I'm being used by every man in my life and constantly controlled
Q. I keep ending up in two types of relationships and I have no idea how this keeps happening! I either end up in one where it becomes nothing but sex, or one where the guy WILL NOT let me not date him or break up with him. The guys who DO want a ...
A. 7 July 2015: This keeps happening to you because you let it. Stand up for yourself and don't do anything that you don't want to.... (read in full...)
If my girlfriend truly loves me then why does she talk to other guys?
Q. My girlfriend said she loves me and can't live without me but talks too guys and let's them call her sexy ass and other stuff if she truly loved me would she keep talking to guys ...
A. 5 July 2015: Insecurity... She needs other people's approval for her self esteem to be high.... (read in full...)
I know that I have to move on and find someone else but how do I deal with all of these feelings of guilt, regret and jealousy in the meantime?
Q. Bit of a long and I'll admit quite a convoluted question here. A while back I told one of my friends that I liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but she said that she didn't feel the same way. Anyway, we stayed friend...
A. 15 June 2015: Your issue is not the girl, it's insecurity. While it's tempting to look at this as if there is something wrong with you, it's only an issue of compatibility.
Maybe she likes jerks, guys with beards, sailor tattoos, skinny guys, muscular guys, sm... (read in full...)
Met online. Do I move on or give him another chance? His need to 'control' bothered me.
Q. I joined a dating site hoping to meet new people and if i was lucky then to meet a guy and have a relationship with. I've been chatting to a guy for 3 week and we decided to meet. The date was ok. A couple of times he was on his phone selecting ...
A. 15 June 2015: If it was meant to be you wouldn't be here asking this question!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated in a past relationship! Should I leave him before he cheats on me?
Q. If my boyfriend cheated on his ex girlfriend (this was before he knew me or was dating me) would he also cheat on me? As far as I know (from what he has told me) he only cheated once. Do you think I should end our relationship now because he WILL ...
A. 7 June 2015: I cheated on one of my girlfriends a few times, but have never done it with anyone else. It had nothing to do with my feelings for her or our sex life, it was just a complex situation.... (read in full...)
He says there is is no need to spend on me until we get married!
Q. I'm 24year plus and my guy is 30 plus we both love eachother despite i was aware that he had a child out of wedlock and he is a contractor by proffession and im a pertime student and working as a secretary in a small studio where i earn little ...
A. 5 June 2015: He's not your sugar daddy, so while I understand you wanting him to support you, it has nothing to do with love. He's got his bills, you have yours.... (read in full...)
Are there guys out there who actually don't like strip clubs?
Q. Are there guys out there who actually DON'T like strip clubs? I live in a mining town and strip clubs are starting to pop up everywhere, and since mining is a very male dominated field, guys go there after work to bond, and blah blah. I've been tol...
A. 5 June 2015: I don't care for them but am not morally opposed to them. I just don't like fake people and spending a bunch of money. I also prefer to see my wife naked at this point.
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I like girls but like to watch gay porn and don't get turned on by girls. Am I gay?
Q. I still like girls but i like to watch gay porn and i dont get turned on by girls alot am i gay?...
A. 5 June 2015: It's not always "gay, straight, bisexual", you may be somewhere in between. You're young and will figure things out with time, so don't worry about it and don't be ashamed. There are plenty of people out there just like you and plenty of people who ... (read in full...)
Can women realistically start a family past 30?
Q. I suppose the purpose of this question is to hear from women who have started a family after the age of 30. Those of you in the UK might have seen that a top fertility doctor has just said publicly that women who want kids should try before t...
A. 2 June 2015: Where I live it's more common to have kids in your 30's than in your early 20's.
Fertility does go down and complications do go up, but it's certainly doable, just make sure you're as healthy as you can be.... (read in full...)
Are men turned off by bigger women?
Q. I've always been a bigger woman and I've always wondered if it was a turn off to men. I'm overweight, nothing too drastic. I have bigger hips and thighs than the average normal weight person. This is the result from years of eating prob...
A. 2 June 2015: Don't worry about the guys who aren't attracted to you. There are guys who like all types. When you're talking to a guy, assume he's attracted to you until you have a reason to think otherwise. And if that happens, don't be offended, just move on.... (read in full...)
So men, does it have to be one or the other? Do you think he just doesn't want me?
Q. I am a good person, devoted and loyal to my boyfriend. Problem is his porn addiction and total obsession with woman, his rude comments hurt and he knows I don't like it, but hasn't stopped. Sex is very rare and mostly he wants oral sex. I'm lonely ...
A. 1 June 2015: Sounds like you're with the wrong person. I don't know his problem, but everyone is different. Your problem, however, is that you shouldn't be with him anymore. It is obvious.... (read in full...)
Can you think of examples where a woman initiated a relationship? I need some examples to demolish my long held view that this never happens.
Q. Because it seems, to me, that all boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are still initiated by the guy, where the man approaches the woman first, talks to her first and asked her out first, initiated everything or almost everything in the ...
A. 31 May 2015: My experience is that it's mutual, you just have to get good at reading the signs and have the courage to make a move. Easy.... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? I am homeless, pregnant and I think the other women in the shelter do not like me
Q. Am a new immigrant. Came to live in the u.s with my sister 3 months ago but she kicked me out onto the street after facing the realities of a pregnant woman..i.e throwing up and bring generally slow and demotivated. She knew I was pregnant bef...
A. 31 May 2015: Being pregnant is tough, even when life is otherwise fine. A lot of guys joke about their wives (or girlfriends) going crazy when they're pregnant.
In saying this because you're living in an environment full of homeless pregnant women, and I th... (read in full...)
Not sure how she feels. But should I try to do some extra nice things for this customer, who I really like, for when she gets back from trip to Japan?
Q. so this girl was a regular customer at my store, and we had so much in common. (How many girls love giant monster and horror movies lol) We started hanging out, nothing serious at all. We would watch cartoons together over Skype and text all the ...
A. 28 May 2015: I would not give her the gifts, maybe ONE gift, but you can't buy her with a bunch of stuff and by playing Mr. Nice Guy.
When she gets back, tell her you got something you thought she might like, and ask her out. Not as friends, but on a date.
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She says she don't remember her ex boyfriends sizes. Could it be?
Q. I am with a girl for about 5 yrs. I like her very much and our sexual life was very beautiful, until 3 months before, when disaster came. Here is what happened: I had never asked her anything about her past, I knew only what she had told me herself ...
A. 26 May 2015: Let's just say they were bigger. That doesn't mean better. She obviously didn't enjoy it and she obviously does with you. If you have an average size penis you basically have to accept the fact that you probably aren't the biggest she's seen.
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Feel betrayed, hurt, and extremely upset about her lies on her friendship/relationship with T. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for a little over two years, and have been together for nearly 6 years. About 7 months after we started dating I met her friend, (a guy called T), who she said was her best friend. At first I was a little put off,...
A. 24 May 2015: I think it's immature to believe that married men and women have to be fucking if they're friends.
She told you she didn't have sex with him because that's what you made her say so that you would be comfortable with their friendship. I'm not sayi... (read in full...)
Telling him how much I love him isn't working, so what's the best way to get him back?
Q. Two months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years after an argument. We had been having lots of arguments and it wasn't our first time breaking up. Now, 2 months later, I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life and I desperately want ...
A. 24 May 2015: I know you won't like my answer, but the harder you try to get someone back, the more it usually ruins your chances of every getting back with them.
There's no guarantee that anything will work, but the best thing you can do is move on and leav... (read in full...)
Is she trying to test me? How do I respond? My online Gf sent me two pictures of herself. She wants comment, but one picture is very unflattering.
Q. I asked my gf to send me her new pictures (of herself). I met her online. The problem is she send me two pictures. One is good and the other one is looking bad. She asked me that how those pictures look, to me. I'm really scared to say that "t...
A. 23 May 2015: My guess is that you've never met in person. I'm also going to assume that if that is true she has, up until now, only shown you the most flattering pictures of her.
So this could be a way to test the waters to see what you think of the way she real... (read in full...)
She says she don't remember her ex boyfriends sizes. Could it be?
Q. I am with a girl for about 5 yrs. I like her very much and our sexual life was very beautiful, until 3 months before, when disaster came. Here is what happened: I had never asked her anything about her past, I knew only what she had told me herself ...
A. 23 May 2015: It sounds believable to me. Some women are so nervous and uncomfortable when they're having sex with the wrong person that it just can't be enjoyable. They're too tense.
My wife has said similar things to me about her past. I never asked about sp... (read in full...)
Wife of 5 years says her heart was always with someone else
Q. I’m just devastated by the news that I just received, and just wondering if I can get perspective from other men and women. My wife and I have been married for 5 years, together for 7. I accepted her 2 children from her previous marriage with op...
A. 23 May 2015: Ouch, it would hurt. I however, see the bright side here. The truth is that she is absolutely not the right person for you. So by getting rid of her and moving on you will be freeing yourself to find the right woman for you.
I don't see any hope... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend's sex drive is suddenly higher lately, does that mean he is cheating? How can I determine this?
Q. If your boyfriend's sex drive is suddenly higher lately, does it mean he is cheating on you? We have always had amazing sex and he has had a healthy sex drive, like me, but just seems a little hornier the last week. Not sure why? We have ...
A. 20 May 2015: At the very least your question would make more sense is he suddenly didn't want any.... (read in full...)
Why does so much of porn refer to women by using demeaning names for the women?
Q. I was reading some other posts here and it got me thinking. Why does so much of porn refer to women by using demeaning names? I can't really repeat the titles as children may read her but even the biggest most popular sites have titles that refe...
A. 19 May 2015: To the lady that says pen is evil. It's just watching other people have sex. I think you're over reacting a bit.
To the OP: I don't understand why porn is (sometimes) like that. It's also often racist. It could be a dominance thing. Wishing ... (read in full...)
Wife refuses intimacy, except for procreation. Threatens to deny access to children. I can't put up with her behaviour. What can I do?
Q. It started almost the first month we were married, there was no intimacy. After years of no intimacy and no physical contact in our relationship, I was very resentful. The only time we had intimacy or physical contact was when she wanted children...
A. 19 May 2015: Unfortunately, your wife used you from day one. She wanted kids and some help supporting them. That's it.
There is nothing worth saving here. You'll still have access to your kids after divorce, and you'll be able to find someone who wants a ... (read in full...)
How to cope with a girlfriend who cheated on you and then left you for someone else?
Q. How to cope with a girlfriend who cheated on you and then left you for someone else? Please help. I was with my ex and I thought everything was great. She blindsided me by cheating. Before I found out about it, she broke up with me what felt lik...
A. 16 May 2015: People tend to think that when they get cheated in they did something to deserve it. The reality is that cheaters cheat, regardless if how good you are too then.
So, don't take it personal, it's not you, it's her.... (read in full...)
Could hormones be causing these feelings?
Q. In a bit of a dilemma here and hate feeling like this. I am pregnant with my second with a new partner have a three year old from previous who's dad does not bother with him. This man has been in our lives for two years but officiously together for ...
A. 15 May 2015: Yes, pregnancy is well known (by guys) to make women a little crazy. Don't expect them to tell you this to your face.... (read in full...)
Why is my cheating ex angry that I have moved on?
Q. This is just a general question. Why would an ex girlfriend who cheated and left you for someone else, get extremely mad when they discover you've moved on yourself? My ex cheated and played the back and forth game for weeks. One day, I was the love ...
A. 15 May 2015: Because she's crazy. I'd block her and forget about her.... (read in full...)
Two babies have changed my body. Guys are stretch marks and saggy boobs a turn off? Gals did you feel indecure about your body after pregnancy?
Q. I have a question to both the men and women on this site. How do you feel about stretch marks and saggy boobs? Please be honest. I am a recent single mom and I gave birth and breast fed 2 beautiful daughters almost back to back and my body ...
A. 12 May 2015: I don't think you should worry about what a few guys think. Everyone is different and you should just be yourself; what one guy doesn't like another will.
But, I don't recommend hiding yourself. If it makes you feel more comfortable you can brin... (read in full...)
Why does she love me so much!?
Q. My girlfriend of 2 1/2 years loves me endlessly despite everything we have been through. Our road has been rough but its always my fault. I've lied to her, cheated on her, left her and she always welcomes me back with open arms. Why?! I've told her ...
A. 10 May 2015: She doesn't love you as much as she acts like she does. She is like many other people who crave someone's love and attention when that person doesn't give it.
With some people, the worse you treat them the more they appear to like/love you.... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid? Or does my 55 year old Girlfriend have too many traits and behaviors of a chronic cheater?
Q. I'm 44 male and left my wife for a 55 year old hot lady. I've been married since 18 and rarely cheated, whereas she's been married 3 times and has 4 kids from 3 different men. She's cheated on all of them, been promiscuous, often having sex same ...
A. 4 May 2015: She sounds terrible in general, and I'd say she'll definitely cheat if she hasn't already. Maybe an open relationship would be a better idea.... (read in full...)
What can I do about my suspicions that my husband is having an affair? He's not reacted well when I asked.
Q. I have been married for 11 years and we have a 9 yr old child. Recently I feel that my hubby is not being truthful to me..... I feel he is having a extra marital.....if not an affair......maybe a friendship......stage of relationship with his sch...
A. 28 April 2015: If you think he's cheating and you don't have a history of paranoia then he probably is hiding something from you. It may not be an affair, but it probably is something.
Recently my wife meet a guy and was chatting on Facebook and texting on occas... (read in full...)
Are my large breasts an impediment to finding and dating a guy? I feel my breasts are a turn-off.
Q. I have large breasts ,( an e cup )and have been single a while now . It seems to me that men don't like big breasts and actually find them a turn off. I am beginning to feel insecure and think no man will ever want me as every guy I talk to or re...
A. 27 April 2015: Honestly, if your breasts make you look overweight that may be keeping some guys away. But for every guy it turns off there will be another one who loves them.... (read in full...)
What can I say or do? My libido is irksome for my Bf. Recently his persistence has led to doing things that made me uncomfortable.
Q. Ive been in a relationship for almost 4 years now and for the most part everything is great. However, when I started on birth control my sex drive decreased dramatically and when I switched from the pill to the implant it didn't get much better....
A. 26 April 2015: Maybe I sound like a jerk, but what's wrong with having sex with him to make him happy? Ice been on both sides, dead tired from work and my wife horny. I said yes nearly every time because there are way worse things than having sex when you're not ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong make up an alternative story for officials about how we met? She is my fiancée and we met via webcam. She was a webcam model.
Q. I met a woman. She was a webcam model. We fell in love, got engaged, and now are planning weddings. She is from Russia, me USA. We applied for fiancé visa and have the interview next week in Moscow. They will also ask us how we met, but we ar...
A. 26 April 2015: Lying won't get her in, it can actually create more trouble.
That being said you have a tough sell ahead of you... I hope you know what you are doing. If she makes it in you're likely going to have a broken heart in a few years.... (read in full...)
Receives phone calls from alleged strangers. Secretive with phone. Would it be OK to ask her to change her phone number?
Q. A few facts; I am in a same sex relationship I’m 26 and she’s 28 We have been together a year and a half I am her first ever same sex relationship. So my partner's phone is always on quiet, not even vibrate, just silent. When she wakes up ...
A. 22 April 2015: She'll still be the same person with a new number, it'll just be an inconvenience to have to give it out again.
You're with a cheater. Let's be blunt here. Sometimes it can be fixed, but in this case it's possible she needs attention from both wom... (read in full...)
Why should I have to accept gay people, just because others do?
Q. I no we're meant to accept gays but I cant help but think its wrong and I don't hate it but I find it wrong I'm 13 by the way. I don't get why gays should be taught about in schools because why should I have to accept just cos others do? I do...
A. 21 April 2015: Let me ask you a question: do you think being hay is a choice? Could you choose to be attracted to men? I know I couldn't.
It's either the way people are when they're born or it's the result of life experiences. But it's not a choice.
So what... (read in full...)
What are some tips or advice for helping with depression?
Q. Hi all. For the past few months I believe I've been dealing with depression. I had a break up with a serious boyfriend who I was with for over 3 years and self esteem issues regarding that, there's been job and money issues going on with me as well ...
A. 21 April 2015: Exercise, hike, etc. Getting outdoors is great for depression, as is physical activity.
I think a doctor is a pretty bad idea unless you're desperate. They'll just give you drugs with side effects (my wife took one that killed her sex drive an... (read in full...)
My online girlfriend got married, should I leave her?
Q. Should I leave my online GF of almost 3 years, after finding out she is married just a few months ago? she has 2 children at home,and she can't really talk or email because her husband is around,and we haven't spoke by phone since January,and not a ...
A. 19 April 2015: Uhhh,I think you should marry her too, the way you'd take her from him is to have a more expensive wedding.... (read in full...)
Should my girlfriend agree to come to a fetish club with me?
Q. I've been with my girl for 6 years now.She knows about my fetish for rubber clothing. We do normal things together ,like cinema, restaurants. But I want to experience a fetish club, which she's not into.I've asked her to go with me, just once is ...
A. 17 April 2015: You ask her once, and if she went, then what? What if you have a great time and want to go again?
You have the right to ask her and she has the right to say no. There is no right or wrong here.
It's just one of those times where someone wi... (read in full...)
I love my wife. I miss sex. I'm flirting online with an old friend. Help!
Q. I'm married, I love my wife we have a beautiful little girl together that will be turning 4 in a few months. I have never asked questions on a forum before but I like to give as much information as possible so you get the picture. I wo...
A. 17 April 2015: Is your wife on anti depressants?... (read in full...)
I need my fiance to grow up because I have to tell him I'm pregnant!
Q. My fiancee keeps changing his mind about what he wants, and whether he wants our wedding to go ahead, and now I'm pregnant I'm scared he will say he isn't sure if he wants a family. I'm just so confused by his behaviour and I need some advice on how ...
A. 17 April 2015: You're just going to have to tell him. You can't force him to grow up, you've tried that already. A baby will probably help, but whether it does or not only he knows.... (read in full...)
My gut is telling me there's something weird going on, am I too worried?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a guy for about two years now. He lives an hour and a half away so we see each other on the weekends. Recently, he's been in a class in which he is working with a girl I know and do not like. She used to date his...
A. 17 April 2015: Your gut will often feel things that aren't happening. In other words when a situation like this occurs you start to look for every little thing that doesn't seem right. All of a sudden you're being bothered by things you never would have noticed ... (read in full...)
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