I cheated and we are seeing a counsellor but what do we do till then??
Q. I recently cheated on my husband. We have been talking about it for a couple of days and have an appointment to meet with a counsellor, but not for another week. What do we until then?...
A. 30 November 2007: Hi again,
it is natural that he is going to take a lot of time before he can trust you again. You just have to accept this.
A lot of couples end up stronger after an affair, hopefully you two can be the same. Just stay strong and keep your he... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to sleep with other guys to 'learn new tricks'. Isnt this totally off the wall?
Q. i was a virgin when i met my boyfriend so hes the only guy i have ever slept with, given a BJ to, etc, etc. we have been together for nearly 4 years but he ended it the other day and said that he wanted to go on a break and that he wanted me to go ...
A. 29 November 2007: Hi there,
sorry to say but this is really weird. I think he is using this an a pathetic excuse. I hope so anyway, as otherwise you really are lucky to be done with him.
If a couple love each other, they are in no better position to explore new ... (read in full...)
She thinks a sexy joke I had with my friend means I cheated but she dumped me and I miss her so much.
Q. Hi, I recently broke up with my girlfriend of since may 6th 2006. I love her so much, and she loved me so much. She broke up with me because i had this joke with one of my friends who is a girl, which was rather sexy. She took it as i cheated on ...
A. 29 November 2007: Hi dude,
you are still not telling us what the joke was? Was it just a text message joke? Or something more suggestive?
This is the key really, it sounds pretty serious for her to have left you after all this time.
Maybe she feels you are no... (read in full...)
I am trying to change the kind of guy I go out with and am not finding what I am looking for
Q. I need to know if im abnormal for getting more attracted to guys with a bit of edge? It puts me off if a guy is too over kind, you know you can do anything and theylle be there... I want them to be unpredictable, I want to be kept on my toes. It...
A. 29 November 2007: Hi,
you sound like a friend of mine. She is now 38 and still going out with arseholes. She hates nice guys, but goes out with controlling arseholes who leave her shattered and broken. My wife and I have given up consoling her, there's no point wh... (read in full...)
Why did he ask me to buy him pills to increase his penis size precisely now that he is out of town for months? Does he want to impress another woman?
Q. My husband is out of our state for work and i wont be able to see him for 5 more months. Last week he ask me if i could buy him pills to increase his penis size. He said that he knows I have told him many times that his size is great for me, but he ...
A. 29 November 2007: Hmmmm.. interesting.. you got a name for those pills :)
Seriously, there are no such pills. Apart from those you see in magazines which are just rip offs.
I view this entirely differently , he is probably missing you so much his mindset has ... (read in full...)
Is it normal?
Q. Is it normal for couples to put up a poster of a woman in a bikini on their bedroom wall?...
A. 29 November 2007: Normal? who knows. Tasteful? absolutely not. Tacky? yes.
... (read in full...)
I cheated and we are seeing a counsellor but what do we do till then??
Q. I recently cheated on my husband. We have been talking about it for a couple of days and have an appointment to meet with a counsellor, but not for another week. What do we until then?...
A. 29 November 2007: Given that your husband has agreed to see a counsellor with you, I assume he is prepared to work through this with you.
A counsellor is not going to be able to wave a majic wand and make your problems go away, bascially its down to the two of you ... (read in full...)
I cheated and we are seeing a counsellor but what do we do till then??
Q. I recently cheated on my husband. We have been talking about it for a couple of days and have an appointment to meet with a counsellor, but not for another week. What do we until then?...
A. 29 November 2007: Given that your husband has agreed to see a counsellor with you, I assume he is prepared to work through this with you.
A counsellor is not going to be able to wave a majic wand and make your problems go away, bascially its down to the two of you ... (read in full...)
He's catholic I'm not, will this create problems later on?
Q. Hi, I'm just wondering what people think about long term relationships between people of different religions? Can it ever work? I'm in a relationship (almost a year and a half) with a lovely guy and we are very much in love and spend all our ti...
A. 29 November 2007: Hi there,
I was raised a Catholic and though I am now a non believer , I cant really see the problem here.
First let me explain, with the Jewish culture , a child born to a Jewish mother is Jewish regardless of the father. But a child born t... (read in full...)
I'm not a material girl but this older guys meaness with money bores me.
Q. I am 40 and in the middle of settleing my divorce. We've been married for 20 years. I met this man 16 years older than me. I love the affection he gives to me. He's loaded but very mean with money. He wont go out for a meal or spend a bit more...
A. 28 November 2007: Hi,
I was just wondering if you have a job yourself? Are you not able to spend your own money and show your new partner how money is actually meant to be spent not hoarded?
I'm afraid you most likely won't be able to change his spending habits.... (read in full...)
What can I say to my teacher, when he confronts me about my crush on him?
Q. Sorry if this is long... Right, On monday i made an appointment with the school nurse to discuss my problem over a teacher. I just went into details of how this situation is affecting me emotionally and also having such an impact on my life, etc....
A. 28 November 2007: Hey,
dont worry about it, as I said before all will be forgotten in time, probably just a few months at the most.
Just act like you normally do, you will find he starts to become easy around you again.
Teachers only avoid the ones who try and... (read in full...)
Will conservative man suck the life out of fun lover?
Q. I have been dating a very conservative man for 6 years. I use the term conservative as a euphemism for bordering on boring. My children (19,21,26) see us as completely incompatible in this regard. Although they think he is an honest and likable ...
A. 28 November 2007: Hi,
I dont know if you want to hear this, but you did ask, so dont shoot the messenger!.
You two just do not seem to be a match. You remind me of my sister who meet a lovely bloke after being in an abusive relationship. He was loyal, honest an... (read in full...)
His wife knows about his affair with me, in fact me and his wife go on trips together... is this relationship healthy?
Q. Dear cupid, I am a 23 year old woman that needs help. My boyfriend is 44 and I love him very much. The only problem is that he is married and has been for about 15 years. I know now that he plans not to leave his wife and his wife and I both kno...
A. 28 November 2007: Hi,
It is certainly fine for your boyfriend. And the acceptance of his wife might just be because he doesnt bug her for sex anymore ( I assume he tells you they have no sex life )it is strange though as I imagine a lot of woman in these situ... (read in full...)
He complains that I'm "too wet" when we make love!
Q. I've just divorced my husband and met this man 18 years older than me. I am 45. This man is very good in bed. I've got turn on without minutes and gets very wet. He complains he couldnt feel anything when I am wet. He talks like its my fault ...
A. 28 November 2007: Oh come on! This guy should be thanking his lucky stars. Not only is he getting laid at 60 plus but the girl he's doing it with is getting sopping wet.
Bloody hell, some men just don't know when they are on to a good thing. Tell him he can just... (read in full...)
What can I say to my teacher, when he confronts me about my crush on him?
Q. Sorry if this is long... Right, On monday i made an appointment with the school nurse to discuss my problem over a teacher. I just went into details of how this situation is affecting me emotionally and also having such an impact on my life, etc....
A. 28 November 2007: Hi there,
let me tell you first as an experienced high school teacher myself.
He will not confront you about this. Never in a million years. You are a student he is a teacher, end of story.
What he is doing though is letting everyone kno... (read in full...)
How do 'open' relationships work?
Q. I'm a woman and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for nearly 7 years. We love each other and get on really well. The problem is lately I've been having some very straight feelings and getting curious about guys. Then I met this amazing ...
A. 28 November 2007: Hi there,
I've never been in an open relationship so I cant offer first hand advice.
But I guess the key thing here is how will you cope with the intimacy. I know people who do engage in this practice, and the men are able to just see it as s... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that on the first night of meeting my present girlfriend, she left with another dude?
Q. I have been dating this girl for one year. The other day she said she had something that she had been hiding from me. On the night that I met her, she had a casual sexual encounter with a mutual friend of ours. Now granted, we had just met ...
A. 27 November 2007: No, because you guys were not dating. She was free to see whoever she wanted and she did.
Now it may be a bit embarrassing that its a mutual friend, but look at it this way, she slept with this guy and she then started a relationship with you. How ... (read in full...)
I found photos of her naked ex in our room!
Q. I (we've) got a little problem (or not). My wife is always very honest with me. She has never slept with anyone but me, but I know the first names of a few guys she dated and fooled around with some prior to me. Anyway, we bought our house a little ...
A. 27 November 2007: Dude,
sounds like you had to dust these off:). I'm sure she's forgotten about them as well.
If they were under her pillow you could have cause for concern, but it looks like she has consigned these memories to the past life section - hidden away ... (read in full...)
I've lost his trust through lying about my past...how can I reassure him I'm now telling the truth??
Q. Ok, I messed up. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months. Of those, we've been having issues for about 8 months. I sorta sensed from the begining that he would dissaprove of my past. It's not a terrible past, but it involves a mutual f...
A. 27 November 2007: Hi there,
I seriously wonder how guy's like this actually get dates let alone a girlfriend.
Listen, he is a controlling jerk who will make your life a misery if you go back with him. Lets face it, with his self pitying personality I wouldn't... (read in full...)
I'm divorced with 4 kids, I've fallen in love with a girl who lives in London, she's not happy with her boyfriend,am I just dreaming?
Q. there is a girl i have been chatting to for two years now online, and i get on really well with her, if i was to write a dream girl spec she would be it. She is sexy, funny attractive, inteligent everything i could want and more. She even works in ...
A. 27 November 2007: Well why dont you jump on an the intercity and head down to London? Find a reason to go down there, and try and meet up for a lunch/coffee or whatever.
The only way to find out if things could work out between you guys is to meet up.
The boyfrien... (read in full...)
I lost my best friend after my controlling boyfriend wouldnt let me talk to him, how can I get him to be friends with me again?
Q. I really want my best friend back! We have been friends for about 2 years and for most of that time we were really close, best friends, until I started dating my now ex bf. My friend didnt like him, he thought he was bad for me, which I didnt ...
A. 27 November 2007: Hi,
I'm sorry to see this happen to you. There is a cautionary tale here I hope for all the girls who write in about their controlling boyfriends. This is what happens when the girl finally see's she is dating an arsehole - the friendship has reac... (read in full...)
I hooked up with this guy , he said call me, but I don't do that, why hasn't he called me ?
Q. I met this guy at work.. I wasnt really interested at first. But then we went out a few times after work with other co-workers, and got along and it was apparent that we were attracted to eachother. The first night we hung out he gave me tickets to ...
A. 27 November 2007: I'm sorry to say but you should probably forget about this guy.
For one, "you don't do that". Well he asked if you could call, and you havent because you dont do that, so that's it. He is waiting for you to call him its really as simple as that... (read in full...)
Should a newlywed man still keep pictures of his ex's on his computer?
Q. I am newly married and my husband keeps pictures of him with previous girlfriends on his computer. Do you think he should get rid of them? We are married now so I don't see why he needs them anymore....
A. 27 November 2007: It all depends on what type of pictures. If they are just pictures amongst many others then you are probably overreacting. But if they take a prominent place or a slightly suggestive then you have every right to ask him to delete them.... (read in full...)
I'm divorced with 4 kids, I've fallen in love with a girl who lives in London, she's not happy with her boyfriend,am I just dreaming?
Q. there is a girl i have been chatting to for two years now online, and i get on really well with her, if i was to write a dream girl spec she would be it. She is sexy, funny attractive, inteligent everything i could want and more. She even works in ...
A. 27 November 2007: I guess the key question here is, does she know that you have 4 kids?
have you been entirely honest with her? If she does and is prepared to take this responsiblity on, then it doesnt mean that the boyfriend banker won't be giving his marching orde... (read in full...)
Tips on "woman on top" and other positions except missionary?
Q. Okay. I had not had sex in over a year until recently. This is with a new partner. Please give me tips on being on top and other positions besides missionary. I know it sounds silly, but what do I do?? ...
A. 27 November 2007: Guys love doggy style - there is always a very nice view from a man's viewpoint ( and some blokes prefer it as the woman's vagina feels tighter this way).
The girl on top is great as well, just move around on him when you are there as well as thru... (read in full...)
I'm shy-how do I learn how to have more self confidence?
Q. I need to learn how to be more open around guys,I get soo shy,it doesnt make any sense to me when i see other girls flirting and i cant do it! I think im afraid of rejection,or maybe im just a shy person.How do i learn how to have more self ...
A. 27 November 2007: Don't worry there are shy guys as well. A lot of boys don't like girls who flirt a lot as they think that they will go out with another boy when they get bored. So when you meet a nice girl who is shy you know that she will be your friend and won't ... (read in full...)
How do you play hard to get, when you like a guy?
Q. How do you play hard to get, whist still hinting that you like him??...
A. 27 November 2007: First off, why do you want to play hard to get?
Any nice guy who would treat you with respect will be put off by a girl who's playing hard to get. You see , for a nice guy it takes a lot of courage to ask a girl out, if she plays hard to get it m... (read in full...)
We had a night of drunken sex, it was my first time, he's now avoiding me, did I do something wrong?
Q. I had sex for the first time in my life. i'm freshman in college, he's 25. i was totally drunk and i kept telling him that i'm not going to have sex with him no matter what, but i guess i just didn't make it clear- didn't really push him away an...
A. 27 November 2007: Don't worry about doing anything wrong. It will all be forgotten.
What you should worry about is how you got into this situation in the first place. He could have passed on an STD or worse.
In future, make sure when you go out you have a couple o... (read in full...)
I cheated on him, and he beat me, how do I move forward?
Q. in june i made a very bad choice in my life..having been with the same man for 25 years.. a man i love so very very much ..mostly good years, not always happy years.. bickering, fighting and alot of silence .. now i see it was my life before and ...
A. 27 November 2007: As a man I find this unforgiveable. Not your affair, that is a sympton of the problems in your marriage.
But beating you is unforgiveable , he is a monster and you should never go back to him.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
I only last 2 minutes at most, what is average for guys?
Q. When i have sex with my girlfriend i only seem to last under 2 minutes... i make up for this in other ways and she loves our sex life but im ashamed that i dont last longer. what is the adverage time in mutes it takes a guy to reach an orgasm?...
A. 27 November 2007: at the earliest maybe 20 minutes going up to an hour .
Try using condoms with the numbing gel at the tip . Or alternatively masturbate half an hour or so before you have sex.... (read in full...)
I've lost his trust through lying about my past...how can I reassure him I'm now telling the truth??
Q. Ok, I messed up. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months. Of those, we've been having issues for about 8 months. I sorta sensed from the begining that he would dissaprove of my past. It's not a terrible past, but it involves a mutual f...
A. 26 November 2007: The most worrying thing about your post is the comment: "Do I just have to pay for my mistakes". What mistakes would these be? the fact that you lied to your boyfriend or that you had a life before you met him.
I can see why you lied to your boy... (read in full...)
Did my ex fiancee propose, just so I would feel better about having sex before marriage? What do you think?
Q. I know I kind of asked this question a little while ago. But, it keeps resurfacing in my mind. I broke up with my fiance a month or so ago, but I want to know if he proposed just so I would feel better about having sex before marriage? We had sex ...
A. 26 November 2007: Hi,
I don't really understand why you are asking this question?
You should be moving on with your life not worrying about the intentions of your ex boyfriend. He is your ex , dwelling on issues you shared in a previous relationship is unhealthy... (read in full...)
People call me a slut, but it's not true, how can I stop this?
Q. ok,so at school im called a slut.i dont even know why.guys usually say to their friends that if they need to "get some",then go to me.but im not like that.i do have a big chest and a big butt,but id give up all that to stop being called a slut.i ...
A. 26 November 2007: Hi,
well having recently taught at a high school I think I can say for sure that you are a victim of the usual desperate gossip that substitutes for truth in any school.
First, it doesnt matter what you wear you should be able to hold your hea... (read in full...)
Divorced and with a high sex drive. Should I have sex with the mate I'm dating to satisfy my needs or wait for someone I really love to do it?
Q. Im 39 just divorced my husband. We've been married for 14 years. I've no regret to divorce him. The problem is I have very high sex drive. I have no sex life for 9 months now and find it hard to bear. I am dating a man at the moment but I dont ...
A. 22 November 2007: Hi,
you dont have to worry, really. There's no rule suggesting that sex should be between loving couples only.
It will change the bond between you two however, but it is still possible to have a sexual relationship with someone you are not in l... (read in full...)
How do I talk dirty to my hubby, any tips?
Q. My husband wants me to talk dirty. I try sometimes but not often. I dont know how. anyone have any tips?...
A. 22 November 2007: Hi,
easy. First thing don't worry what he will think about what you say. Nothing you say will appear silly as in the bedroom it should be silly.
Tell him you love his big dick filling up your pussy.
Moan and groan when he enters you.
If ... (read in full...)
How come my boyfriend wont stick up for me?
Q. k well i cant get this outta my head and i really need your help. my boyfriend is always hanging out with his friend like 24/7 seriously and this one guy is always staying the night and i really dont even like him but when i try to call my boyfriend ...
A. 21 November 2007: He is not a man , pure and simple.
If you cannot stick up for your girlfriend you are not a man in my book.
Dump this loser, tell him he can cuddle and kiss his boyfriend seeing as they are so close.
There is no hope for you with this guy , ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends past annoys me. How can I get over that?
Q. Hello there, Im think im going nuts over silly things , i fell in love this summer with an amazing girl shes 24 and Im 27. i was working as a scuba diving instructor and one of my brothers mates rang me and asked if he could bring his new girfrien...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi,
sounds like you are looking for an excuse to ruin a perfect relationship. I would seek counselling, if you are not normally the jealous type ( you dont mention if you are ) then you definitely need help.
The good thing is you know what yo... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure my partner has cheated, but he's blaming his ex, can I believe him?
Q. Hi, like everyone else on here I have a strange situation. My partner and I have been together for two years. We have known each other for about seven years in total I guess. We don't live together but have businesses together, so are...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi again,
I would dump him now if I was you. But I'm sure you don't want to be left high and dry , so do what ya gotta do.
As I said before, not all us guys are cheats, you don't have to change you've just been unlucky. My wife isn't possessive... (read in full...)
Hubby left me, now wants to come back, I would just like some stability in my life, should I take him back?
Q. Hello just a quick question my son's father whom I am just starting to get over wnts to come back because his life sucks, he thought the grass was greener on the other side, but it wasn't. Me and my family are not getting along, I don't really have ...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi,
It look like you want him back for the wrong reasons. You et through a lot of stress when he abandoned you before, now he has faced the reality of running away with his bit on the side and realises the stability at home is the easier option. ... (read in full...)
Do guys that have "one nite stands" like to cuddle?
Q. Last year when my boyfriend and I broke up I met this cutie.. he's 24, I'm 32. We had an amazing nite of sex, but I got back with my boyfriend and I haven't talked to him since. Now I'm single again and last weekend I was out with friends and I ...
A. 21 November 2007: Quite possibly. But not because he's a cuddler.
He's probably just a cuddler as it is.
Not all guys who engage in one night stands want it to end there, if you connect with the girl on other levels as well then there's always hope. I found in m... (read in full...)
He's a serial cheater, but I want to be with him , how can I trust him though?
Q. My longterm boyfriend (just over 4 yrs) has lied to me many times about things relating to other women (who he is with, how close they are, etc). Often times I find out about these events through other people- he never comes forward until I catch ...
A. 21 November 2007: All serial cheaters have a girl they go home to. One who will put up with their infidelities turn a blind eye and pray they can change him.
First thing, if you think he is going to change just look at all the other stories on this site - they are... (read in full...)
We don't live together, but I help him out financially, now he's bought something for himself, is he taking advantage of me?
Q. This year my boyfriend was having trouble paying for school/gas. He's in his 2nd year of university and he has no other financial support other than me. He said he was BROKE so I got a part time job and gave him all of my paychecks, as well I gave ...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi,
this is a really interesting dilemma. For one, you have been supplying him with this financial help so its totally understandable that you get upset if he spends a lot of money on his computer.
But by the same token, does he have to get ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure my partner has cheated, but he's blaming his ex, can I believe him?
Q. Hi, like everyone else on here I have a strange situation. My partner and I have been together for two years. We have known each other for about seven years in total I guess. We don't live together but have businesses together, so are...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi there,
Oh dear, I'm sorry to say but that is one of the most pathetic excuses I've heard. I guess he didnt expect to be put on the spot so he didnt have an excuse ready.
Look, 18 months is a hell of a long time for an ex girlfriend to wa... (read in full...)
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