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| | *oonridge McPhalify's profile:i've done a psychology degree but can see how a lot of the established ways are usefull but open to abuse by agents of social control (doctors/thought police).
i have been diagnosed as manic depressive but at the moment am not in any state that would be classed as serious. i appear to have things balanced by consuming omega three, b vitamins and dairy food, and have insight into irrational thought patterns because for a long time they came to dominate my thinking.
i like to see things from a logical point of view, see myself as quick to analyse and tend to back away from situations to view them objectively.
i love drugs and have for years but have more control over myself now than i ever did in the past. being bipolar i came to rely on mood controlling agents as i had great difficulty with wild mood swings. i am no longer experiencing problems with my mood and as such my drug use has calmed down (or matured).
i am single but am making an effort and hopefully something good will come along. i'm very picky though and dont want to be in a relationship for the sake of it
i am gay and while this is an issue (as it would be to anyone in a society where it is tolerated rather than accepted), i dont consider it to be a defining feature of myself. i prefer to associate with people because i find them interesting rather than because of labels.
i love agony aunt columns and friends say i give good advice (though they would wouldn't they). either way this is a hobby and a fun one at that. it also satiates my nosiness without having to impose it on people that could cause me to be known as nosy/interfering.
i am actively making an effort to find love but am wary of people. the risk has to be worth it as love tends to send me (literally) crazy. |
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Involved with drugs, my lifestyle led to troubles in my relationship, how can I set things right?
Q. over and over she tried and over and over i lied and over and over she cried.it was 5 years we were together i was almost never at our apt. i do drugs and sell them to. I never let her see me on them. I lied to stay away and she also loaned m...
A. 8 February 2008: have you got a problem with meth? specifying what drug makes your message(which seems to lack disclosure of certain things you know but are maybe embarassed to admit) easier to answer. The answer is i'm guessing that she has had more than enough ... (read in full...)
13 and in want of sexual toys - how to buy one/ask my parents?
Q. im 13 and i want some condoms and sexual stuff like that how should i ask my mum to get me some orhow do i get some??? [Added] im 13 and want to get a butt plug becasue im sexually active i dont no how to ask my parents im to embarassed i rea...
A. 8 February 2008: lots of people are sexually active yet dont use a butt plug... if you do use one then be carefull as your posterior might not react well and you might need those nappies they put on grannies in old peoples homes-not very sexy... (read in full...)
He's all I can think about.
Q. Hi, I'm bisexual and I have a friend who's the same age and sex as me who I have been sexually attracted to for several years. He was my roommate in high school for 1 year and I have never come out to him. I have fantasies about him and have been ...
A. 8 February 2008: this is a situation i'm in and its a pain in the arse to be quite frank. there are a number of solutions
-avoid his company
-get new interests on your horizon
-tell him that your into men but leave it at that
-be seen to be uninterested(i... (read in full...)
We had sex and then we broke up! Can I really be put in jail because of this?
Q. Ok, I was dating this girl for over a year, and we had sex a few months ago. Just recently (last night) we broke up, I do love and care about her, I just felt like the relationship was far too serious, and I did not want to be in anymore. After we ...
A. 4 February 2008: if she tries to have you charged deny it ever took place...
two can play at that game... (read in full...)
He tells me I'm stupid for asking.
Q. hi there im in a relationship with a fella that i think is just using me when we first got 2gether everythin happened so quickly. got pregnant got engaged got pregnant again. he always puts me down when other people is present but just recently he ...
A. 2 February 2008: he sounds like a total arse. leave before he sucks you into a spiral pit of ever decreasing self esteem. take the kids if you have them and leave!... (read in full...)
Would love to reveal my sexual orientation to my parents and friends, but I am scared of their reaction. How do I put it?
Q. I'm 22 and live in London UK. I have known that I'm gay since early adolescence. I started to meet guys off the internet, and go to gay bars and clubs. Up to now, the only people I have told I'm gay are other gay men, who have absolutely no ...
A. 2 February 2008: i would test the water with my own peer group first as religion and conformity can have a strange effect on people
come out to your closest friends and if anyone tells your parents without your permission then deny it and cut them away from you... (read in full...)
My gf shouts at her 10 year old daughter! How do I tell my gf to stay calm?
Q. My girlfriend shouts at her daughter when she's been bad. As you'd expect her daughter ends up crying. I don't like it either. I'm not a parent but if I ever think she's not behaiving I turn her TV off or something like that and try my best to stay ...
A. 28 January 2008: maybe she has a high metabolism (daughter) or maybe mother and daughter need thyriod checkups with a doctor (temper and skininess). also she may be entering puberty and going through growth spurts-make sure the food she eats is healthy or the hunger ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to resent the fact that he can afford to go out but not come to see me??
Q. I've been with my partner for about year and a half, we're now living apart in different countries due to my work commitments. The thing is he's just lost his job and has a mortgage and bills to pay. So he can't afford to come and see me as much ...
A. 25 January 2008: in that case this changes things, he is less interested i would assume. Maybe you dont have enough things in your life outside the relationship, maybe he feels you put your work before the life you two made together originally (if you were forced to ... (read in full...)
How is it possible I'm not doing it with him but have been so successful before??
Q. This is kinda embarrassing but the head of my boyfriend's penis is not sensitive.. ie. he gets no pleasure from it. He has a small node of nerve endings on the shaft (close to the head)which he says feels really good. Is this normal? How do i go ...
A. 25 January 2008: is he circumcised while your previous penis experiences were uncut? because if so the area around the circumcision scar could be sensitive(and maybe what he's describing)(or if he's not cut the banjo string {frenulum} from the head to the stem and ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to resent the fact that he can afford to go out but not come to see me??
Q. I've been with my partner for about year and a half, we're now living apart in different countries due to my work commitments. The thing is he's just lost his job and has a mortgage and bills to pay. So he can't afford to come and see me as much ...
A. 25 January 2008: you want him to come to see you but dont seem to see that if you are that bothered maybe you should make the effort to see him.
if your work is an important commitment then so is his mortgage and his social world, and people need a life of their... (read in full...)
55 Year old boyfriend that's married! Should I leave him?
Q. i am seening this man of the age 55 im am 20yr old male i love him he treats me so right that is when he isnt with his second wife and kids all his kids are older than me i know it sounds weird but wat can i do should i just walk away or stick it ...
A. 23 January 2008: he's making you a tool of his pleasure so do the same back.
i doubt you would love him if you had more opportunities so try and meet someone else more likely to be able to give what you need (this screams of the classic gay low self esteem find the ... (read in full...)
Mom's new husband seems to be pushing us all away from her!
Q. Hi everyone...I am having a problem with my mom's new husband. They first met about 6 months ago on the internet and decided to get married pretty much a month after meeting which was the first thing that bothered me since my mother has already been ...
A. 23 January 2008: we all love our mum but in not standing up for herself and you she is behaving in non-loving manner.
financially remove yourself from this situation and get a place with random roomates and see how that goes. get off the lease and leave.
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Marriage problem - midlife crisis or age difference?
Q. Hi I have been with the same (only) woman for nearly 30 years - she is older than me and has children from her first marriage. I love her very dearly, but aargh! I'm experiencing a real sense of restlessness - looking at other women, wanting t...
A. 22 January 2008: sound to me from your repeated statements that children is the issue
*her looks aren't a problem except that they remind you of her infertility
*you look at other women but only in sofar as they are your ticket to a living legacy
*you w... (read in full...)
Will a butt plug damage me?
Q. hi there, i would like to know what damage can be done to the anus if a butt plug is inserted and is kept there for 4-5 hrs a day every day...
A. 17 January 2008: have you heard of the term incontinency?
its not very sexy my horny kiwi friend
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He wants anal sex, I don't as it sounds really bad, am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to try anal sex. I have never done it and for some reason can't bring myself to do it. anyone have any words of wisdom. am I overreacting or is is as bad as it sounds....
A. 17 January 2008: if you want to do it go for it, as a man i dont know how much a women enjoys it (on average, i must ad). if he has a pointy cock (thin tip to phat base) it will probably be easier to adjust than if it is quite blunt at the bell, and all the ususal ... (read in full...)
BF of a year doesn't love me, wants to be with me yet fantasizes about other girls and idealises his ex...help!
Q. My problem is this. I'n my last year of uni, as is my bf who I have been with for just over a year, albeit with a couple of breakups, namely a couple of months ago when he split up with me after months of saying (supposedly not to get with other ...
A. 17 January 2008: i only read half of this as it got VERY boring but the gist of it up until halfway was that i think he just was in a relationship with you as he didn't want to be alone. Also he might have found your need to analyse things (but never reach a ... (read in full...)
I'm not gay, I have a girlfriend, but I'm turned on by gay men, why is that?
Q. I am a 14 year old boy and I am "turned on by gay things". I dont want to be gay I have had a girl we have been going out for over a month and she wants to have sex so do I but im scared i want be preparied for....
A. 7 January 2008: funny how so many females know what it feels like to be a gay 14 year old male- i hope your all speaking from experience!
i didn't want to be gay but i was and am, and to cap it off i lost my v plates at 12 and guess what "I'm alright jack!" (... (read in full...)
He's still visiting adult dating sites, but says its to boost his confidence, should I give him the heave ho?
Q. Dear Readers The man I am dating (for over 11 months now) - I found out by accident he has a secret email account with emails from other girls - I found out he has about 20 girls on his messenger list and an account on an adults sex site - I ema...
A. 6 January 2008: if you let this go you are a fool. dump this wannabe cheater before it happens and you feel an even bigger fool. yes he is telling the truth that this is a confidence booster -but then again so is a fifty year old man shagging his twenty two year ... (read in full...)
I'm experimenting with my sexuality and my bf was first ok with me dating other men as well, but now he has changed his mind! Is it wrong of him to change the rules halfway through, or am I just being unreasonable?
Q. I'm bisexual and recently entered into a long distance relationship with a guy on the proviso that i be allowed to experiment with other guys because i have no sexual experience and am still in the middle of discovering who i am. At first he ag...
A. 27 December 2007: end this as it sounds like the only depth is on his side of the relationship. These long distance scenarios are difficult enough for a well established relationship to persist but this sounds like your gonna hurt him badly and then feel controlled ... (read in full...)
Everything is going wrong for me this Christmas. What should I do?
Q. I feel really lonely and down on myself right now. Thats not really like me cos i'm usually pretty optimistic and upbeat but a couple of months ago i called in sick to work but my colleague never passed on the message so i got fired for not turning ...
A. 24 December 2007: i can see why your upset as life is pooing on you from all angles-my idea is if you are banned from your family Christmas don't buy them presents with the money you don't have. Explain that if you cant afford it and they don't want you there at ... (read in full...)
I am having a big financial disagreement with my boyfriend
Q. I don’t know how to manage my financial disagreement with my b/c. We’ve been together for 3 years and I am the one working and making good money; and he is the student living on loans. Because we live in different state, I had always been the ...
A. 20 December 2007: maybe he doesn't want to have access to your money and use you. When it comes to relationships money is a major issue and having different attitudes to money is a common problem. Unless i was married to someone i wouldn't want to join my finances ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this, childish, irritating friend?
Q. My situation is probably kind of trivial, but at the moment it's bothering me a lot. I work in a bar and I know most of the clientele pretty well. I used to hang out with a lot of them before I worked there and they got to be fairly good friends - ...
A. 24 November 2007: Personality disorder me thinks
rational is not in her capacity-stand up to her and dont worry cos if she behaves badly enough you can site it to management and have her barred, it may be the only way to deal with this god awful twat... (read in full...)
I'm 20, gay, and want sex all the time!
Q. I am in my early 20s and want to have sex all the time. There is nothing I'd rather do and no time I'd find inconvenient. After having sex I feel like it just as much if not more. I presume that is normal for someone my age? I am gay and live with ...
A. 13 November 2007: yeah twice a week is not very much at all-is your partner the receptive one as maybe he doesn't want to stretch himself too far-ya dont want incontinency or prolapse. just have oral... (read in full...)
He cheated, but says its because he was high, can I forgive him?
Q. So here's the thing, I moved in with a girl who had a spare room. She seemed pretty cool and all that and we got along for while, and I began involving her in my life, letting her come out with me and shop with me, everything friends do. And after ...
A. 12 November 2007: she wanted him from the start and you and your byfriend played into her plan perfectly. But remeber there is a term in economics called sunk costs which refers to the costs that a business has already put in that cannot be recouped. now if the ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with a male friend who is straight, and a Christian. I'm worried about what he'd say if he found out.
Q. I'm a 21 year old male who is for the most part still in the closet. My problem is that I'm slowly starting to fall for one of my good friends who is a married straight man. I've done this before with my other male friends because I fall in love ...
A. 12 November 2007: you fall for those you cannot have because you are aware that your still closeted state prevents you from having a relationship anyway in the open, and its much easier to see the obstruction to love as coming from the other persons situation than ... (read in full...)
Is he gay or straight?
Q. hey everybody i need some advice, i'm only 16, I like this guy, but i dont know for sure if he's gay or straight, i get some mixed feeling that he is gay on the way he acts, i'm so sad over it, since i came out about 6 months ago i just started to ...
A. 25 October 2007: sounds like you have all the answers you need, and if it does backfire just tell him that if his behaviour is ambiguous enough to confuse you there must be something to it. ... (read in full...)
What do boys think of me, and why does my friend call me a tease?
Q. today at school it was sex and contrception education and we missed a few classes we had to fill in a survey about where sex clinics are in the city and all the boys kept on asking me where it was (saying that i have been pregnante and i am a slag)i ...
A. 9 October 2007: she thinks that because you are friendly to the boys that this is a signal to them that you are sexually interested and flirty with them, but she knows that you have no intention of following through in such a situation so you are teasing them by ... (read in full...)
Are hormones the same for girls and boys?
Q. Ive always wondered, are hrmones more active in men or women?...
A. 9 October 2007: different proportions are active in both sexes-women have more oestrogen and men have more testosterone but both sexes have both these hormones and more besides. The ratio of testosterone to oestrogen is greater in a man and the reverse is true for ... (read in full...)
He's 21, I'm 14 Should I ruin my plans OR dump my love.
Q. hi ive ot a problem because i'm young(14) and my boyfriend is older(21).please don't tell me how wrong our relationship is n illegal i've heard it so many times. my mom isn't worried shes meet the guy and she lets him stay round every night which i ...
A. 9 October 2007: the moment anyone tries to manipulate you with a suicide threat i suggest you tell them to go ahead. its not your problem. Sounds like an arsehole. I'd say he likes them young as lack of experience is necessary for people to ignore behaviours that ... (read in full...)
Why do guys flirt and not follow it up?
Q. Okay here is my situation. There is a great guy at work that I have always liked, and he's always been really nice and friendly to me too. We occasionally work on projects together. We get along and have fun bantering back and forth. However, over ...
A. 9 October 2007: if hes pushing the boat out you might as well give him some waves-when he says to go out for coffe ask him when and request his number. if he can'tprovide this say in a jokey way "your all talk" and turn it back to a mindless flirt... (read in full...)
What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 9 October 2007: get a life sir-you sound like a broken record or a skipping cd. if you cant get over this then move on an see what life will offer you, not much i bet. People with understanding that others are not always perfect are not necessarilly liars, simply ... (read in full...)
How do I hide my stuff from my parents?
Q. I need to hide my contraceptive pills from my parents, but they look through all my stuff! Any ideas where to hide it??...
A. 9 October 2007: i think its ridiculous that you have to hide this as they should not be going through your stuff. Has any shock in the past maybe made them paranoid or are they simply invasive. Maybe there is a place in the house that they never use. Also think ... (read in full...)
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