29 December 2005: Yeah , go for it. Whats the worst that could happen. You're both older now so take a chance, the worst that happens is that she says no , and you're old enough now to just be able to take it with good grace if she does Hope she says yes... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is insanely jealous... Is there a solution?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over two years. For the first year we lived near each other and now he lives three hours away. We are both in our thirties. Our problem is this: we argue constantly often times blowing up into huge ...
A. 29 December 2005: If he denies being insecure and thinks his behaviour is okay then there isn't a snowmans chance in hell this could work. It will only get worse (trust me I've been there)Its common to be perversely flattered ( ie he loves me soooo much that he's ... (read in full...)
I really like her but how do I convince her not to worry about the age gap?
Q. ok so im an 18 year old male and I really really like an older girl. In fact shes 23.....I can't seem to think that there is this chemistry between us but this age thing seems a "taboo" to her. WE get along great we are the best of friends and I ...
A. 29 December 2005: Maybe its not the age and she just wants to take things slowly. I'd move in for the kiss and see how things go... (read in full...)
Love or friendship?
Q. dear cupid i have been seeing my best mate of 9 years' girlfriend and she told me she loves me and i think i love her... what should i do friendship or love...
A. 29 December 2005: The first thing she needs to do is to leave your friend. It's not fair on him. When things have died down and he is dating again then I would maybe think about asking him if he would mind you asking this girl out... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep in contact? Is he just using me for sex?
Q. I was with my ex boyfriend for 18 months. It was an on/off relationship because one minute he wanted me, the next he didn't. I also felt like he was using me for sex. He could not make his mind up about whether he wanted me or not and carried ...
A. 29 December 2005: I think he got used to being able to pick you up and drop you when it suited him. You were a nice safety net and he could keep you in the background knowing he could always come back for a bit if things elsewhere in his life didn't work out. Then ... (read in full...)
My parents object to idea of me living with my partner before marriage... I'm 23 so what should I do?
Q. I have been dating a really good man for a few months. Things are going well, but we still have issues that we are working through. At the end of the school year, I might be moving and he has offered to come with. By that time, we will have been ...
A. 29 December 2005: They will get over it. Do what makes you happy. ... (read in full...)
I will do ANYTHING to impress people!
Q. Basically, I have a huge problem. I am a try-hard, and will do ANYTHING to impress people. I lie, exaggerate, and make things up to make people like me. I realise that the whiff of desperation is hanging around me, but I can't help myself! ...
A. 29 December 2005: Hmmm , my suggestions is to join an intenet friendship site and make a promise to yourself not to lie or exaggerate. Maybe when you see you can make online pals by just being truthful then you will be able to apply it to the real world... (read in full...)
Should I give up dysfunctional relationship with father of my child for new man at work?
Q. Hi At present I am in a relationship which I am not happy with and he is the father of my child (we have lived together for 12 yrs). I recently started a job and met a guy who is in the same situation as me. When we first met he told me he was n...
A. 29 December 2005: Two seperate issues overlapping. In all honesty - cpould your current relationship be saved if this other man was not on the scene. If the answer is no then leave the man you are with. It's not fair to use him as a safety net until something better ... (read in full...)
Should I book the round the world flight!?
Q. Dear Cupid I really like a man who lives on the other side of the world, thinking about booking a flight going over there rapping on his door and asking him out on a date. Do you think I should??...
A. 29 December 2005: Would emailing not be cheaper!!! Also much less likely not to freak the poor man out if he isn't interested... (read in full...)
Out of state ex-girlfriend and mother of my child won't return my calls!
Q. my ex girlfriend lives in another state. she got pregnant by me and everything was fine for a while. i was going to save up money and move out there, to be by her. not with her, but by her to help out during and help raise my child. but all of a ...
A. 29 December 2005: Sounds like one of two things. She is either trying to force your hand and hopes that by cutting off contact then you will decide that rather than lose your child you will want to be in a relationship with her again OR she has met someone else and ... (read in full...)
We married young. She left with no sign at all... Is there anything I can do to save our marriage?
Q. if anyone could help please do so this is my question me and my wife started dating when she was only 15 and i was 16 we date right at six years before we married we married in sept 2005 an when we married i change as far want to go party and hun...
A. 29 December 2005: You poor thing. I don't think there is a lot that you can do really. She will either have her space and realise that she wants to settle down with you or she will have her space and decide not to come back so I think this is something that you have ... (read in full...)
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