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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I went out on monday night for a student night and I met this really nice girl where we danced.I bought her a drink. She had a friend who was dancing with my friend but he left somewhere and I ended up going to see one of my other friends, but I saw her later on in the night, when i was going to be going soon. So i handed her my business card with my number on it and told her to text me if she wanted to.She hasn't message me yet but I came across a photo of her on the club page from the night we were out and because she was tagged I found her facebook where she had said she'd broken her phone a few days beforeShould I message her on facebook or should I just leave it and if its meant to be let it be? Im only asking, because she seemed genuinely interested in me, thanks everyone.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 March 2017):
 I would love to know OP did you message her?
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reader, rasblak  +, writes (25 February 2017):
Nothing to lose, go ahead and do it. It can only be a learning experience.Things to consider:i) For all the talk of 'men can just have fun and leave it at that; women have emotions bla bla bla...' , many women can very well see last night was last night, today morning is not last night.ii) Apart from the dancing, how did the conversation with her over that drink you offered her go?iii) "I bought her a drink. She had a friend who was dancing with my friend but he left somewhere and I ended up going to see one of my other friends, but I saw her later on in the night, when i was going to be going soon. So i handed her my business card with my number on it and told her to text me if she wanted to."Sounds long-winded. I don't hear any mention of you doing or saying or asking anything that would have had a noticeable impact on her.iv) More often than not, giving your number and hoping for her to do the work only leads to loneliness, aka leave that for w*nkers. Man up and convince her that you're worth giving her number to... you'll know when you can ask her for it.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (22 February 2017):
Oh and OP, I'd include in the message how you found her Facebook page through the club. That way it doesn't come across as you spending HOURS stalking her online lol.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 February 2017):
I'd give it a try too.
If she doesn't respond or talk to you then don't message her again, but sending her a:" Hey, had fun dancing and chatting with you the other night" or something like that would be fine.
If she answers in a positive way THEN you can ask her out.
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reader, N91 + ♥, writes (22 February 2017):
 What do you have to lose?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (22 February 2017):
 For crying out loud, just message her! What have you got to lose? Keep it light and casual. Just say hi and ask her if she fancies meeting up for a drink some time. She can only say no. I hope she says yes.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (22 February 2017):
 If you need to ask then you should probably leave it. However if it were me I would try.
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reader, Phil052 +, writes (22 February 2017):
 If it was me, I would! You have nothing to lose, but everything to gain!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2017): Drop in casually to say it was a great party, then play it by ear. It's a yes for me. :) I think it's cute and well within the boundaries of interpersonal etiquette. Good luck.
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