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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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I'm 15 and I think I've got the first sings of pregnant. Do you think I am?
Q. Im 15, Ive had alot of the first signs of pregnancy like morning sickness, thrown up twice, sick stomach feeling, tiredness, backaches and headaches, Could I be Pregnant?? Please reply soon, I need all the advice I can get!! ...
A. 10 July 2007: Babe you have got off lightly, think yourself lucky and i would suggest you seriously consider getting yourself some form of contraception sorted out as next time you may not be so lucky.
As good as it may sound to have a baby you are far to youn... (read in full...)
Should I believe in a second reading from a medium?
Q. Who believes in psycics/mediums. The first prediction came true, the 2nd reading said the same as the first. Should I believe in the second reading? ...
A. 22 June 2007: Go with your heart on this one, so do and some don't i personally do as i have had a reading done before i told them nothing about myself what so ever and they came out with stuff they could have never known and if you have had the same thing said ... (read in full...)
He's in a wheel chair with bipolar- he loves me but I don't love him. How can I tell him?
Q. I have a big problem,and if anyone can offer some good advice,I'm open to it. How do you get out of a bad relationship? I can't just walk away cause my guy is handicaped,in a wheelchair,bipolar and I am probably the only in the free world that ...
A. 22 June 2007: What a situation to be in, if everything has gone from the relationship then you really should not stay because that really is not going to help either of you, it sounds as though he is treating you more like a carer now, i know he tells you you are ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but still thinking about other people
Q. Am I doomed? I have been engaged for 7 months and am getting ready for my engagement party. I recently been having thoughts of being with other people or what it would be like with other people. I wouldn't cheat on my fiance... but if I'm suppo...
A. 22 June 2007: There is absolutely nothing wrong with fantasy and everyone has it as long as you don't follow through with anything then it's absolutely fine, and if you do feel you need to then break off the engagement first at least this way no body will get ... (read in full...)
I think I'm losing her to another guy
Q. Okay i have been with this girl for 4 months now and i trust her and love her to no end but every time i cant hang out she goes and hangs out with this other guy. The way our summer schedule has worked out we haven't been able to see each other for ...
A. 22 June 2007: She has absolutely no respeact for you what so ever otherwise she would not be treating you in this way, i have to agree with the previous poster you need to get rid and move on with your life find someone that treats you with the respect that you ... (read in full...)
When I ejaculate, I feel there's not enough
Q. Wen i cum, i feel embarrassed because it seems to just dribble out, also it has no volume to it ( it is in short supply.) help!...
A. 22 June 2007: I think it would be best for you to visit your doctor and explain the situation to them, as there are many different things it could be, i will not list them as i think because i'm not a doctor i would be unfair , go and see your gp and they can run ... (read in full...)
I love him but he doesn't seem to care either way
Q. i have split up with my partner two days ago because of the way he treats me. we don't live together, however, i know his not cheating on me. he dose not come down to see me, instead he tells me to come down to see him all the time. he has said some ...
A. 22 June 2007: Sometimes you love someone but as much as you do you get to a point and realise that the relationship is no longer healthy for either of you.
It is a very hard thing to deal with when you love someone and they just don't seem to care, and you long... (read in full...)
Her moodiness and controlling is wearing me down
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both 18 and we have been together for nearly 2 years. We have a good sex life, and I am so happy when im with her and enjoy the 'closeness' (if you know what i mean by that? -cuddling n stuff) u can only have with someone ...
A. 22 June 2007: After reading everything you have said, i can't see how this relationship could possibly carry on, you have not mentioned the word love at all, you can not worry about breaking her heart because like you said you are both going off to different ... (read in full...)
My fiance says he'll dump me anytime he isn't getting his way
Q. what does one u do or should do when ur significant other sabotages the relationship to get it their way. i mean, my fiance threatens to break off the relationship when he doesn't get it his way, so i always give in for him. what can i do about ...
A. 22 June 2007: Oh my god what a bully, like the others have said he will carry on and he will do that because you are letting him, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone that has that much power over you.
Tell him he can not keep blac... (read in full...)
We love each other but he's going back to his ex for the sake of his kids
Q. I need help on how to get thru a painfull time Been with bf a year He has kids aged 14-9 He is in the army and based on the opposite side o the country from where there kids mother lives with them He cant handle that because he only gets ...
A. 22 June 2007: I think that as much as you love this man, if he is going to go back to his wife even if it's only for the sake of the children it is really not a good idea for you to stay in contact with him it's hard enough for you now just knowing that he is ... (read in full...)
I'm drawn to my boyfriend's friend but I don't feel guilty; I don't want to hurt anyone
Q. Am I wrong for not feeling guilty at going to his friends house, finding out he is in love with me but still going home to my partner ? I have seen his friend more often now but dont feel guilty when we sit and speak about what life could be like ...
A. 22 June 2007: If you are sitting down with him talking about what life could be like if you were together then i think it would be only fair to finish with your now partner, like you say you can't stop thinking about him.
Give your partner the respect he dese... (read in full...)
I don't want this person in my life. What can I do?
Q. I was going out with my ex for 5 yrs. (I'll call him Matt)When we 1st met, he was 22 and I was 19. I was in a relationship when I met him, but it was coming to it's end and the guy was really mean to me. So when I met Matt, he was soo nice to me, ...
A. 21 June 2007: What have you left to do, you have spoken to his family you have been nice, you can't go on like this harrasment is an offence and if you fear for your safety and your property then any court should put an restraining order on him.
Take care... (read in full...)
Lots of things make me think my boyfriend may be cheating... such as his secret myspace pages!
Q. I have been with someone for almost two years. We are moving in together in 2 weeks. Whats mine is his and vice versa. I love him dearly but I have trust issues with him. I have never caught him cheating on me but here are a few examples of what ...
A. 21 June 2007: Ok so you move in together in two weeks, do you think you are going to start trusting him then? You say he spends 95% of his free time with you always tells you he loves etc etc, so when does he have the time to be unfaithful.
If he has a few girl... (read in full...)
My husband is a dirty stop-out!
Q. How can I keep my husband from coming in after 12:00 midnight. ...
A. 21 June 2007: Chain him up so he can't go out in the first place, the only thing you can do is try and talk to him and tell him that you would prefer it if you spent more time together and him coming in after 12.00 means that it is difficult to do that, failing ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my bf 4 months ago but I still love him. He says he misses me. What do I do next?
Q. i have been split up from my ex now for 4 motnhs. But i finsihed it and regret it. I stil love him loads and no one can take his place. i texted him an asked him did he miss me? he repleied and said ye i do miss you abit.? wot do i do next? it makes ...
A. 21 June 2007: The only thing you can do is ask him if you could meet up and try and explain to him that you messed up and you regret ending things with him and ask him if there would be any chance of you getting back together and giving it another try, if he is ... (read in full...)
How do I gain back his trust after cheating?
Q. how do you prove to someone that you're loyal to them now after cheating on them at one point? it's like i wasn't loyal but our relationship grew instead of ended and i fell in love and i became loyal, i'd do anything for him... how do i prove that ...
A. 21 June 2007: Unfortunatly it's something that just grows over time, all you can do is stay faithful don't hold things back and just hope that they see you made a mistake and it's not going to happen again.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Green discharge?
Q. i have a greenish discharge which is quite thick wot is it?...
A. 21 June 2007: It sounds very much like an infection no one call tell you exactly what it is apart from you doctor so if i were you i would book an appointment and get it checked out.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Are these sorts of things normal after going through losing someone?
Q. Hi i wrote up about 4 days ago about my wife because she had lost someone close and i didn't know what to say to her or anything. Well thank you for your replys and shes starting the feel better now the funeral is over and up until yeterday when she ...
A. 21 June 2007: Losing someone close to us effects us all in very different ways, once the numbness of losing someone wears off then often comes overwhelming feelings of anxiety, anger and despair that can develop into a depressive illness, these are generally all ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to a guy, now after having sex several times later, I've got these strange signs that something's wrong. Please help!
Q. ..After i lost my virginity to my boyfrend of 1 year he got agressive with me and made my life hell being too jealous. So i finished us and moved away..But after having sex a couple of times I've noticed thick creamy discharge and it hurts when i ...
A. 21 June 2007: Having looked into sexually transmitted infections it does sound very much like the symptoms of gonorrhoea so it would be very advisable to make an appointment to see your doctor sooner rather than later, because if untreated it can cause all sorts ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and I think I've got the first sings of pregnant. Do you think I am?
Q. Im 15, Ive had alot of the first signs of pregnancy like morning sickness, thrown up twice, sick stomach feeling, tiredness, backaches and headaches, Could I be Pregnant?? Please reply soon, I need all the advice I can get!! ...
A. 21 June 2007: Obviously you know yourself they are some of the signs but the only way you are going to be able to know for sure is by doing a pregnancy test or going to see your doctor in confidence.
How long ago was your last period? and if you did not use anyt... (read in full...)
In the past, my husband told me that he loved me... that he never loved me... and now he's saying that he only said it because he was down! He really hurt me. Am I doing the right thing in leaving him?
Q. I need advice. I have been married for 12 years and have two children. About 3 years into our marriage my husband said he didn't love me anymore. This wasn't really dealt with at the time and was brushed under the carpet. About 3 years later he said ...
A. 21 June 2007: Only you can decide if what you are doing is right for you and your children, i understand you are very hurt and angry with him for the way he has treated you if you still love him then you could suggest going to marriage counselling to try and get ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me, then I found out I was pregnant. He threatened me alot and when the baby was born she was stillborn. Should I send him a picture of what we made together?
Q. My ex and I have been separated for the past 8 months (he initiated it after 5 years together). When we split I discovered I was 5 wks pregnant. He didnt want me to carry on with the pregnancy and told me to abort. I told him where to get off and ...
A. 21 June 2007: I would like you said you would like it if the shoe was on the other foot, you have nothing to lose by doing this.
I would just like to say that i really feel for you and i'm sorry to hear of your loss.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to sleep with another girl. He said that we both can have one person on the side to sleep with.
Q. Okay... My boyfriend just popped this thing on me. He wants to sleep with another girl. He said that we both can have one person on the side to sleep with. We will use protection and we will both know that we are more important than the side people. ...
A. 20 June 2007: Whats that all about the way i see it when you are with someone you are with them and only them, you should so not be cool withthis idea and if you are not thenn you need to tell him and if he wants to be with someone else at the same time then ... (read in full...)
My friend's getting a reputation, how can I make her step back and take a look at herself?
Q. hello dont really know where to start with this, but here goes, i have a really special friend of mine(just friends) i,ve known her for quite a number of years now, what it is shes married, n shes been sleeping around with a few lately, one was just ...
A. 20 June 2007: You have already tried to tell her and she has paid no attention, so if you are a really good friend then you just have to sit back let her make her own mistakes and just be there for her when it all goes wrong which inevitablly it will.
Take care... (read in full...)
I'll never see the guy I love again... Should I kiss him on the last day?
Q. Help me please! I've liked this kid since pre-k, and i have never kissed him. Friday is my last day of school, and I really want to, to get it off my chest. He's sweet but I'm not too sure if he likes me back. Should I go for it and give him a kiss, ...
A. 20 June 2007: Hey what have you got to lose if you are not going to see him again anyway, just go for it otherwise you may regret never doing it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ejaculated on the outside of my vagina, could I be pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend ejaculated on the outside of my vagina, could I be pregnant? ...
A. 20 June 2007: It's a possibility but then also is now the concern of sti's as well, if it happened within the last 72 hours visit your doctor and get the emergency contraceptive which will be confidential if you are underage and it would also be a good idea to ... (read in full...)
My husband of 12 years is looking on gay chat sites! What should I think and do?
Q. ive been with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 kids, ive just found out that he has been going on gay chat sites and im not sure if this means he is gay, he has a very high sex drive and a few years ago nearly had an affair with a woman. it ...
A. 20 June 2007: No- one is going to be able to tell you whats going through you husbands head at the moment apart from him, so the only way you are going to be able to find out is by confronting him about it, which i understand will be very hard for you and also ... (read in full...)
After three weeks, he said he wanted time apart b/c he loves my close friend! Should I just move on?
Q. Hello. This is long, I'm afraid. I'm 14. I finished with a guy today, who's 15. We'd been going out for 3 weeks. I finished with him because he said he loved someone else, yesterday. And that he wanted "time apart". At first, I accepted thi...
A. 20 June 2007: Hey yummymummy is right all us oldies have been through it before i know it hurts now but you are better off without him and you will move on to bigger and better.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm happy being with her or not, but she's blindly in love with me! What should I do?
Q. Hi all.. I have a question which i may already know the answer to but reading thru other peoples similar problems i really need to ask.. I am in my mid 20's and i have been in a relationship with a girl who is 19 (im not sure age matters but hey...
A. 20 June 2007: Your right age does not matter, but what does is the fact you are not happy in this relationship, if you are not scared of being alone then just do it and yes she is going to be upset and try and make you feel guilty but just explain to her it's ... (read in full...)
On Father's day he told me that he hasn't loved me for a while. I'm so broken hearted. What can I do?
Q. hi, im nearly 20 and i had been with my boyfriend for past three and a half years. We also have a child who is 17 months. 4 months ago we recently moved in together, I thought we would have our ups and downs and we did, my partner didnt have a j...
A. 20 June 2007: Hi babe know exactly how you feel was there myself ten months ago, out of the blue my husband said that he no longer loved me anymore and off he went leaving me to deal with the shock and our two children, background our business was going slow and ... (read in full...)
Shave or not to shave? any girls out there go au natural?
Q. I never trim or shave my pubic hair, and have lots of it. You can even see them when I wear panties or a swimmsuit. Most of my friends shave, are there any more girls who like to keep it natural?...
A. 20 June 2007: Oh thats down to personal choice some like it others don't but if you decide to go with get rid then i would advise you not to shave because the regrowth is much more harsh, find yourself a good beautician and get it waxed.
Oh i have heard peop... (read in full...)
He's told everyone about how I lost my virginity to him! What should I do? Help!
Q. I recently broke up with an ex but I remained friends with his friends. I lost my virginity to my ex and he's been bragging to every person who will listen about it and it makes me so embarrassed! His friends tell me intimate details that he...
A. 20 June 2007: Dont worry yourself about it babe, it will be forgotten by all the friends in no time because they will just find someone else to tourcher, and do you know what he is going to be the one that suffers from this in the long run what girl is seriously ... (read in full...)
My jealousy is ruining my relationship!
Q. Hi all, Ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months, she's 22 and i'm 18. I have several different problems. First is my jealousy, i get jealous over stupid little things that dont even matter. I always think about her past as well, she dabbled ...
A. 20 June 2007: You are so going to lose this girl if you carry on this way,leave the past in the past and get over it you say she is a changed person and you know she would not cheat, she has been very honest with you to tell you all about her past and she has ... (read in full...)
He says he relied on porn to get off as he was single, but doesnt anymore, do all single guys do this ?
Q. i just want to know if this is normal or if im making a big deal out of nothing. my fiance used to have some adult dvds and look at websites before he met me. before me he had never had a girlfriend and said he basically relied on it as he had need...
A. 20 June 2007: Perfectly normal like he said he had needs to and it's better that than sleeping arond with all sorts just to get satisfaction, and if he does not do it now he obviously gets what he needs from you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She's all flirty now. Could she like me?
Q. back last year i briefly went out with a girl. we lasted or about a week and a half. and eventually she said she didnt think that it was a good idea and we split. i was devastated and tried everything i could to get her back but she ignored me and ...
A. 20 June 2007: Unless your names are next to each other in her phone then it was not an accident it was very a cruel deliberate thing to do, i would stay away from her yeah she knows you still like her but don't let her see it from you get on with your life she ... (read in full...)
What do I do... tell my lover how I feel and risk him ending our relationship... or carry on trying to hide the fact I love him?
Q. Relationship advice wanted.... i'm in a sexless marriage with a 12 year old child...... there has been no intimacy within the marriage for 8 years but I stay for the sake of the child and because frankly it seems like too much upheaval and upset to ...
A. 19 June 2007: I can't understand why it is people chose to stay in a sexless marriage for the sake of the children, do you still love your husband? if so maybe sex therapy is a consideration if not do you really think it is fair on any of you to stay, children do ... (read in full...)
I'm not sexually attracted to my husband! Any advice?
Q. When I was in highschool, I fell in love with a guy who broke my heart 6 mon.after we started seeing each other. His younger brother started coming over to my house after the break up and we'd hang out, sometimes go for pizza or a movie. Then one ...
A. 19 June 2007: You have had a couple of affairs and you are not sexually attracted to your husband anymore, do you want to spend the rest of your life living like this because if you are not getting what you want and need at home you are always going to be tempted ... (read in full...)
I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. Should I do it with him?
Q. I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. He wants me to come over to night and have sex with him. Should I do it with him?...
A. 19 June 2007: With most people i would say when you are ready then you go for it if you are comfortable with doing it and you are not under any pressure, but babe you are twelve you are far too young to start getting into these types of relationships plus it is ... (read in full...)
Am I just being paranoid or is there a chance this is more than a gut feeling?
Q. My girlfriend lives in a different town to me but i travel to stay with her quite often. However when im not with her ive got a gut feeling she is cheating on me. Firstly her mother and sister had informed me not to trust her and that she had 3 guys ...
A. 19 June 2007: You know after reading what you had written i was asking myself the same question before i got to yours , if she had stayed with her friend why would she keep asking you if things were ok between you, what would concern me is the fact her own mother ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy online. How do I know it's not going to be a "pedo's trap" when I finally meet him?
Q. Ok here goes... I am going out with this guy i met online, thing is i havnet met him face 2 face and we have made plans for the future! am i crazy? is this guy for real? or am i falling for a peados trap? plz help me!!!...
A. 19 June 2007: You are not going to know until you meet him and i would say the only time you do that is if you arrange to meet him but you take a group of friends along with you. It's a very dangerous thing to do at your age, but if you are determined to do it ... (read in full...)
Am I trying to hold out for the 100% perfect relationship that probably doesn't exist ?
Q. Hi Everyone. I've had loads of advice from you over the last few months. I split with my partner after being together for over 4 years. That was a couple of months ago. We didn't live together or anything - I have a son of 12 from a previous ...
A. 19 June 2007: I really don't think there is anything like a 100% relationship as much as we would all like one.
You obviously care very deeply for him and he does for you as you have said he would like to try and work things out, you could always try just dati... (read in full...)
I only see him 3 nights a week and do want more but get the feeling he doesn't. What should I do?
Q. been seeing a guy for a year on and of,he is just about divorced and i would like to know where i stand with him? his kids are the same age as mine and get on great at school but he doesnt really involve them too much with me.i only see him 3 nites ...
A. 19 June 2007: I personally would not leave it till sept to try and find out where this is going i would speak to him now about it, i can understand that he that he is keeping the children out of your relationship abit at the moment as it is probably best for the ... (read in full...)
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