My fiance can't come through sex, he wants a blow job which I find revolting
Q. okay. I've been in a relationship of a little over a year now and engaged for a bit of it. But my finance can't cum during sex. he can cum using his hand fine, this bothers me a bit, but I have gotten over it to some extent. I still feel bad for ...
A. 10 January 2008: Hi,
If you find bj's disgusting I can assume that you are not the most adventurous during sex? i.e. dirty talk, role plays, toys etc?
For a lot of guys it can be hard to come during sex if the girl is non adventurous, the longer it goes o... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and we divorced, but we want to try again, should we?
Q. Please help?? I got divorced last year after my husband had an affair, the whole break up was very painful as we had been together since I was 17 I am now 27 and only married for about 8 months. It nearly lead to me taking my own life I had a ...
A. 10 January 2008: Hi,
I have to say you seem rather nonchalant about dumping your current boyfriend to go back to your cheating ex. He is also prepared to cheat on his new girlfriend. This is not really a good track record. In fact you are both being very dishones... (read in full...)
I slept with him and now he's avoiding me, what's gone wrong?
Q. hi, i'm a 20 yr old girl and i've recently met this guy who works at my gym. we went on 1 date on boxing day, which was great fun and a couple of days later i met his mum and stayed the night. we talk for hours and had a great time and I ended up ...
A. 10 January 2008: Hi,
I agree with starfairy, he is most likely one of these guys with double standards who believes a girl who puts out on the first date is easy.
Although I would add him taking you to meet his mum doesnt really support this theory too much. Ho... (read in full...)
My mother has disowned me. Waht can I do?
Q. im a young girl that needs help!!!! my dad left 8 years ago so it has only ever been my mum sisters and brothers but now i have my own flat my mother has disowned me. a big argument kicked of with my sister and her ex in my flat my boyfriend wal...
A. 10 January 2008: Hi,
can you elaborate? What shouldnt be happening here?... (read in full...)
How does a female get in on the dating scene?
Q. How does a 26 year old female go about the scene of dating, relationships, and becoming intimate? It feels so late in the game!...
A. 10 January 2008: Don't stress about it that's for sure. The girls I know who leave it late in the dating scene usually give out this air of total desperation - which is a major turn off for guys.
Just be yourself, my wife always says there's no harm in flirting to l... (read in full...)
How does a female get in on the dating scene?
Q. How does a 26 year old female go about the scene of dating, relationships, and becoming intimate? It feels so late in the game!...
A. 10 January 2008: Don't stress about it that's for sure. The girls I know who leave it late in the dating scene usually give out this air of total desperation - which is a major turn off for guys.
Just be yourself, my wife always says there's no harm in flirting to l... (read in full...)
How can we spice things up in the bedroom?
Q. Alright, you all are probably going to think I am silly, because I am almost 30 years old. But, I have not given "head" to anyone in over 2 years. I want to do it now for my new boyfriend. The problem is that I am scared. I don't know if I will ...
A. 10 January 2008: Simple suggestion:
Use your tongue around the head a lot! Also the penis can never be too wet, if you are going to stroke the shaft make sure there is plenty of moisture - either use spit or get the lubricant out (personally I find it a huge tur... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend might be cheating on me
Q. hey guys, i have suspisions that my gf is cheating.. i hate to that but i cant help it. been dating for about 2 years now and shes being so weird lately.. everytime i ask to see her phone, she has to delete her msg's first. she always goes with...
A. 10 January 2008: Sorry dude, she's cheating on you alright.
Best to put this one down to experience and let her get on with her cheating ways. You guys sound young, some people just find it hard to stay faithful in their youth, if it makes it any easier she does... (read in full...)
Found receipts of my husband's, which I suspect to indicate porn watching. What do you think?
Q. What is Video Pay TV on a hotel receipt. Is it porn? Found it on some of my husbands receipts when he was away on business. He denies it is porn, but has viewed porn many times behind my back, and would deny it no matter what anyway. He says he ...
A. 10 January 2008: Hi,
I cant see too much of a problem. We men are generally non confrontational people and be honest, if he admitted that he watches porn while he is away are you sure you would be totally fine by it? I ask this because the tone of your post sug... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me other girls were better than me, how do I cope with the criticism?
Q. i am living with my boyfriend and have been for about 6 months. i love him to bits but he keeps on criticising me. he has said that 3 girls he has previously slept with were better than me because they were virgins and that i've had sex with too ...
A. 10 January 2008: HI,
He puts you down, says you have slept with too many men and you think he's a "lovely person" ??
He sounds like an arsehole. You can't get through to guys like this, they get off on demeaning the women in their life it makes up for thier own... (read in full...)
I discovered my husband had a flig with his ex when he was my fiance! Do I stay with him? Our daughter is 3.
Q. i just found out that my fiancee of 4 years has had a fling with an ex then arranged our marriage i only found out after we got married because she text him to say he was mad do i stay with him or not we have a 3yr old little girl...
A. 9 January 2008: Hi,
He has cheated on you, so he owes YOU an explanation.
I'm sorry I dont go for this advice about how marriage is a rollercoaster ride etc etc
He needs to explain himself as if he had no qualms about seeing this woman while he was engaged t... (read in full...)
We seem perfect for each other, but how should I wait?
Q. Am I looking for love of just desperate for it? I met this guy about two months ago and he is moving extremely slow. He has not completely broken ties with his old relationship, so I have not put up any pressure. However, we are both single ...
A. 9 January 2008: First , my apologies for the poorly worded heading ( I'm the moderator)
Can I get you to confirm what you said is correct?
"also confirmed by a relative that his current relationship is nothing serious". I hope that is a typo ( like mine!) as th... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that I'm not as knowledgeable as him?
Q. Dear Cupid: I met a guy at my college about 9 months ago. He is very well spoken and knowledgeable about a lot of social issues. He's quite an activist and I love that about him. Good signs right? The problem is that he intimidates me. ...
A. 9 January 2008: Hi,
don't worry about it. He is seeing you because he likes you not because you are up to date on all the social issues.
I am quite active myself in causes but I would never judge anyone if they were'nt fully versed in these matters.
... (read in full...)
My mother has disowned me. Waht can I do?
Q. im a young girl that needs help!!!! my dad left 8 years ago so it has only ever been my mum sisters and brothers but now i have my own flat my mother has disowned me. a big argument kicked of with my sister and her ex in my flat my boyfriend wal...
A. 9 January 2008: Hi again,
They really are being very mean. As I said before let time take its course, you will not be seperated from your nieces and nephews for that long, sooner or later their mum will want a babysitter who is free of charge!
But replay in yo... (read in full...)
I think I've made a huge mistake marrying him, any advice?
Q. We have only been married for 50 days (before that we dated for three years)and I am already feeling trapped in this marriage. Over the holidays, I found out my brand new husband has been carrying on a phone/email/text message "friendship" with his ...
A. 9 January 2008: Hi,
If I did this to my wife I wouldn't expect my keys to fit in the door when I got back home. My stuff would be lying in the garden in tiny little pieces .
I hate to advise anyone to split up, but unless he can show genuine remorse for what he ... (read in full...)
I found my brother and his business partner making out, they are both married, should I say something?
Q. I just went by my brother house to pick something up of mine, I have a key, so I went on in the house. When I opened the door, he was making out with his female business partner. I played it off like I didn't notice, and I don't think he or she ...
A. 9 January 2008: Hi,
It's not your place to tell any of the wives or other family what happened.
However, you should have a word to your brother. You were put in this uncomfortable position through his lust and that is not right. ... (read in full...)
My mother has disowned me. Waht can I do?
Q. im a young girl that needs help!!!! my dad left 8 years ago so it has only ever been my mum sisters and brothers but now i have my own flat my mother has disowned me. a big argument kicked of with my sister and her ex in my flat my boyfriend wal...
A. 8 January 2008: They sound very mean and vindictive. If the kids are blanking you I find that hard to believe, that means they have poisoned their minds against their aunt, at such a young age that is despicable.
But time heals all wounds, give it a few weeks then... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend who is homosexual that I'm falling for him? I'm afraid of my confession ruining the friendship.
Q. i have a gay best friend, and i think im starting to fall for him. i know he had previous girlfriends but its men that really interest him. should i tell him that i'm falling for him? but im afraid of being rejected and i dont want to lose our ...
A. 8 January 2008: Sorry mate, but there's a world of hurt waiting for you if you tell him how you feel.
Gay men like girlfriends as they can confide in them and be touchy feely without any sexual overtones.
Once you tell him how you feel your relationship will nev... (read in full...)
I can't get over the thought of her having sex with this other guy. How can I get it out of my head?
Q. Hello, I really need some help. It all started 2 years ago when the love of my life walked into my house. I fell in love and we got together. My life was great for about 2 months until she started acting different. And she ended up breaking up w...
A. 8 January 2008: Any girl you date, live with, or marry will have a sexual history - you are punishing her for your lack of experience.
Just get over it or alternatively let it eat away at you until the moment your partner realises she cant take this anymore and ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if he genuinely likes you, or just wants your body?
Q. How can you tell the difference between a guy liking you vs. a guy just wanting your body? I have noticed either way they flirt, compliment and just make you feel good. What are the differences? How can you tell if he is telling the truth when ...
A. 8 January 2008: Its very easy. Men are pigs! We all flirt, we all cant help a sneeky peek if you look darn sexy , but the gentlemen among us know that if you try and pounce on a girl then she is not going to respect you.
My own personal M.O was to hang out for ... (read in full...)
My mum doesn't want my grandma at my wedding, what can I do?
Q. I need help again. Please refer to my last question (about my controlling mother) for more in-depth background information. Really quickly- planning a wedding, mom and her own mother (my grandmother) do not speak. Mom has said she isn't allowed ...
A. 8 January 2008: Ditto,
Your mother needs to know her place. Your Grandma is the one who is prepared to let bygones be bygones for the sake of her Granddaughter.
There is only one option, tell your mother that you love her but she is not going to receive an i... (read in full...)
She consented to sex but is now crying rape
Q. My friend was telling me this story about him and it has made me a bit confused. He and his girlfriend had sex for the first time a few days ago. He asked her if she wanted to have sex (they were both sober) and asked her every now and then if ...
A. 8 January 2008: You may have to accept the fact that your friend is lying to you as well. In any event if she has been raped there are usually signs of forced entry which will be determined by a medico.
Don't let it put you off girls, I just feel your friend i... (read in full...)
We are both soldiers, but when I get home I don't know if I can trust myself, why is this?
Q. I have been married a little over a year now and we are both soldiers and might be for a while(meaning frequent seperation) We are both deployed and I love my husband very much! But when I get home I don't know how to trust myself? Will it be like ...
A. 8 January 2008: Hi,
you are a little vague in what happens when you get home. do you mean that you are unfaithful to him when you are home or merely thinking about it?
If you actually are unfaithful then you need to get some counselling, you are in a stressful ... (read in full...)
I messed it up with her on the big date, we are friends now, should I try again?
Q. Hi all, First, my apologies for this being so long!!! I met a girl online via one of the dating websites last March, she was just finishing law school and studying for the bar exam at the time, so we only had 3-4 emails between us until we f...
A. 8 January 2008: Mate,
you got to ask her out. Otherwise it will simply eat you up inside. You are looking for a relationship and so is she, if you are not compatible there is only one way to find out, start dating.
If you carry on as you do, she will invaria... (read in full...)
I thought we were both virgins, but she isnt , can we still have a future?
Q. I am just about to get married, and I am still a virgin. I just found out my future wife has had sex with a couple guys before me. I was hurt when i found this out...and still am...because I was expecting her to be a virgin too... I love her very ...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi,
I can see a future post in a few years here. We see them all the time they usually run along the lines of " My wife slept with other men before we were married and I can't get it out of my head"
You need to sort this out with her, do not... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend was caught looking at gay porn
Q. Hi, I am 26 years old and have been with my boyfirend for almost ten years we have two boys together. I have caught him in the past watching straight porn which is fine but this morning I caught him watching gay porn. What does this mean it upset me ...
A. 7 January 2008: I hate to burst the bubble. But from a male's perspective I have never heard of any guy who looks at gay porn who isnt at least bisexual. Straight guy's simply do not look at gay porn. He may be bisexual though and is just exploring another side of ... (read in full...)
I want to emigrate but it will upset my parents. How do I overcome this hurdle?
Q. Hi - hope you can help. I'm 31 and am so worried as I want to emigrate to Australia this year (asap) and have done lots of research and made plans but I have not told my family. I have hinted how nice it would be to live there after I visited the ...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi,
I lived in the U.K for 10 years, managed to make it back to Australia on three occasions in that whole time.
Such is life, the only reason you feel so guilty is your mother has put you in this position. I have met so many people on my travel... (read in full...)
My cheating husband, turning it around
Q. I just found out my husband cheated. I discovered and accessed a secret email acct and saw he had a profile on adult friend finder and replies to postings on craigslist, most recently while away for work w/ a call girl. I confronted him, he denied ...
A. 7 January 2008: I'm sorry to say he is treating you like this because you let him. You say you are trying to cuddle up and get close back in bed - after he has admitted cheating on you and shown no remorse? No wonder he feels he can put the blame on you, you are an ... (read in full...)
Is this rape? Should I forgive him?
Q. I met this guy 8 years ago, I was madly in love with him however, it turned out he was gay! it took me a couple of years to get over him. I have then moved on with my life and moved into a differnt province. I lost touch with him about 5 years ago. ...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi,
you really need to see a rape counsellor now. As soon as you can. This monster has raped you and if you are starting to believe his story remember his actions were premeditated. He carried this drug around with him waiting for his moment t... (read in full...)
My boyfriends ex wrote me saying he was abusive, should I take her advice?
Q. I've been dating my current bf for a little less than a year now. When I got together with my bf, he'd just broken up with his gf not too long. He said she was unfaithful and they had problems long before the breakup. I knew that the girl wanted to ...
A. 7 January 2008: O.K , It sounds like the ex is just trying to get you to stop going out with him. Most likely, but your friends did say he was jealous? In what way? and how do they know and not you? You need to delve into that a bit more, but in a way we are all ... (read in full...)
How can you live with a bossy controlling man, the nice ones bore me
Q. How do you stay in a relationship with a difficult man? And don't tell me they don't exist, I see them all the time. They're the guys who lose their temper over every little thing, think they have to tell a woman what to do all the time, are bossy ...
A. 7 January 2008: Whoever said " treat 'em mean keep 'em keen" was spot on huh?
Geez these type of posts worry me. so many girls say they love being treated like shit otherwise life's boring - cripes, what a life you must have.
I just hope some girls can post on ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend right to resent my best friend -who is a female
Q. My girlfriend seems to resent my best friend -a female and it is affecting our relationship. We all work in the same company and my gf and friend live near each other too. Sue has been my friend for many years - we are very close, she is in an ...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi,
There are two problems here. One is the age old question of whether guys and girls can be pals while in relationships with other people. Most believe its not possible as sexual tension is a very real thing and best mates can have a few too ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to sleep with a male prostitute to get pregnant!
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26, and we've been married for 3 years now. We have a good lifestyle and our sex life is good. My husband is a very nice person, well-liked and popular and doesn't get jealous when I'm with other guys or on girls' nights ou...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi,
I almost didnt post this question as I thought it a cuckold fantasy masking as a real question. I hope I'm right.
It is just so bizarre, the first thing that popped into my head was maybe his is sterile and you dont know it. This could be his... (read in full...)
What's up with these men I meet, any ideas from the guys out ther?
Q. Any answers from men in particular would be appreciated. I have been dating again for about a year after eight year and I've dated a handful of men during that time who have behaved in a manner that I find irritating. On the around the fifth...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi,
they appear to be operating within the boundaries you set them. So its not surprising they use you as a sounding board for their past loves and lives.
But from what you've said about them they do appear a little wierd. The stuff with the las... (read in full...)
My bf wants to try bondage, is this a good idea?
Q. hi my bf wants 2 do some bondage he has done it a bit with his past gf's but i have never done anything like it i am a bit scared to try new things but want to please him sexually as we have become less interested in each other sexually we have been ...
A. 7 January 2008: There is no harm in trying new things. But the key thing is you need to be comfortable.
If you find you don't like it , it should end there. Your boyfriend needs to be sensitive to your inexperience and ease you into it, if he is too rough or... (read in full...)
I'm a faithful wife and mother, but there's this guy at work I cant get out of my head, advice please
Q. I can’t discuss this with my family, girlfriends or husband. Maybe someone out there can help to enlighten me. I am a happily married woman with kids. I’ve been married almost twenty years, to a wonderful man, that I love very much. He i...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi there,
You admitted that your sex life with your husband has improved since you have been fantasing about this guy.
This is a good thing and your husband is reaping the benefits. Now if you could only leave it at that everything would be jus... (read in full...)
My ex cheated, am I ready to hit the dating game?
Q. I am reposting this as one of the agony aunts/uncles said it is better to post on a monday and I was hoping for more replys. Thankyou. I am a mum of two children, aged 24. I recently broke up with my childhood sweetheart (father of kids) almost ...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi,
Personally I haven't had a relationship with a woman with kids, but if it were me it wouldn't be a problem. But having said this it would be a problem if : 1. The girl was not over her ex , with the kids I would be thinking the ex is going to... (read in full...)
Do any men like giving oral?
Q. I have only ever been with the one man in my life and he does not enjoy performing oral sex on a woman. He claims that men just DON'T like it at all. This may be a stupid and very obvious question I should know the answer to, but because I have o...
A. 7 January 2008: His claim is a load of rubbish. Sure some guys don't like it, but they are also the same guys who usually insist on the their girl giving them oral!
At the end of the day you cant force him to, but maybe its because he simply doesnt know what to ... (read in full...)
He is my first date with an uncircumcised penis and that... turns me off. I want to break up, should I tell him why?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a little over 3 months now. I think he's great and want to have a long-term relationship with him. The problem is, I don't sleep with my boyfriends until we've dated a little while aad I'm sure I really like them for ...
A. 7 January 2008: To me you sound like a shallow insensitive young lady.
I'm sure though you will meet someone equally shallow and insensitive to enjoy your life with. ... (read in full...)
8 years down the drain in exchange for somebody she knew for a matter of weeks; she had been unfaithful on other occasion, before this. I'm so confused, thinking I did something wrong!
Q. I would like to share my story with you all it is unique in its own way and i would very much appreciate any help and advice you can give me. Me and my ex were together for 7 years 6 months i am now 25 and she is now 23, we met when we were teenager...
A. 3 January 2008: Hi,
sorry dude, we see a lot of stories like this especially where two people get together at a very young age. One usually gets cold fee at some stage and feels as though they are missing out on life by committing to only one person.
It looks ... (read in full...)
Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 3 January 2008: "I think if more people received general knowledge in a simple form not based on a particular religion but based on "Gods Word" as it states in the original Bible then the true meaning of "God" would be exposed".
Hi, I am one of the moderato... (read in full...)
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