Keep thinking how it would be like to date around, I'm 25, too young to feel tied down. I'm confused about my relationship.
Q. I'm a little confused as to what's going on in my relationship right now. Maybe it's partly my fault but I want you to tell me what you think. Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together for four and a half years so far. I would look at it as be...
A. 19 October 2008: At 25 the world is your oyster.
It's the age when you could just settle down, find a nice job somewhere and get married and start a family... or it's the age where you could be enjoying having no kids / mortgage and flying around pushing to get a... (read in full...)
Innocent lunch or something more. I need help to know the difference?
Q. What does it mean when a man asks a woman out for lunch instead of dinner? is this just a sign of being friendly or could it also mean romantic interest?...
A. 19 October 2008: Lunch is definitely a less romantic option than dinner. However, it could also be a "safe" first date with no pressure. If he's really nervous of asking someone out then he may ask them to lunch rather than to dinner as it is more open to just being ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I want to be a doctor because the guy I fancy does so, or because I really want to?...
Q. I have wanted to become a doctor for a while now but i never really decided if i could really be one. For the past year i decided to become a doctor. but i think the reason that i want to be one is because the guy i love is going to be a doctor( ...
A. 19 October 2008: Go to a doctor's surgery or hospital and ask if you can follow one of their medics for the day.
You will learn a lot about how it all works and if after a week if you can't stand the blood / poo / stupid people / death then you know you don't wa... (read in full...)
I shouldn't need to justify myself to my parents all the time!!!
Q. hello everyone... i kinda need some help about my parents... so here goes... last year i stayed out for my first year at university... i was based in uni halls and loved it so much... i did what i wanted came home when i wanted to and everything was ...
A. 19 October 2008: I'm sorry you aren't going to like this answer, but unfortunately parents spend a good 20 years checking up on you and looking after you and they don't change easily.
I'm 25 and married and when I go home to visit and go out for a night my dad s... (read in full...)
Tampons won't fit up me - what if I can't have sex?
Q. Hello i need some help. I am 13 years old and i have been having a period for 3 years now. Recently i have been trying to use a tampon, but it wont go up. i am definatly putting it up the right hole. i have been masturbating so i am wet, and then...
A. 19 October 2008: What direction are you putting it up?
The first time I tried to put one in I was pushing straight up and had the same problem.
You need to gently slide it so it's going in the direction of your back... aim for your tail bone, it's easier if y... (read in full...)
Is this guy-bipolar or what? I've held my peace without exploding! Please help.
Q. My daughter's dad have been so negative towards and at me. His words are extremely hurtful however, I've held it in for a long time. I've take it like it didn't bother me. I've gotten to the point where, it was it. I've exchanged words over text ...
A. 19 October 2008: Ah you are already pregnant! Sorry it sounded like you were Planning another child with him, which explains why it made no sense. Apologies.
If he's got two sides then just play it like he does. Take the good when it comes and be a family but ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he told everyone my real age?
Q. I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16. His mother's side of the family know I am 14 but his dad's side think I am 15. The two families don't talk. He has recently started a new job, and goes to collage once a week. He has told all of his new friends that I ...
A. 18 October 2008: Ah then the reason he's lying about your age is because he knows it's wrong for a 16 year old boy to be having sex with a 14 year old girl.
He knows his dad and his friends would think he was taking advantage of you and would yell at him about th... (read in full...)
What can I do with this cocky flirty guy I met at work?
Q. Well, this guy I met who is a military. He was very friendly when I met him last month. I met him over a business contact. turns out that he was very kinda flirty, then a week later when I go to his office he had someone else treat with me instead ...
A. 18 October 2008: He could have been making a joke?
I really wouldn't raise it as it's such a little thing, you are going to look like a crazy lady for having put that much thought into it.
Just be aware he's got a cock sure attitude (as a lot of military type... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he told everyone my real age?
Q. I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16. His mother's side of the family know I am 14 but his dad's side think I am 15. The two families don't talk. He has recently started a new job, and goes to collage once a week. He has told all of his new friends that I ...
A. 18 October 2008: If you are too scared of talking to him about it then you aren't in a very good relationship. A girl should never be afraid to ask for an explanation.
He may be ashamed or he may just want to have sex with you in the next 2 years and not be label... (read in full...)
Shall I tell my teacher of 6 years how I feel when I leave?
Q. Hey guys, Ok I will cut a long story short. I am almost 18 and am in my final year of 6th form (College) in my high school. I have been in love, yes, that's right, IN love with my previous head of year for 5 years now (he was my head of year for...
A. 18 October 2008: You have to look at this from the point of view of "what is best for him" rather than "when is he first opportunity I can liberate my feelings."
Look at it from an outsiders point of view. If others have noticed things in previous years, no matte... (read in full...)
Best friend or my ex???
Q. I'm 15 and I've got a bit of a problem. Earlier this year I had sex with my boyfriend. We only did it once and I broke up with him shortly after because I felt that the relationship was developing way too soon and he didn't want to slow things down. ...
A. 18 October 2008: Well if you love your friend... why would you get back with your boyfriend? Because it was fun?
If you are putting having a bit of fun / enjoying male attention above your friend then you can't really be in love with her.
If you really loved... (read in full...)
Some might say I'm lucky...
Q. High... I'm a married man 10 years into it. My wife has thought, on and off, that I did not love her because I did not 'stick up' for her with my family. She has a small point.... they can be intrusive, but nothing was ever said directly a...
A. 18 October 2008: So if you know she didn't cheat and felt guilty for even talking to this ex, what is your problem?
Make effort to be the guy she goes out for coffee and chats so she doesn't have to confide in someone else about her problems because she can talk... (read in full...)
Why follow me into rooms, yet ignore my email ??
Q. I spilt with a girl after two years. I found out she was seeing someone else. I walk away cause no problem. It's always been tough for me as we work in the same building, and in the same building as the other guy . I haven’t caused any prob...
A. 18 October 2008: Continue to ignore her.
She followed you in probably for any number of reasons. Perhaps she wanted to yell at you / tell you she loves you but got scared. Perhaps she wanted you to cry and beg for her back.
It doesn't really matter.
Just... (read in full...)
What does cholesterol in the blood have to do with binging?
Q. I found an response you sent on April 19, 2007 to a woman who was binging on junk food and you said the following (this is just part of it)- quote "You don't purge (throw up) after binge eating but you do have some hallmarks of bulmia nervosa. I ...
A. 18 October 2008: I think the person just meant that having eating disorders doesn't come down to what you look like and how you act completely.
I think they meant that what matters is how healthy your body is, and they weren't linking that directly with eating d... (read in full...)
We've broken up, and he's moving to iraq for a year - will we have a chance when he comes back?
Q. Hey there everyone! Well, me and my boyfriend broke up 5 weeks ago,( we argue alot over stupid staff) after dating for a 3 years. We still see euch other, go to dinner, he is telling me that he still loves me, but he just want to be firends with me. ...
A. 18 October 2008: If he's going to Iraq then he's going to want to distance himself from you because it means it will hurt him less when he is away.
However, I think this tour could be the way to prove to both of you whether you should be together or not.
... (read in full...)
I'm now pregnant by someone else and fear I'll never get him back now...
Q. This guy broke my heart a year ago and since that day I just cant stop thinking about him. I want to see him everywhere I go, I want to have him back. However I got pregnant with another guys boy who just doesn't care at all and in my mind tha...
A. 18 October 2008: Well if he wants to be your baby's daddy then let him!
Go out and get your man, leave the who baby thing up to him. It may have ruined your chances but it may not.
Call him up and ask him if he wants to get together for a drink (lemonade and no... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend but I have far more in common with her than he does!
Q. Hi, I want some advice about a girl I have known for about a year and a half now, she's called called R and I'm C. She's 19 and I am 20.. we both met through a friend of ours. We established a really good friendship.. we talk about lots of things ...
A. 18 October 2008: There is a real risk that you are going to slide into the "friend zone" and you'll be her best friend and she'll have her boyfriend plus you on the side.
I think you have to be straight with her early on so she doesn't end up worrying she'll "... (read in full...)
I'm just looking for a little guidance on who and how to choose out of the two.
Q. Ok, so here's my problem, it's one of those two girl problems. About a year an a half ago, I met my current girlfriend, who happens to be my first, and we've been going out since then, she's the only girl I've ever been physically intimate. It's...
A. 18 October 2008: So she's engaged but she's keeping you as a plan B to see if she gets a better offer?
And you have a girlfriend but you are cheating on her with a girl who has promised to marry someone.
I think you should definitely split up with your girlfr... (read in full...)
Is this guy-bipolar or what? I've held my peace without exploding! Please help.
Q. My daughter's dad have been so negative towards and at me. His words are extremely hurtful however, I've held it in for a long time. I've take it like it didn't bother me. I've gotten to the point where, it was it. I've exchanged words over text ...
A. 18 October 2008: "We are getting ready to have another child. "
What?!?!?!
Why why why would you do that? It makes no sense at all.
If he is being horrible to you then let him be a dad but tell him you don't want to deal with him and you think he has a probl... (read in full...)
My friend gave this guy my number but denies it when I asked.
Q. Yesterday I got a call by a guy I don't know. He said he was giving a good friend of mine shit for not being a virgin and my friend said 'I screwed this chick!' and gave a bunch of boy's my number. My friend denies it but then how did they get my ...
A. 18 October 2008: It sounds like your friend was in a desperate situation and wanted to impress the other boys so gave out your number or showed them a message and they stole your number.
Either get a new number or just ignore any calls from people you don't kn... (read in full...)
He's giving me mixed signals... What can I do?
Q. I have a crush on a guy, but I can't be sure if he likes me or not. Sometimes he is really sweet, he's teasing me a lot, he smiles and sometimes it seems like he doesn't care. I'm really confused and I have to do something to understand if he likes ...
A. 18 October 2008: Ask him if you can add him to internet messenger / facebook / anything like that.
Then get chatting to him online and see where it goes.
x... (read in full...)
We were experimenting... could she be pregnant?
Q. Hi, me and by girlfriend were experimenting the other day. She was wearing shorts and her pants and I had my penis our rubbing against her (on top of her shorts). I didn't cum, and there was hardly any pre-ejaculation cum (was practically dry). ...
A. 18 October 2008: If she was wearing 2 layers of clothing and you didn't come then she won't be pregnant.
Just keep your shorts on next time or stick to fingering / hand jobs.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She said she wants to focus on her girls, but why does this mean that she has to completely shut me out of her life?
Q. Hello All- Looking for some opnions and advice here. Ive been seriuosly dating a woman for about five months now. After being in previous relationships Ive come to appreciate what a normal, healthy relationship is supposed to be. We are both single ...
A. 18 October 2008: I think if she is sending her daughters off to see a controlling man then she is scared he's going to try and take them / turn them against her. Plus she knows it's going to be hard meeting "Dad's girlfriend."
She's giving them the message ... (read in full...)
He slept with her during our break up to get back at me (I had cheated), now she's pregnant, how do I cope and move on with him?
Q. Ok. I am 24 and my boyfriend is 40. We have been together for 3 years now. Recently we broke up because he was pushing me away and I ended up sleeping with someone. No excuse I know. Anyways. We broke up and he was introduced to this girl who is 2 ...
A. 18 October 2008: Wow, he's pretty stupid for someone his age.
You need to get checked for STD's as he could have given you anything if he's daft enough not to know how to use a condom.
As for how to cope with the pain, you are just going to have to put up w... (read in full...)
Haven't had sex in over a year, I feel very bad about this, what can I do?
Q. im 21 years old and havent had sex for over a year and im desperate for it. i dont know what to do....
A. 18 October 2008: Buy a vibrator, hire an escort or go out and find a drunk guy that you can use and drop.
Without more details I can't give you more help.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it her or her illness that caused her to behave so? Am I wrong to keep clinging to this hope of getting back together?
Q. While I was at work last night my ex girlfriend calls me to let me know that she found a babysitter for our child and was going out with some friends. We remain close friends so this is pretty normal. I told her to have fun. I haven't gotten o...
A. 18 October 2008: You are looking for a reason why it went wrong and why she is getting over you.
She kissed 2 guys when she was drunk!! It's not exactly like she's become a crack whore. I think you have to admit your jealousy is getting the best of you here.
... (read in full...)
I want to get to know my neighbour better as I have a huge crush on him.
Q. Hi, I've got a real crush on my next door neighbour but I am quite a shy person and don't know how to approach him. I also have a daughter so I often think that guys won't be interested! I have spoken to him but only briefly and I don't know if he...
A. 18 October 2008: Find a jar with a really tightly done up lid and take it round. Use the fact you need him to be strong and manly and open the lid for you to spark up a conversation / ask about girlfriends etc.
Then ask him if he wants to come round for dinner o... (read in full...)
Is there any way of putting an end to this relapse of depression?
Q. Hey, For the last 2 years I suffered a lot of depression. But this year, I got over it as soon as I got a boyfriend, OB, who is absolutely lovely. But the thing is now, I'm having a relapse coz two of my supposed best friends, SM and AG, are bein...
A. 18 October 2008: If you are depressed to the point where you feel you want to hurt yourself then go to the doctor.
However if you are just stressed out and miserable then you have to cut the things that make you miserable out of your life.
If someone is being... (read in full...)
Is everything fair in love and war?
Q. how many people out there actually believe everything is fair in love and war? what are your reasons? do you believe in fate? destiny? my boyrfriend he said fate interfered and brought me to him. things are complicated though, shoul...
A. 8 October 2008: I do believe in fate.
I believe that I got together with my first boyfriend and it was fate... I learned so much and did amazing things with him. But I also think it was my fate to move on from him and do more in life.
If I hadn't been with... (read in full...)
How does the contraceptive pill work exactly?
Q. Hii just a quick one really. Not really sure if this has been answered before so any help would be greatly appreciated. Basically, the contraceptive pill..i know that there are about 20 different kinds, but exactly how do they work? I mean of cours...
A. 8 October 2008: Every pill is different and works in different ways.
There are 2 types of pill:
The combined pill, and the progesterone pill.
They both contain hormones that trick your body into doing things like stopping ovulating, thinking it is pregn... (read in full...)
I am beginning to think that fate really does exist and departed loved ones really could be there watching over us and protecting us...
Q. The other week after being told by my girlfiend by text that it was over I drove for 2 hours to see her to try and speak to her to sort things out (mistake no.1) As she was ignoring all my messages and calls before I just turned up I messaged he...
A. 8 October 2008: So... you are ok then?
If so my advice is to continue being ok.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I got drunk and ended up losing my virginity to my boyfriend, I don't recall this, have I been taken advantage of?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months, a week ago i got very drunk and ended up going back to stay at his. The next morning my boyfriend told me we had had sex. i do not remember this at all and i felt he had took advantage of me as ...
A. 8 October 2008: It could have been him taking advantage but at the same time you don't know that you could have been telling him that you really wanted to do it.
Yes he should have known better than to trust your judgement when you are that drunk but he's onl... (read in full...)
Rumours are going round my boyfriend's sleeping with my EX!!!
Q. I'm 23, and my boyfriend's 25 and we live together. Our relationship's been great up until about 4 weeks ago. We were out shopping, and had fun in the sales, and I happened to see my ex (who lives in the same region/town as us). We got talking, ...
A. 7 October 2008: Next time he says he working late, call his work and ask to speak to him. If he's not there then you know he's lying.
Rumours are rumours but if he's lying to you and sneaking around then you might want to tell him you know and are not happy.
... (read in full...)
Do I go back to the ex and think of what I've missed with my boyfriend?
Q. I don't know what to do. Please help. I am currently taking a break from my boyfriend becuase I'm trying to get over my ex that I thought I was over but cleary am not. I broke up with my ex and had to change my number and email because he wouldn't ...
A. 7 October 2008: It's so easy to say "I'm sorry, I've changed, please call me I miss you so much, life without you isn't worth living."
I just said it. Do you think that I have changed and do you want to go out with me now?
He's a jerk and you were right to du... (read in full...)
I feel insecure, I hate my looks and wish I had bigger boobs!
Q. Help me, I'm such an insecure idiot... I hate my looks. I just feel very insecure. Especially with my boyfriend. Yes, he thinks I'm pretty and have a nice body. But there's this factor: a) I asked. He likes toned bodies and bigger breasts....
A. 7 October 2008: I can't fix your self confidence. That's something you have to work on.
As for the seeing women for lust / love. I think you misunderstood. When they say men look at a women and judge her as one or the other they mean she either gets to be an an... (read in full...)
I am gay and frightened to come out... Help!
Q. I am 17 and gay. I have been since I was 15, I have a boyfriend, I have slept with him but no-one knows about us yet. I want to come out but I am frightened to death about what my friends and family will think. Also I haven't a clue how to come ...
A. 7 October 2008: http://www.wsmsh.org.uk/coming-out/index.html
This website gives pretty good advice.
Only you know your parents so whether it is a case of sitting your mum down first and then going to your dad separately, or whether you just announce it to b... (read in full...)
Where are the warehouse raves in London?
Q. I want to go to an secret/underground warehouse rave somewhere in London? Where can I go... what can I do? How do you find out about things like this? Also... does anyone have any experiences of going to places like this? thanks...
A. 7 October 2008: I don't know the London scene, but up in Liverpool, you just have to get to know which DJ's play for these things (make a note of the names on posters and who play in clubs) and get on their myspace / websites and get on any mailing lists.
Plus ... (read in full...)
Does sex disappear in all relationships?
Q. hey i have been with my girlfrind for 9 months ( this is my first serious relationship) to cut the story short.. the first 3 months where great in the bedroom now its none existant!! is it me?? or do all relationships turn out like this?? or has she ...
A. 7 October 2008: Well if she won't even go out on a date with you then you don't really have much of a relationship.
Ask her why she won't come out with you and ask her what she wants from this relationship.
Tell her you aren't happy with the fact she refuses... (read in full...)
What's the best way to remove hair from the bikini line?
Q. What is the best way to remove the bikini area hair? Is it just shaving or any good products that you could recommend. Thank you...
A. 7 October 2008: I tweeze around the front and trim the rest usually and then exfoliate in the shower a lot as it comes back.
Recently I tried shaving and it looked great for a day. Then it started itching like HELL and it was not attractive with me having a... (read in full...)
I worry about my boyfriend constantly for no reason.
Q. I keep wanting my boyfriend to be with me all the time and I think it's annoying him. We've been together just over 2 years. The thing is I always worry about him and ask him to let me know when he gets where he's going. I've worried so much before ...
A. 7 October 2008: You need to figure out why you are being so clingy and needy. Why is it that you need him to be "safe". Is it a fear of being left alone with the baby?
My husband is in Iraq right now and could be under his desk in a mortar attack this very sec... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I'm feeling this upset and angry towards some humans who can do things like this to other living creatures?
Q. Ok this is nothing to do with love I guess I'm just looking for comfort... I've just read the most horrific case of animal cruelty on the net and I'm in tears. I love animals and support the RSPCA. But sitting here now, I'm so upset by it, tha...
A. 7 October 2008: There are some horrible horrible people in the world. But as you say yourself... there are people like the RSPCA out there too.
Have a think about the statistics. You have seen one case of animal cruelty there. But how many cases of spoiled ... (read in full...)
Does sex disappear in all relationships?
Q. hey i have been with my girlfrind for 9 months ( this is my first serious relationship) to cut the story short.. the first 3 months where great in the bedroom now its none existant!! is it me?? or do all relationships turn out like this?? or has she ...
A. 7 October 2008: I've been with my husband for 5 years now and we are still having lots of sex. The only time it stops is when one of us is depressed and loses the urge.
It could be that she is just comfortable with you now and so the spark has gone. Or that you... (read in full...)
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