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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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He has two jobs and I am feeling neglected because I don't see him! Am I being selfish?
Q. ok am i just being selfish? my boyfriend is working two jobs, though i'm pretty sure he only really needs to be doing one, and he works about 60 hours a week. but when he comes home he does more work. all week, all weekend. he has no time for me at ...
A. 9 June 2007: Have you told him this? as he might not realise how it is affecting you, if not try sitting down and telling him how you are feeling and if he does not want to do anything about it you might have to look at your relationship and wether it's going ... (read in full...)
Temper problems! Can anyone please give me any advice to control my anger and not argue so much?
Q. i have a very bad temper. nearly every single day i have an argument with my friends over things like football. we're all football crazy, so i hate bein criticized, so if i hear any of them complaining i just snap and shout back and shut them up. ...
A. 9 June 2007: I would suggest a visit to your gp explain the problem to them and see if they can get you referred to anger management, i also think you are great coming out and admitting that you have a problem and wanting to get it sorted.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He was a serial cheat but things changed with us...until recently!!!
Q. hi, I need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. Before we were a couple we were in the same circle of friends for also a year and i knew his ex girlfriend. I know he was a serial cheat and a womaniser when we were bot...
A. 9 June 2007: I realise you probably really like this man (if he can call himself that) but why wasre your time and energy on someone you will never be able to 100% trust?
Do your self a favour and get rid of him and find someone that you can trust and who will... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend at work, that she has really bad body odor?
Q. ok i know this isnt relationship related but id really appreciate any help. i have a friend who i work with but she has really bad body odour. its not just after we have been working (our job involves lots of physical labour) but its all the time ...
A. 9 June 2007: The only thing i can suggest is if you don't want to embarrass her is you go and speak to the managerand get them to approach her as it is their place if it is effecting the way people are at work.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to go about giving him a BJ with braces and a small mouth!!?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for some time now... we hold hands, kiss, cuddle, and have gone a little bit farther than that but not much farther because i told him i was not yet comfortable with the whole idea. Anyways, i'm finally ready to ...
A. 8 June 2007: personally due to your age i think you should wait till your braces come off there is no rush to do any thing like that and if he is putting no pressure on you then thats good.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
We got back together after his cheating, but he still continues to chat sexily with others!!!!
Q. I have gotten back with my boyfriend of two years. We went through a hard stage of cheating. He says he wants to be with me but behind my back he is messaging other women asking to 'start talking' with them. I even caught him telling his ex she ...
A. 8 June 2007: these things are most certainly not insignificant, if he can't stop doing this and be totally 100% faithful to you then get rid of him because there are many men out there that can and will be totally faithful to one person.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Everytime we get intimate, she says it feels "weird and not right." I feel as if I'm in limbo - where is this relationship going?
Q. Hello, The girl has been married previously in a 5 year relationship that ended 2 years ago. I have been dating her for 5 months now but every time we get intimate it feels "weird and not right" on her end. Which I cannot explain as she c...
A. 7 June 2007: It's very easy to have these walls when you have been in a marriage and it has ended, and sex with another person does feel weird as you have been with someone else for a long time. You have not said she is being off with you and if she is not ... (read in full...)
How can we get along while living together before marriage? We've almost broken up several times so far!!
Q. my boyfriend and I just celebrated our 8 month anniversary yesterday. When we were at our 4 month we decided to move in together. I know it was kinda quick but we have lived together ever since. When we did not live together we got along so great. ...
A. 7 June 2007: It's a fantastic idea to live together before marriage because it;s not until you do that that you find out everything about each other, noone can tell you what he want or how you can make him happy the only thing i can suggest to you is you both ... (read in full...)
Could I have missed my period because of exam stress?
Q. I just wondered if any one could tell me if there's something wrong with me or if its just my hormones or stress - i think i've skipped a period i think my last one was in april 20th and i was expecting my period 2 or 3 weeks into may. My period is ...
A. 7 June 2007: It is possible that this might be the cause for a missed period if you are really that concerned about it i would visit your gp and discuss it with them.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years refuses to attend an important event with me. I have been there for him, in the past...shouldn't he do the same for me?
Q. My boyfriend of almost three years refuses to attend a wedding in my hometown with me. His excuse is that he doesn't want to spend his weekend with a bunch of people he doesn't know. This, to me, spells trouble. The wedding is of my oldest friend ...
A. 7 June 2007: I don;t think you are over reacting at all it's only fair that he should attend with you like you say you would do the same for him, if he can not be supportive of you move on and find someone that can.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm So Confused
Q. My husband serves in the royal navy, last year he went away for 5 months he left when I was three months pregnant and returned 2 weeks before our wedding. We had a lovely wedding, and I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy in November. However I have ...
A. 7 June 2007: unfortunatly it's a male thing, you have not actually heard that he done anything more i take it, i know it can be hurtful but try not to read to much into it it's just abit of fun, you could see it that the fact you found out is a good thing you ... (read in full...)
Are tattoos a turn-on or a turn-off for women?
Q. are tattoos a turnoff for most women? i have one tattoo at the moment, girls don't seem to mind that, but im looking at getting another one on my back, legs and my forearm.... do you think this would be enough to make some girls lose interest...
A. 6 June 2007: some people like them some don't i personally don't because i remember my grandad having them and it being one of his biggist regrets in life, if someone really likes you though it should not make any difference weather you have tattoos or not.
T... (read in full...)
She seems to be ignoring me - do I leave things or keep trying to make contact?
Q. I have been friends with this girl for just under a year and we have always got on well uintill recently. We have both changed jobs and do not see each othr as much as we used too. I do not see her as anything other tha a friend and havce always ...
A. 6 June 2007: To be honest babe why waste your energy on someone thats going to treat you like this after all you have done is be there for her, forget about her she is not worth your attention.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He's 4 years older and wants sex with me..should I agree or not?
Q. ive known this guy for ages and were really close. weve been messin round for ages and now he wants sex the thing is hes 4yrs older than me. should i sleep with him or say no?? plz help xx ...
A. 6 June 2007: Well you are old enough now but it all depends on weather you are ready for it, don't rush into anything you are not 100% sure about, you will know when the time is right.
Be safe.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He left his fiancee for me! Will he do the same to me, someday?
Q. I started seeing a guy who I thought was great turns out he had a fiancee. At that point I was so in love. I tryed to move on but could not he claimed he fell in love with me too, because his fiancee was never home, she was a truck driver. He left ...
A. 6 June 2007: You are not going to find anyone that can give you the answer to that one, enjoy what you have with him and don't let the worry of him doing the same to you ruin what you have if it's meant to be it's meant to be.
Take care.x.... (read in full...)
I still love him but he cheats on me so much! Should I take him back?
Q. Lastt nite my bf finished me bcuz he sed he wud end up gettin drunk on holidayy and cheatin on me he said he still loved me but he didnt wana hurt me by cheatin. i told him if he really loved me he would stop himself from cheatin whatever it takes n ...
A. 6 June 2007: Babe if he can't guarantee to be faithful to you then i would move on and find someone that will be it's only been a short relationship you will get over him very quickly when you meet someone that treats you with the respect you deserve.
Take care... (read in full...)
The married guy at the office uses the same lines on other females he used on me! Should I warn them aboout him?
Q. I work with a very charming and married man who plays around on his wife. I am not proud to say it but I was one of his conquests. I was upset for awhile but have moved on from it now and am in another relationship. It is hard to see him using all ...
A. 6 June 2007: The other women in the office obviously realise he is married so if i were you i would keep quiet and let them make their own mistakes, otherwise it could cause alot of bad feeling in the office and because you said something it would all be ... (read in full...)
Im now 8 weeks pregnant, could it be the man I cheated with or my husbands?
Q. I cheated for the first time the day after my period started. We had unprotected sex. Im now 8 weeks pregnant, could it be the man I cheated with or my husbands? Husband and I had sex 2x's the week I was to of conceived. The doctor states conception ...
A. 6 June 2007: I don't think anyone is going to be able to give you a definate answer on this one afraid your just going to have to wait until the baby is born and then have a paternity test.... (read in full...)
I get a discharge after being fingered....
Q. Almost everytime my boyfriend fingers me there's a brownish discharge. The first time it happened we just assumed he broke my hymen because we just saw a little blood, but then I noticed the unsual discharge whenever I'd use the restroom. There was ...
A. 6 June 2007: discharge is common after sexual stimulation also in the reproductive years it's alot more noticeable so don't concern yourself with it you only need to visit your gp if it's yellowish or green, offensive smelling or it causes itching and then it ... (read in full...)
I'm being put in the middle of an argument between my bf and my friend! I don't want to ruin any relationships - Help!!
Q. i am a female, i have been friends with *george for 6 years. ive been dating *jim for 2 months. *george and *jim are having a disagreement about their roommate situation. when i tell *george that im not getting in the middle of it he acusses me of ...
A. 5 June 2007: Because you have feelings for both of them tell them that they are hurting you by trying to get you to take sides and you don't want to speak to either of them until the situation is sorted out, hopefully this will make them come to their senses and ... (read in full...)
We constantly bicker - is our relationship doomed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years about we fight about stupid things all the time. We can never seem to see eye to eye. Does this mean were just doomed as a couple? Or is there something I can do to stop all of this....
A. 5 June 2007: What you need to do is ask yourself if you are really happy being in a relationship that consists of arguements all the time, ok it's good to argue sometimes but where's the fun in a relationship where it happens too often.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I really want to seperate from my husband, but he's in a terrible physical and emotional state! I don't know if I can do it!
Q. I have been married for 28 years, I fell out of love 10 years ago but haven't left as my husband has always been so dependent on me. Over the years he has got severe back problems and suffers with depression. I have just found the courage to sell ...
A. 5 June 2007: My husband of twelve years has just left me and i must say it is very easy to make the person leaving feel so bad about doing it without even meaning to, it's only been a couple of months for me and although i still love him to bits with the ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged, but my fiance kissed another girl and this other guy has been coming onto me! I'm so confused!!
Q. I am engaged to a guy and with him 8 years im 24 and i am only recently starting to question this im so confused i do not think im happy but if i lost him id be upset. About two months ago he told me he kissed some other girl maybe this is the ...
A. 5 June 2007: This can sometimes happen as you get older you change personally and also what you want from life, it might well be that you both have realised you don't actually want each other anymore but you are kind of stuck in a rut because you have been ... (read in full...)
School is stressing him out so much that he isn't being affectionate with me. Now I'm thinking he doesn't want to be with me at all!
Q. Hi everybody. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a few months, its a long distance relationship but so far so good. My boyfriend is a mature student and is in his last few months of his degree. At the weekend I travelled over to see him I met ...
A. 5 June 2007: It sounds like it is all as he said, the stress of upcoming exams is obviously really getting to him, i would try to take comfort in the fact he has told you he does not want to end it and as soon as it's all over you can concentrate more on your ... (read in full...)
Is there somthing wrong with me or does this happen with most girls?
Q. I'm always discharging. Is there somthing wrong with me or does this happen with most girls? (I'm 18 btw)...
A. 5 June 2007: Discharge is very common in most women during the reproductive years, the amount and nature vary from women to women and at different times of the menstrual cycle, also oral contraceptives can increase or decrease the discharge.
You only need to b... (read in full...)
I thought maybe he called someone after dropping me home and spent a couple of hours with her, am I being paranoid?
Q. I saw my boyfriend on sunday---he slept till 12 noon. We went to his mom's house(he has his own place but sometimes stays there)..he drove me around 7. I call him at 11:15--no answer, i call again at 12--no answer..i text message him and then about ...
A. 5 June 2007: Sounds like you might be being paranoid this is a man you are taking about ( no dig at men meant) but they do have a tendacy to fall asleep alot and they are not generally like us we like contact and they usually are not all that bothered, unless he ... (read in full...)
Me and my ex boyfriend got back together but the trust isn't there
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend got back together but the trust isn't there..he went out with a girl. used her to get to someone else.. mind u the girl he went out with while we were goin out b 4 they kissed.. now he claims thats his sister..and that there ...
A. 5 June 2007: If there's no trust in a relationship then there's no relationship, you can not spend all of your time worrying about what he might or might not be getting up to, your young find someone else that has not treated people in this way.
Take care... (read in full...)
Every time i have sexual intercourse of any sort, when its over, my vagina feels sore and tender.
Q. Every time i have sexual intercourse of any sort, when its over, my vagina feels sore and tender. I've not been sexually active for very long. Is this normal? is there anything i can do to prevent it? and will it eventually stop happening or will ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hopefully you are using protection if you are it could be a reaction to the condom or it could just be that you have not been doing it that long, you could try using lubricant see if that works if not go and see your gp and tell them the problem and ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault? What can I do to better my next relationship?
Q. I love her, but I have to keep it moving. I've been involved with a lady for on and off for about a year. She's definitely the BIGGEST drama queen I've have to deal with. She recently broke up with me because she's jealous of my friends and she felt ...
A. 5 June 2007: No if it's like you have said you most certainly did not do anything wrong and no you do not need to be financially ready for a relationship, sounds like this girl is very up herself and i would forget about her don't let her bring you down, you ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with my ex without fear of losing him again?
Q. hi, my ex boyfriend of around a year talked 2 me today...we've split up last oct. and since then we havent talked, except when recently he sent me a greeting message on an occasion, then afterwards I sent him a message asking on him and his work, la...
A. 5 June 2007: I would say definatly don't contact him again, if he wants anything more from you he will contact you if not it could be that he was just making polite conversation.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I think I have fallen in love with my best friend, but she happens to be a female also.
Q. I think I have fallen in love with my best friend, but she happens to be a female also. We do some of the weirdest things together, and are pretty much connected at the hip. Sometimes it almost seems as if we flirt with each other, always taking ...
A. 5 June 2007: This is something only you can decide what to do, now you could tell her and she could say she feels the same or you could loose her altogether, only you have an idea how this could turn out so be very careful of any advice you are given and don't ... (read in full...)
A girl text my boyfriend the other night, no big deal... it was what he said back to her that's bugging me!!!
Q. A girl my boyfriend used to fool around with text him the other night about graduating law school. No big deal to me but it's what I found out he wrote back that is bugging me. He said things like how are you baby. Can't wait to talk and catch up ...
A. 5 June 2007: It could be perfectly innocent babe as i have a tendacy to call people things like that in text, you say you don't trust men anyway so you have obviously been hurt in the past, but believe me they are not all the same and if you carry on not ... (read in full...)
Would it be wise to get a pregnancy test as I was told that the morning after pill is only 86% effective!
Q. i guess this is a question for the ladies really although any advice would be good. two weeks ago i had unprotected sex, and 2 weeks before that, im not on the pill or any form of contraception so after the last time i went to the doctors and got ...
A. 5 June 2007: tender breasts and spotting are all common with periods and due to the fact you have just taken the morning after pill it could distrupt your period slightly, on the other hand if you are that concerned do a test anyway they are cheap enough now ... (read in full...)
Could taking the morning after pill have made my period late?
Q. Right i am really worried i might be pregnant!! I lost my virginity 2 weeks before i was due for my period.I took the morning after pill But after having sex i bled for a week. Does this mean i come on my period? I never come on when i was due and ...
A. 4 June 2007: The best thing to do is get a pregnancy testing kit, it could be the worry that is delaying your period or it could be the emergency contraceptive, failing that go to see your gp and get them to do a test for you set your mind at rest either way.
T... (read in full...)
What products can I use for my greasy hair? And how do I make my chest appear bigger?
Q. Im a teenager and my hair goes greasy after 1/2 days after washing it. Really annoying, does anyone know anything to help prevent this products to help. Theres head and sholders (for greasy hair)?. Also I think my breasts are rather small does ...
A. 4 June 2007: I have had greasy hair for years ever since i gave birth to my first child and i have tried every product there is and the only thing i have found that works is head and shoulders, every so often i do have a week off where i use something different ... (read in full...)
I have this huge spot on my penis! How do I get rid of it?
Q. i have this huge spot on my penis! it hurts. i've never had sex. and i'm quite clean. why is it there and how do i get rid of it?...
A. 4 June 2007: It could be a boil, i would suggest going to see your gp for a proper diagnosis, don't be embarassed you need to get it sorted.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
We're having an affair - he only talks about my physical aspects! Am I being used?
Q. i have been having an affair for 1 year with a man who has a partner he tells me he loves her but, what does the but mean. also he says one thing but his actions show me something else, he has told me he is smitten with me he also cannot keep his ...
A. 4 June 2007: It sounds to me as though he is having his cake and eating it, i would walk away and try and make good your marriage otherwise alot of innocence people are going to get hurt.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How do I leave this abusive relationship? I'm alone in this country - Please help.
Q. how do i go about leaving an abusive relationship? i am having a problem of having support from family for my situation since they live in different country from me. what do i do? and wher can i turn to?...
A. 4 June 2007: Sorry to ask but is this abuse physical or mental it would help to know for pointing you in the right direction.
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After the divorce I turned into a slob that smokes too much and gains weight like crazy! How can I pull my act together?!
Q. Hi All; It's not a dangerous problem like many i read here but it bothers me and it's affecting my life. Got a divorce about a year ago (it was a relief and i had been the one striving for it for years)but since then i feel i've lost my will p...
A. 4 June 2007: have to second eyeswideopen on this one, been through similar myself recently and i was feeling the same same as you are now, i am currently on anti depressants and feel so much better my life now has meaning and i now do more exercise than i have ... (read in full...)
He is being violent to me and beating me on a regular basis...
Q. Hey i have been with my husband for 3 years although we have been together for 5 I love him very much but last year I went through a really rough time and lost 3 babys altogether the 3rd was an abortion and my husband has been blaming me even though ...
A. 3 June 2007: I think the two of you are very immature due to the fact you are both going behind each others backs and lying to each other, you are obviously both unhappy in your relationship if you are both abbusive to each other do the kids a favour and walk ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to let him play with my breasts even although I'm breast feeding?
Q. bit of a silly question but 2 embarrassed 2 ask anyone, recently had a baby 6 weeks ago was getting intimate with my fella the other nite, 1st time since the baby was born he always enjoyed playing with my breasts but as im breast feeding i dont ...
A. 3 June 2007: Its absolutley fine to let him play with your breasts it will not do you any harm or affect the milk, as long as you are comfortable with it just enjoy it babe.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
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