Will he be turned off when he sees me naked?
Q. im scared to let my boyfriend see me without my shit or pants off because im self conscience about my body and the fact that i have "smaller breasts" he went from being with a skinny chick with a D cup to me which im not fat im athletic with a okay ...
A. 11 December 2009: As a guy that prefers smaller breasts over larger, I can vouch that bigger is not always better. So you don't look like his ex... he's not WITH his ex anymore, probably for a reason.
Men like women's bodies, period. If you're even passably... (read in full...)
Why does she sign her emails this way?
Q. There's a girl I like who I've been exchanging emails with. She always responds the same day I send an email and sometimes it takes me a week to write back because these are long emails and I am busy. At the bottoms of her emails she started ...
A. 11 December 2009: I agree with PinkTopaz. She wants to hear from you, but is trying to accept that you might not be as interested in her as she is in you. If you don't respond sooner, making her a priority, she may think you're just not that into her.... (read in full...)
Will being out of his league cause us problems?
Q. I've been with my new boyfriend for about a month and I think he's incredible. The only problem I can see is that he (and everyone else) thinks I'm way out of his league. Can something like that cause problems down the track? The guys I usually go ...
A. 11 December 2009: Funny thing is... EVERYONE is insecure. Fat and ugly people are insecure because they aren't average. Average people are insecure because they aren't models. Models are insecure because they aren't perfect. What matters is not what he looks like, ... (read in full...)
I feel so insecure after his female friend came to him for advice!
Q. well, I have been in a relationship for more than a year now. I love my bf so much. I can't imagine living without him a sec. One his friend is getting divorce( a woman). She came to talk to him. he was giving her advice, and i was here too. before ...
A. 10 December 2009: I've been in a committed long-term relationship before, but still kept my friends (of both genders) and been there for them when needed. Not for one second did I entertain the idea of cheating on my girlfriend. I just didn't give up my preexisting ... (read in full...)
Why are orgasms on my period better?
Q. Why was the orgasms I had today on my period better than they ever were when I am not on it?...
A. 10 December 2009: All I know is that my ex tended to be hornier just before and during her periods. I don't know that she necessarily would have any stronger orgasms, but I wouldn't doubt it's normal.... (read in full...)
Paranoid over size, what are girls honest opinions?
Q. One of my female friends, not a girlfriend but I've known her for a while, knows about my 3 inch "problem" and when she talks to me alone she reassures me that even though I'm "small" in the sexual regions of the body, it truly doesn't matter. O...
A. 10 December 2009: If it helps, most women cannot climax from vaginal penetration anyway, regardless of the size of the man. The best sex a woman can have is oral, tongue and fingers on and in her. Even if you were seven inches long and around, you still might not ... (read in full...)
Alot of sex sometimes without condom equals pregnancy?
Q. My boyfriend and i used the pull out method ,but one night we did it several times, and after he pulled out i would give him a hand job then an hour or less later we did it again. I am not really sure how long its been since that night and we have ...
A. 9 December 2009: Yes, you could be. Please get a pregnancy test.
Pulling out reduces the odds of getting pregnant, but is far less effective than a condom, and even condoms are not 100% effective. Any sex can cause pregnancy, even if you're careful.... (read in full...)
Why do people hate virgins so much?
Q. Why do people hate virgins so much? What did we ever do to be treated the way we are? It just isn't right.I never criticize my friends decision to have sex,so why cant they just respect my choices.It's not as if I'm some kind of saint constantly ...
A. 9 December 2009: I don't know about your circle of friends or even your community, but on this site, there is nothing but love for virgins, congratulations for saving yourself, and support for mature decisions like waiting.
Here, people from the U.S. and Canada, ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my boyfriend's anatomy!
Q. So recently I realized that I'm constantly feeling envious of my boyfriend's sex organs. I don't know what to do, it is a constant obsession that actually interferes with my life. I'm incredibly satisfied in bed, always, and have an orgasm every ...
A. 9 December 2009: Funny. I envy YOU for your organs.
- Women are capable of multiple orgams in a row, whereas men are limited to one (two if lucky) and then a longer cooldown. My most recent girlfriend regularly had six or more orgasms per session. I was happy ju... (read in full...)
Hands jobs and embarassment
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for over five months and just a few days ago i gave him his first hand job (in his life) and he gave me my first(in my life). i have a few questions now though. 1:since it was my first hand job, i feel...
A. 9 December 2009: 1) Most guys I know love to make a girl breathe heavily and even moan. As long as you're not faking it, it's a huge turn on. And really, when receiving manual stimulation, it's normal to yield control and just let him do what he's doing (though ... (read in full...)
Sometimes there's blood when I wipe!
Q. I am really worried. I need your help. Ok, this barely started some time ago, not that long ago, but the problem is that sometimes when i go to the bathroom and then i wipr theres blood. What can this be a sign of ? What shoudl I do ?!...
A. 9 December 2009: That happened to me about a year ago. It was usually just a very small, pencil eraser sized dot, but one day about a silver dollar sized red spot. I went to my doctor and was lucky that it was just very dry skin that was cracking some. But it could ... (read in full...)
Calling all males, can you tell if a girl likes you?
Q. Right. Simple question, more complicated answers I guess. I've read lots of times on here before that men and all males in general are rubbish at noticing signs that a girl likes them. Apparently they have no clue until they're told. I know girls te...
A. 9 December 2009: Yes, we need to be told in no uncertain terms most of the time. A woman can be friendly, ever flirty, without meaning it. More than once, girls have laughed and looked in my eyes and gone for big hugs and asked to see me more and arranged alone time ... (read in full...)
How can I show him he shouldn't be nervous around me?
Q. I am having a big problem. I am in my first year of college and have fallen hard for this amazing guy. We are both crazy about each other. We started messing around but he only wants to please me... He does not ever want me to give him head or even ...
A. 8 December 2009: He sounds like me. I like to give to a girlfriend, to go down for her, to serve her, to be awesome for her, but I don't really feel comfortable getting back because then I feel selfish and greedy. I know it's unpleasant to give a man oral, so I ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to his personality but not neccessarily looks, can this work?
Q. I've met a guy who is very far from my usual type, which I'm aware might be a good thing, and would like advice if you think it's something worth working at. I don't have a great relationship history. Without wanting to come across as arroga...
A. 8 December 2009: Just remember that looks fade, but character can last a lifetime. Even if you marry a man that is the sexiest person on the PLANET, age will change that.
That, and attraction tends to make a person more appealing over time. When you fall in love,... (read in full...)
I could have sex twice a day, is this weird?
Q. Is is bad to want sex more than twice a week? I could easily go it at least twice a day however my boyfriend thinks that is ridiculous. I am a reasonable guy and understand we're different and by no means expect us to ever have sex two or more ...
A. 8 December 2009: Twice a week is not a lot, though it's more than I had with my ex (who was a once/week person). I was frustrated and sad, but that's just how she was. (I'm straight, but don't think it has much bearing on this.) I do not think 2x/week is "quite a ... (read in full...)
I'm embarassed that I am still a virgin but personally I don't want to lose it yet!
Q. please help! i am 16, and i've not really had much relationship experience. I've liked guys a lot and almost everyone in my grade has lost their virginity. I definatly don't want to lose mine yet, but what about peer pressure? Also, the guys i like, ...
A. 8 December 2009: I'm 25, male, fairly popular with a group of friends that somehow just keeps getting bigger and bigger, I've dated and even been engaged, and yet I'm a virgin. There's NO shame in that (and in my case, it was also my decision as I turned down ... (read in full...)
Just what do guys find sexy in females?
Q. What are good ways to tell someone you want to have sex with them without coming on too strong? And what is sexy to guys.....
A. 8 December 2009: What was the biggest turn on for me was knowing that my girl wanted me and wasn't just LETTING me have her. If you don't want to come on too strong, you could just wear something sexy (anything from no bra and loose low-cut shirt, to full blown ... (read in full...)
I am soooooo sexually frustrated!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. He's 20 and I am almost 19. In the beginning of our relationship, we got physical quickly and I loved it. After a couple months it died down, due on his part, and nothing ever happened except ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hon, as much as I'd LOVE to say, "Do this or that and he'll come around," it wouldn't be true. Other than talking to him, laying out honestly how you feel and what you would like and how important things are to you. Be honest, but gentile, and let ... (read in full...)
Why are guys so interested in breasts?
Q. Why are guys so interested in breasts. I have to live with them and why are they so special. My boyfriend is always talking about them and he even gave them a nickname. I get a little uncomfortable sometimes and at others i love it. I always think ...
A. 8 December 2009: No idea. I love them and have no idea why I love them, nor do any of my friends. Even gay men I know love breasts inexplicably. I am thrilled to see a pair, but after 20 seconds I remember that there's not much to DO with them. They look and feel ... (read in full...)
I need to go from small to bigger.
Q. ok,so me and my BF was pose to have sex but i was to small(my hole).do yall no how i can get bigger and does this mean ill never have real sex?...
A. 7 December 2009: As long as he goes slowly at first, makes sure he's focused on your comfort more than his own lust, and as long as you're well lubed, you'll be fine. Just don't let him go straight for sex. He should spend some time on foreplay first, both out of ... (read in full...)
He spends more time with his male friends than he does with me!
Q. Is it normal for your boyfriend to hang out with his friends 3 times a week after work without you? I know guys need time out with the boys alone sometimes but is 3 times a week to much? He only see's me twice a week on his days off. Thanks for any ...
A. 5 December 2009: Repeat question. Original is here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-spends-2-3-night-a-week-with.html
Please see my original answer there.... (read in full...)
Angry about the double standards of sex
Q. Ok, I don't want to be polemic here, but I'm really shocked and angry with the double standard. You see, my boyfriend suffers with retroactive jealousy, even though I wasn't a slut (I was a virgin when we met, granted, I was just 17 so it was normal ...
A. 4 December 2009: I'm a male, and I've only gone to third base (I'm 25 now) and I've only kissed two girls in my life (both inside of serious relationship. My casual dates did not get kisses).
My first girlfriend had been sexual before meeting me. I didn't care, I ... (read in full...)
13, want a boyfriend and want sex but think I'm frigid
Q. right so i am 13. i ahve no boyfriend and i am really really fridgid, i am scared to even talk to a boy when i am going out with them. but i really want to have sex i tihnk i am phisiclly and emotionally ready, but its just trying to get over my ...
A. 4 December 2009: You're not frigid, you're just bashful. That's normal for a 13 year old to be a little awkward around the other sex. But you are MUCH too young to be concerned that you haven't had sex yet. If you hit MY age and still haven't had a boyfriend or sex, ... (read in full...)
I miss my clingy ex-boyfriend
Q. I just broke up with my extremely clingy boyfriend, and I feel so lonely without him. The relationship became abusive because of his jealousy and clinginess. I know that the best thing for me to do was break up with him. I lost most of my friends ...
A. 4 December 2009: I just got out of a several year relationship with a girl that insisted on seeing me six days a week, or more, and left me little to no time for anyone or anything else. I know the breakup was right, and I know it's healthier for me without her, but ... (read in full...)
Is 2 years too big an age difference?
Q. Im 17 and im in love with a girl shes 15, is 2 years a huge age gap for us if we date? ...
A. 4 December 2009: I realize that the acceptible age difference is much smaller when you're younger. While 10 years is no big deal if you're 45 and 55, it would be a huge difference at 15 and 25. But even while in high school, 2 years isn't that large of a gap. As ... (read in full...)
Do guys like girls with make-up, or without?
Q. Many girls wear a lot of make up and some do not wear any at all. I was just wondering if guys like it when girls wear make up or don't. ...
A. 4 December 2009: Personal preference? I've always favored natural. A little makeup here or there, or on special occasions, or when we're going somewhere formal is fine, but day to day I am happier when a girlfriend isn't wearing any. (If she wants lipstick, that's ... (read in full...)
He spends 2-3 night a week with his friends instead of me. Is that normal?
Q. Hi I have a question: is it normal for your guy to spend 2 or 3 times a week with his friends after work and not with you? My guy see's me 2 times a week on his days off and sometimes 3 times a week if he has time during a break at one of his jobs. ...
A. 4 December 2009: I'd say that's not unusual. Sounds like he spends as many nights with his friends as he does with you. Some girls would be frustrated at seeing him as MUCH as you do, others upset at seeing him as LITTLE. You are a bit more clingy, looking for a ... (read in full...)
She fulfills my fantasies but wont be my girl!
Q. We were together for 4 years. I see her frequently. It seems like we're dating again exclusively, but she "doesn't want a boyfriend right now." So, she started talking dirty to me one night, and we got into it. It was weird at first, so I stopped. ...
A. 3 December 2009: Sometimes a girl just wants to be Friends with Benefits. If she likes the sex but says she isn't interested in being in a relationship, it's probably that simple. Women can want no-strings-attached sex just the same as men can.... (read in full...)
Why could I barely walk after my fourth orgasm yesterday?
Q. Well I had at least 4 orgasms yesterday and the last one seemed so intense that I could barely walk when I got up? Why and how is this possible? Does anyone know what might have caused this?...
A. 3 December 2009: That happened more than once with my last girlfriend. If I was having a good night and gave her a few really good ones, she'd wobble and have trouble the next day sometimes. I always took it as a compliment. I figure it's the same thing as working ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me 8 times. Will he grow out of it?
Q. My boyfriend is extremely attractive, like the hottest boy I have ever laid eyes on in my life. He's got the tightest body made of solid muscle and the cutest face and he is sooooooooo much the best sex I have ever had a million times over. The only ...
A. 3 December 2009: You said he's "cheated on me with at least 8 different girls that I know of" but what caught my eye is "that I KNOW OF". He's cheated at LEAST eight times in over two years. If someone is a cheater, they're a cheater. It's who that person is. It's ... (read in full...)
I don't believe pretty women with breasts make good wives!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, There's a song that goes "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.." Homely women aren't as sought after and they're not as likely to cheat on a husband or boyfriend. It so...
A. 2 December 2009: I've know girls that were pretty bland looking that had no trouble cheating regularly. I've know amazing looking women that never cheated in their lives. Though admittedly, the great looking women I'm talking about never really defined themselves ... (read in full...)
How do I know what is more important
Q. Which do you think is more important? Marrying your best friend, or someone who is great in bed?...
A. 2 December 2009: I am far more concerned that the woman I marry is my best friend in the end. I want to be able to share everything with her: my hopes and dreams, my fears and worries, my greatest joys, my interests (within reason), my humor, my deepest secrets, ... (read in full...)
I'd like to hear from older virgins
Q. Hey! Older virgins, I need you to come out of the shadows for a second and talk to me. I'm 22 and I made the decision a while ago to try and wait till I'm married to have sex, or at least a strong relationship. I think in the long run I've made the ...
A. 2 December 2009: I'm 25, male, Christian, just got dumped by a fianceé, and still have my virginity. (As it happens, that dumping happened a week after she gave her virginity to someone else. She's 22.)
I know a number of fellow virgins, some for religiou... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm unless I am thinking of my fantasy!
Q. me and my boyfriend love eachother and have been together for almost a year. everytime we have sex its good and i enjoy it, but i can only seem to orgasm when i think of this fantasy, it leaves me feeling guilty after because i should be thinking of ...
A. 17 November 2009: You don't mention what sort of sex you're having. If you're having vaginal penetration, then you're lucky to be able to orgasm from it at all, fantasy or no. Something like 75% of women can't. It may be that your fantasy is what pushes you over the ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my husband's relationship with my daughter-in-law?
Q. I am having a problem with my husband and daughter in-law. It seems that they have a seperate relationship that I am not a part of they can talk for hours and hours about things I have nothing to do with my husband says he should have a seperate ...
A. 17 November 2009: Your husband is close with your daughter-in-law. I take it this is his natural daughter then? It's a good thing that he has a close relationship with his child. That's normal and healthy, as long as the three of you have a relationship TOO. I would ... (read in full...)
Husband keeps graphic photos of his two ex wives!
Q. My husband of eight years, soon to be ex, has kept a collection of pictures and videos of the sex life he shared with his two ex wives. These are very graphic -- he describes himself as perverted -- and would qualify as hard core porn, not love ...
A. 16 November 2009: I took some pictures and short movies of my ex-fiancée back when we were together. Nothing terribly explicit, but some nudity and brief (30 second) clips of foreplay. I destroyed them when we broke up. Even though I'm single, I just don't think it's ... (read in full...)
Do boys like large breasts?
Q. heyy...... i am 14 years old and i have larger tits than my friends ... i am 1 38dd and i am still growing will lads like em cuz the are so big ??? ...
A. 15 November 2009: That depends entirely on the guy. Some will love them and do anything to be around you. Others will dislike them. Some truly do not care how large they are.... (read in full...)
Do I owe my ex closure?
Q. [Moderator Note: Additional information posted under heading 'Am I being unfair to my ex-girlfriend?' Link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-being-unfair-to-my-ex-girlfriend.html] Hi I'm in a bit of a quandry. I was with my ex for 6 ye...
A. 14 November 2009: Yes, you owe closure. You don't have to get back together, but after six years, she deserves to have her feelings taken into account here. She's a person too.... (read in full...)
Why do we watch our loved ones sleep?
Q. What do you think is the reason why people will watch their loved one sleep? I think it's sweet, but I was wondering why they do that?...
A. 13 November 2009: Because when I watched my old fiancée sleep, she wasn't wearing any forced expression or any smiles from jokes or frowns from stress or any mask at all. She was just her, totally relaxed and peaceful and beautiful. There's something innately ... (read in full...)
I've never cum when I've had sex with my boyfriend... help!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for almost two months now and i genuinly trust him and enjoy our sex life however i don't think ive ever come. i can feel the build up during sex and really enjoy it but then suddenly it just seems to stop or i feel a ...
A. 12 November 2009: Hmmm, that's no fun then. Without getting too explicit, I know that my ex liked it the best when I used both oral and manual on her at the same time to satisfy her both inside and outside all at once.
But I have to ask: Have you been able to clima... (read in full...)
I've never cum when I've had sex with my boyfriend... help!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for almost two months now and i genuinly trust him and enjoy our sex life however i don't think ive ever come. i can feel the build up during sex and really enjoy it but then suddenly it just seems to stop or i feel a ...
A. 12 November 2009: Foreplay. Seriously. Whether you've climaxed with other men before him and just can't with this guy, or whether you have never came from vaginal sex, it's all about the oral. Ask him to try giving you oral sex and see if that works better. The ... (read in full...)
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