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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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She say's she wants me to grow in my walk with God before we can have a relationship???
Q. I met a great, pretty girl at my college late this past summer. It felt like there was chemistry from the start, we were talking every day, hanging out a few times a week, texting alot, talking about fun things we could do in the future. It seemed ...
A. 9 October 2010: Perhaps you should remind her that what you two feel for each other is completely benevolent, from what you are describing, this is the most affectionate and romantic, none lustful relationship I have read about in a long time. Would God not smile ... (read in full...)
Why do so many marriages fail?
Q. Why do marriages fail? So many people get married, and feel that they are marrying their true love, while imagining that they will be together forever. They have relationships where the committment is "iffy" and there are lies and betrayals before m...
A. 8 October 2010: People always change and there will always be the risk of lies or some type of sorrow. Marriage is a commitment and people usually take this to heart, changing their ways because they view it as a larger promise, something sacred because marriage IS ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he really doesn't love me if he can't respect me enough to tell me the truth?
Q. Does it mean he really doesn't love me if he can't respect me enough to tell me the truth? I see lying as a lack of respect. And I have doubts that true love and disrespect can co-exist. People talk about lying to someone to "not hurt them," b...
A. 8 October 2010: The truth may not always be pleasant. The truth can sometimes be unbearable. Sometimes, the pain of knowing the truth is more terrible than the pain of knowing that a loved one is lying about something. People are often torn between their want to ... (read in full...)
Should we break up for good?
Q. I'm so confused with the situation I am in now with my boyfriend. I broke up with him in May because I felt that he was way too overprotective with me..that it always lead to arguments. He kept asking to come back and I always said to give it some ...
A. 8 October 2010: A part of me thinks that you shouldn't because you two were not actually dating at the time. The 6 weeks was his time alone. Another part of me thinks that you should break up with him because what he did shows that he had little faith or hope in ... (read in full...)
I Love Him, But Can He Forgive My Past?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two months now (not long huh?) and everything was fine last night. we were out with some friends having a meal and we had an arguement on the way home (i've been staying at his for the best part of a ...
A. 8 October 2010: I'm afraid there are only so many things you can do at this point. He needs to be on his own to think about everything and you need to give him that space because if he sees you without having thought thouroughly about his uneccessary jealousy. I ... (read in full...)
He cheated on his ex but says he wouldn't cheat on me because "he loves me"
Q. My boyfriend cheated on his ex girlfriend twice and he has openly told me. He went on holiday and had sex with a girl while sober. He then lied to his ex girlfriend about it and made up a story about someone kissing him and him not knowing how to ...
A. 8 October 2010: If it were only a one time thing, I would have suggested giving him a chance, perhaps if he were drunk the second time I would have suggested the same thing but, he did the both while he was sober. What really urges me to tell you to leave him is ... (read in full...)
Attraction to my cousin, is it wrong to take it to the next level?
Q. ok so here goes... when i was a little girl i was introduced to my cousin who was a bit older than me.. i was instantly attracted to him.. as the years went by me and my first cousin wasnt particulary close but .. still when we met up at family ...
A. 8 October 2010: Yes it would be VERY wrong. You are related by blood. Sexual relationships with blood relatives are very very wrong. There is no 'next level' with your cousin. It has to end there! Find someone who isn't your relative.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
If you're questioning if he's the one, then he's probably not, right?
Q. When do you know he's the right one? Or do you? I guess if you're questioning it, he probably is NOT the one?...
A. 8 October 2010: You will never find just one 'the one', there are 6 billion people on this planet and probably at least a couple of million 'the one's. How do you feel about him? Do you like him enough to stay with him, can you see a future with him? Would you say ... (read in full...)
I Love Him, But Can He Forgive My Past?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two months now (not long huh?) and everything was fine last night. we were out with some friends having a meal and we had an arguement on the way home (i've been staying at his for the best part of a ...
A. 8 October 2010: I doubt he it is something he will fully forget about, but I am sure he will calm down and start thinking rationally, after all, what's done is done, all you can do is make sure your future is better. He sounds a little drastic, as if you have been ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to spend more time with me ?
Q. I have a boyfriend but he does not spend much time with me and he won't invite me to his house. But the time we spend together is really nice and really romantic and I know he cares about me so how can I get him to spend more time with me ??? xxx ...
A. 8 October 2010: Talk to him and perhaps invite him over to your house if you have not done so already or you could just bring up the fact that you want to spend more time with him.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I almost raped my girlfiend. HELP!!
Q. ok so me and my girl have talked about sex. i'm ready she's not. i'm happy with that. she's happy with that. right? so then, we're happily making out when i feel i'm starting to lose control. i'm starting to go further automatically. so we stop and ...
A. 7 October 2010: Get away from her immediately. Seek professional help. You can talk to her over the phone or over the internet but until you are sure that this has been dealt with, it is best you stay away from her for now.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Do you think a constructive relationship can be built around such a mess?
Q. I'm not sure whether I like this girl. If you haven't read my last "question" I will give you a quick overview. She is an actress, very succefull in the UK when she was 18, most 16-25 year olds will know who she is. I recently met up with her ...
A. 7 October 2010: There is not really much of a mess here. It is nothing simple discussion cannot fix. Talk to her and tell her how you feel about the way things are going.
Do you want to date her? Perhaps you could help her achieve a more confident state of mind,... (read in full...)
New kid in school is bi, and I don't approve, what can I do?
Q. Just a few days ago, a new kid came to school. His half sister is one of my friends. He is really funny and not like total goth. Just yesterday, I learned that he was bi. I am Christian and don't believe in it. All my friend think its awesome and ...
A. 7 October 2010: Are you against him being bisexual? Know that it is not something you can force him out of. But why are you against it anyway? Did Jesus himself not say "love others as you love yourself"? He said that and in no way suggested that there were ... (read in full...)
How do you men folk define love, and do you believe it typically varies from a woman's viewpoint?
Q. I've heard that when you ask if a man loves you, and he says "yes", nine times out of ten this is the truth. BUT I've also heard that men define love differently. Should I be concerned if my guy has never told me how he defines love? I know it's not ...
A. 7 October 2010: What Cerberus described is generally real love. I do not think anyone can really disagree with that unless they have never really felt strong, undying love. I think the most undeniable feature of real love is the almost irresistable need to put ... (read in full...)
Should I feel insecure if I'm dating a woman who can beat me up?
Q. I'm not much of a fighter, and I have a question. Should I feel insecure if I happen to meet a gorgeous woman who could beat me in a fight? Is this a strange question, or is it a legitimate concern? Let's say she's a karate expert or somethi...
A. 7 October 2010: For starters...why on Earth would you get into a physical fight on the first date? No I do not think you should feel insecure.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Should I feel insecure if I'm dating a woman who can beat me up?
Q. I'm not much of a fighter, and I have a question. Should I feel insecure if I happen to meet a gorgeous woman who could beat me in a fight? Is this a strange question, or is it a legitimate concern? Let's say she's a karate expert or somethi...
A. 7 October 2010: For starters...why on Earth would you get into a physical fight on the first date? No I do not think you should feel insecure.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I am confused about what beauty is!
Q. i was feeling blue so i googled that i don't like myself and i saw someone talking about being depressed so when i saw this website i felt like this could be my escape to express myself; so i decided to sign up so here i am. i have be feeling ...
A. 7 October 2010: Because inside everyone knows that 'Hollywood' beauty was usually fake. People like Janice Dickinson have no real beauty, maybe they did once, maybe they were too afraid to let it go as they got older or maybe they failed to see it where it once ... (read in full...)
I want to be smart!
Q. This is such a boring question.. but... It seems that whenever I study really hard for a test, I never get the scores I want. Am I just a really bad test taker? Or am I not studying hard enough? How would I be a better test taker and have better ...
A. 7 October 2010: You could try to set a study schedule. Study for at LEAST 2 hours a day for two weeks prior to the test/exam. Perhaps it is not the study itself. Perhaps it is the technique you apply to studying. Reading out of a book is not nearly enough, ... (read in full...)
I want to keep my values *and* get asked out
Q. Hi I'm 13 years of age. A few days ago I realized that I really like one of my good friends. He is funny,and pretty good looking. A lot of my friends have said we would look good together, but I know he will never ask me out. The reasons why are ...
A. 7 October 2010: First off, at this point, I don't think any of your friends or people your age should have lost their virginity.
You can still make yourself to pretty and good in glasses. intelligence should not stop you from making yourself look good and feel... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm going nowhere, help!
Q. I will be 26 years old soon and the thing is I never had a girlfriend. I kept on getting rejected by women even though I never acted desperate, said anything stupid or said anything nasty to women. Eventually I kind of gave up, everytime I go out ...
A. 7 October 2010: Have you tried joining a club of sorts? Something social, speed dating I suppose is another option if you can find a place. The only advice I can give you is to keep meeting people, talk to them, get to know them and give them a chance to get to ... (read in full...)
54 year old boyfriend uninterested in sex!
Q. my boyfriend who is 54 yrs old doesn't show much interest in having sex, why is this I am a 47yr old woman and needs some expert advice?...
A. 7 October 2010: There is too little information here. Do you ever try to show your interest? Does he turn you down? Are you sure he is not starting andropause?(That is a little far fetched right now, he is only 54)
The best I can do is guess and assume that per... (read in full...)
Do men think women who don't like blowjobs are boring?
Q. Do men think that women who don't give oral sex are boring or no fun??...
A. 7 October 2010: It depends on the man. I personally would not find her boring if she did not enjoy a certain thing, perhaps she would enjoy others. It would only be after I know the full extent of her interests, I would make judgements, even then I would tend to ... (read in full...)
He's been using the word 'love' in our chats, should I tell him I've noticed or just carry on as normal?
Q. hi just a quick one, been here before, just need a little advise on what to do, my man, who i have been with for over a year and half, and we are in LDR, but we are fully committed do all a LDR does, he has a bit of a hard time telling me his ...
A. 7 October 2010: Have you tried using the word 'love' as well? That would show him that you did notice and it does mean alot to you and there would be little or no risk of embarassment. But only use that word if you really mean it.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
He dumped her, but apologized. Now she wants him back. How?
Q. My dear friend has endured a terrible break up. After 6 years of friendship which blossomed into love, he suddenly told her he can't love her the way he used to, and that he didn't want to talk to her about it. She begged him not to break up with ...
A. 7 October 2010: Nothing is impossible and some people do go through things like this, eventually reconnecting and getting re-involved with someone they used to date. The best she can do is try to rekindle the old friendship they once had and then go from there. ... (read in full...)
Why do I always ruin my relationships through paranoid jealousy?
Q. Why do i always ruin my relationships through paranoid jealousy? I have recently entered into a new relationship and as soon as i saw love forming i started to mistrust my partner. I have an insane paranoia and do not trust her whenever she is out. ...
A. 6 October 2010: I think you need professional help to determine the cause for this and perhaps a proper solution. I can only tell you that your issues with your girlfriend are uncalled for and unecessary. You know that already. Ask yourself this, is there anything ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend her boyfriend has kissed another girl? Is it even my place to say something when I am friends with both of them?
Q. I've been solid friends with this guy, A, for a while, and friends with his girlfriend of three years, B, for even longer. A and B have a very stable, happy relationship. But the other day A told me he'd kissed another girl, C, who he's liked fo...
A. 6 October 2010: It is not your place to tell anyone anything. What you CAN do is make it clear that 'A' should tell his girlfriend because you are right when you say that she deserves someone who'll make her happy. She needs to know, so make sure to tell 'A' that ... (read in full...)
I need to save my friend before he goes too deep into his depression and self pity!
Q. This isn't really a love question of my own accord, but more about my friend. His name on here is JazzedUp and is really good at answering people's problems from what I;ve read based on cmments. But I'm worried about him. He dated a girl named ...
A. 6 October 2010: You need to get him off the drugs if he is addicted. Get him help for it, try and get him to stop drinking because, drugs and alcohol never mix without terrible consequences. Listen to him if he needs to talk but make no mistake, the depression ... (read in full...)
She has been seeing another man behind my back! Despite this I still want us to work but trust is a major issue now....
Q. Hi , I am really in a mess. About a month ago I suspected my girlfriend of two years was cheating on me. I was right and she admitted everything to me 7 days ago. She has been seeing a work colleague and says she is falling in love with him . ...
A. 6 October 2010: There isn't much you can do. She wanted to have her space to think, to be by herself and figure out what she really wants and if she is indeed seeing him again, then I think the answer is clear. But if you really want this relationship to work, I am ... (read in full...)
Is swallowing harmful to my health?
Q. I want to go on a vaginal sex break coz i want my vagina to get back in shape.I know about kegel exercises but i think taking a break also will help.While on break,i intend to be giving my bf as many bjs as he wants (he's incredible at giving oral ...
A. 6 October 2010: Not to the extent of my knowledge...don't ask where I heard this but, apparently sperm has the same nutritional value as a carrot. Still, if you are sensitive to alkaline substances, I suggest you limit the amount of times you swallow. Otherwise, it ... (read in full...)
I secretly believe he will leave his wife for me! Am I mistaken?
Q. i've been having an affair with a man for the past six months. we really are in love. when we first got together we never thought that we would have feelings for each other the way that we do he is in a loveless relationship for convenience. him and ...
A. 6 October 2010: I honestly believe that you should stay away from this man. If not for the sake of morality then at least for yourself. He needs to take care of his son and his wife whom, even though is no longer recieving his love, might still have a desire to fix ... (read in full...)
Is our marriage doomed before it starts?
Q. My fiance and I just moved in together a few months ago. We had lived together before at his dad's, but this was our first place on our own. Ever since we moved in, he has been sleeping on the couch unless I beg him - then he is mad he has to sleep ...
A. 6 October 2010: I would rethink marriage. If a husband cannot be intimate with his wife, a whole barrage of emotional problems may follow. He needs to think about this relationship and what he wants. If he cannot show you his love with affection and closeness, the ... (read in full...)
Husband has just used me, will he ever miss me?
Q. I have been with my husband for 4 years. We just married 3 months ago and I am finding out that everything has been a big lie. He saw the sweet giving person I am and jumped on for the ride. He is 4 years younger than me. I have taught him alot ...
A. 6 October 2010: You sound like such an amazing wife. He definitely does not deserve someone like you and you do not deserve an incompetent harlequin of a husband like him. You deserve someone better. That goes without question. Leave him, whatever hindrance he ... (read in full...)
I"m 14 and my best friends wants a FWB relationship
Q. Im 14 and i just found out my best friend has liked me since 5th grade. We were on the phone a few days ago and he wants to be "friends with benifits" Well i like him alot to and i kinda do wanna be to. but he has a rep of just using people. I can't ...
A. 6 October 2010: This is not a good idea. I am sure you were expecting this answer already, you are far too young for this sort of thing. You are too young to get tangled in the complexity of such 'friendships', should things go wrong (and they often do) you will ... (read in full...)
Confused By Really Strong Feelings For An Old Friend, What Can I Do?
Q. hi, I cannot stop thinking about my male friend, I've been friends with since childhood. We are adults now, he has a girlfriend, who I admit is beautiful. Recently I can't stop fantasizing about being with him physically. He's been on my mind ...
A. 6 October 2010: What can you do apart from move on? Or, if he really is a close friend, you could tell him how you feel. That could ease the rush of your thoughts. But, to be honest, that is probably not the best idea since he is in a relationship and doing ... (read in full...)
How do you KNOW if it's love?
Q. How do you know if its love? I have never been in love, I've had plenty of crushes, but that's not the same thing is it! Yet I have to admit to myself that I cannot get a certain man off my mind. Whenever we meet, he is always teasing me and I...
A. 6 October 2010: Well what do you think it is? No one else can really ever tell you what love is. Different people feel it in different ways, they show it in different ways and no one will ever truly know when they feel it. Some people are sure that the love someone ... (read in full...)
He just wont talk to me! Why wont he tell me why?
Q. Hi there, i need your help, its a long story but i'll try to cut it short. basically i fell in love with this guy and i thought the feeling was mutal. He just seemed to shy to say, afew things happened but i still didnt say anything a...
A. 6 October 2010: I don't think even he knows why he treats you that way. But, if he is a good person, he will try hard to find a way to change. I'm afraid all you can do get on with your own life, if he decides that he wants to be a friend in your life again, so be ... (read in full...)
What are the important things to feel in a long term relationship?
Q. What do you think are important things to feel in a long term relationship for it to stay strong and work well for a long time? I feel content with my boyfriend. As well as happy, stable, comfortable, loved, fulfilled and open. There's a lot of...
A. 5 October 2010: Well, let me answer that with another question. If he told you that he was going to break up with you tomorrow, would you really care? If you would, if you know that you would probably begin crying immensely, then everything is fine. If you realize ... (read in full...)
Torn between my husband and my ex......
Q. My first true love and I recently reconnected. 10 years ago I had a burning desire to move to California. It was a dream I always had and nothing was going to stop me. My ex and I were on and off and when I decided to move we were not together so ...
A. 5 October 2010: Is the fire you have for this other man stronger than the love you have for your current husband? If it is then perhaps you should leave your husband but if it isn't, if you think to yourself that you cannot possibly decide, do you not think that ... (read in full...)
Can my boyfriend force me to give up our child?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I might be pregnant. I've only ever been with one guy (my bf of a year and a half) and I've always told him that if I got pregnant by accident, the only option for me would be to keep it. I've scheduled a doctor's appt to find ...
A. 5 October 2010: Sorry for writing twice, something was wrong with my computer and I thought the first one wasn't sent...... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me?
Q. Okay... Well first off I need help and want to know if a Certain teacher likes me. Let's call him Mr.B. Anyways I'm 16 junior and there's a teacher who I've known for quite a while I've had him for 2 years and ive known him since I was in 6th grad...
A. 5 October 2010: You could be friends with him, but, I would advise against any attempts of taking it any further than just friends. He is a teacher and you are an underaged girl if not a student. I suppose it would be alright when you are over 18 but for now, do ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be in love with a married man 13 years my senior?
Q. i opened this account to just ask...that is it ok if iam in love with a married man who is aroung 13...14 yrs older thn me. i love him so much...we talk on phone..he says he loves me and he loves his wife also...its driving me nuts...plz help!!!!11...
A. 5 October 2010: You cannot force love to come or go. But please do not act on it. Please cut off all communication with him, do not provoke anything you will both regret. He says he loves his wife and he is already married, so let him rekindle things with his wife ... (read in full...)
Can my boyfriend force me to give up our child?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I might be pregnant. I've only ever been with one guy (my bf of a year and a half) and I've always told him that if I got pregnant by accident, the only option for me would be to keep it. I've scheduled a doctor's appt to find ...
A. 5 October 2010: If I may, your boyfriend is a coward and a dishonorable excuse for a vile man. To have threatened you with a break up in your time of need. Whatever your choice, break up with him.
As for the child. Please do not even consider putting the child up... (read in full...)
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