He wants me to smoke weed with him before we have sex... what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but he also wants me to smoke WEED with him before we do it so I can get high. I don't know if I should because I'm worried that if he gets high he'll forget to put a condom on and I might get pregnent. What ...
A. 5 March 2009: You don't completely lose your mind when you smoke weed. Just lay the condom out beforehand. You'll be fine and you'll have fun. However I must warn you, weed may affect your b/f's ability to obtain or maintain an erection. This is sometimes a ... (read in full...)
Should I dump my boyfriend today?
Q. Its been 6 months and my boyfriend still hasn't told me he loves me. Being valentines day I thought that it might happen today but its 5 pm here and still nothing. Im getting sick of not knowing if im important to him or not. Dont get me wrong he...
A. 14 February 2009: Most men take more time than 6 months before they know how they feel about a woman, and even longer to actually say those three little words. And while they make up their mind, they tend to keep their options open. If you want this man, you will ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep denying a GF?
Q. This guy I met a month ago. He's a flirt and since I met him he worked himself to be close to me looking for me and all. Once I thought he was really interested he backed off, so I wonder why? Well, searching in myspace I found his Girlfriend. ...
A. 14 February 2009: He's a player. Maybe you should let his girlfriend know this. Then don't give him a chance to un-do his mess. And don't contact him anymore. He's a loser in my opinion.... (read in full...)
I'm so conflicted about whether or not to break up with him...
Q. Hi, i have a problem, i love my boyfriend and we've been going out for almost 6 months. But there's a couple of things that really irritate me to the point that i don't know if i should just move on. sometimes he can be really loud when its not the ...
A. 10 February 2009: Everyone gets annoyed with each other when they spend too much time together. Mix it up with other friends so you can appreciate your b/f's goofy side the next time it comes out to play. Some people are just playful like that and they never outgrow ... (read in full...)
B/f wants to be very aggressive!
Q. My bf has a very, very high sex drive! He wants me to be more aggressive when it comes to making the first move. He mentioned this before, it's a huge turn-on for him. How can I please him in that way, specially soooo close to V-Day?!?...
A. 10 February 2009: Find some sexy, rocker-chick music, buy a sexy piece of lingerie you won't be embarrassed to prance around in. Put on a pait of black heels and the lingerie and when he's laying in bed, thinking you're going to come in wearing your normal pj's, you ... (read in full...)
Bloody ex is confusing!
Q. MY EX well where do i start!!! he slpit with me over a month ago, we have been in contact for two on IM think we clocked 18 hours over for days, but he just wants to be "friends" we had a fantstic relationship but it ened coz he told his mum and...
A. 10 February 2009: What exactly did he mean that you weren't suitable? Suitable for what? Marriage? Kids? And why would he say that? Are you just a party girl? Someone fun and exciting, but not someone you'd take home to meet the family? Once you determine what ... (read in full...)
Is there any way possible I can make this work again with my wife?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my wife now for 22 years. For 13 of the years we have been married. We are both 36 years old and we meet at school. My wife and I have 3 children. 9, 7 and 3. For the past 5 years I have treated my wife badly. I ...
A. 10 February 2009: I don't agree with what your therapist/psychologist has determined about your behavior. There are lots of guys who have been raised the way you were raised and they do not have this problem. I believe you have self esteem issues, and when a woman ... (read in full...)
How do I become more secure?
Q. i am a jealous person, but i feel like there are rational explanations for it. i do trust my bf, but i'm just iffy about a lot of girls he hangs out with. like, my first impressions of them would not be the greatest, even before i knew they were ...
A. 10 February 2009: You and your b/f are pretty young but you need to sit down and determine if you both want the same thing out of this relationship. What I hear, is that you want him to be exclusive and committed to his relationsihp to you. And your boyfriend seems ... (read in full...)
I get very jealous of my boyfriends behaviour
Q. Ok so, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years of and on but now we're engaged and I'm so jealous and I don't know how to stop. I mean I love him to death but he talks to all these other gurls on myspace and calls them babe and stuff like that I ...
A. 2 February 2009: It sounds like you're both too young to think about marriage. For one thing, he hasn't committed to only you, otherwise if he had've, he wouldn't still be chatting it up so friendly with so many other girls on myspace. P.S. myspace is just a way ... (read in full...)
I saw my ex gfs pic on a dating site and it really hurts
Q. Hello I am 25 my ex is 24. She broke up with me a month ago. I got a huge speach about how she does not have time, since she moved down and starting her life. I have not called her or contacted her in any way shape or form. I looked through a site ...
A. 2 February 2009: I know this is going to sound harsh, but trust me she just wasn't that into you. I know it's painful. I know she sort of misled you but she probably said a bunch of things to protect your feelings while she made her exit plan. Better to know now ... (read in full...)
Torn between two guys, how do I decide what I want?
Q. I have been with my partner now for about 6 years. We’ve lived together for 4 years, but are not married, and no kids. We even survived him going overseas for 6 months. I love him to bits, I identify with his quirkiness, and we have so much in ...
A. 2 February 2009: You are still single so you still have choices. It could be that you have outgrown b/f #1 and it does appear that you both want different things out of life. It may be that b/f #2 is more suited for you. You're young. It's best to figure this ... (read in full...)
Looking for songs that capture how I'm feeling to show my husband
Q. My husband and I are going through some pretty rocky times, we have been here before and it ended in disaster. Although, in that case, he was the one to blame, it still hurt like hell when I thought it was really over, forever! I love him, there ...
A. 2 February 2009: One of my favorites is a song called "Broken" by Seether (make sure it's the duet version with Amy Lee singing) It's beautiful and not a "girlie" song. I think he'll get the message....Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I have Bacterial Vaginosis or Candida and it's really effecting my life
Q. I also have a boyfriend and I'm trying everything I can to hide it from him because I'm too embarassed to tell him... I have been tested for every STD you can think of because I was wondering why I had this (swabs and blood tests)... I believe I ...
A. 2 February 2009: You probably need to go to your physician and get a prescription for some antibiotics and unfortunately, you're boyfriend will also have to see a doctor and go on an antibiotic before you're both cleared up with this stuff. It will only get worse ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend drooled over this girl at a bar?
Q. Me and my boyfriend walked into this bar/club/seedy place.. Boy you should of seen the guys staring at me I felt like a movie star!! So any-way we go upto the bar order our drink, his talking to his friends we are all having a great time until these ...
A. 2 February 2009: I think you should give him another chance, but keep your eyes open. The next time you guys are out partying where there are plenty of hot big-boobed chicks, just keep YOUR drinks to a minimum so your head is clear and not clogged up with alcohol ... (read in full...)
Should men chat to other women online?
Q. Me and my boyfriend just recently broke up after being together for the past year becuase of his Myspace account. I knew he had one when we first got together and I told him then that I didn't like it. He has over 1500 people on it and their mainly ...
A. 13 January 2009: Yes, he was definitely keeping his options open and you were wise to break up with him. He is still acting like a single guy, while getting the benefits of sex from your relationship. Don't look back. You did the right thing. Myspace is just ... (read in full...)
What makes one woman attractive to a man? And another not attractive?
Q. what are the causes for a guy rejection a woman? what are the other causes that makes one woman sexually attractive and another not? because i am always always getting rejected in the coldest way....
A. 20 December 2008: It's a totally individual thing. Every woman has individual tastes, so there are no cookie-cutter answers. Some women find short-haired guys attractive, some like long hair. Some like outdoor guys, some like men who wear suits. But most women ... (read in full...)
B/f never initiates sex unless he's been drinking
Q. Of course in the beginning things are always hot and heavy but lately my sex life has went to shit. I'm just looking for suggestions of how to boost back up his interest. I'm not looking for the typical "get naked and/or start rubbing up against ...
A. 19 December 2008: I don't think it's his sex drive that has problems. I think it's his confidence level. He's inhibited. He either feels awkward initiating sex, or embarrassed. Also if he's slightly small below-the-decks, he may be self conscious about pleasing ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'll never be completely happy in my marriage.
Q. Here's my situation. I am 25 years old. Me and my wife have been married for 3 1\2 years and have a 3 year old girl. Our relationship is rocky at best. I love her but I don't get the same respect from her as I give. I have put up with it for 4 years ...
A. 25 November 2008: You will not lose your daughter just because you divorce her mother. But you may have to accept less than frequent contact with her. The courts usually prevail in cases like this where there is no abuse or neglect, and you should be able to rotate ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend having thoughts of her past relationship that was bad.
Q. I have been dating the same woman for about 3 months now and everything at the time appeared to be going great until today she said we needed to talk. Granted we have been talking for about 3 months and started talking a little over 2 months after ...
A. 25 November 2008: You have unintentionally accepted the role of the rebound guy. Your girlfriend is not over her ex, and is still very much hung up and in love with him. Too bad for her. He sounds like a looser. But only she can unplug him from her heart and this ... (read in full...)
Out of the blue, she says she's pregnant with my husbands baby!
Q. My husband and I have been married for over six years now. We sepereated back in December of 06 and got back together in July of 07....Been together ever since. Before we seperated we had two children that are now six and four. After we got back ...
A. 25 November 2008: You won't know until the DNA test comes back. The proof will be in the pudding, so to speak. If it comes back negative, then you can put this whole thing to rest....except for the fact that your husband did sleep with someone while you were ... (read in full...)
Could a large penis have done this to me?
Q. I recently started talking to one of my ex boyfriends from when I was younger. Having sex with him always hurt a little, because his penis is very large. It had been a long time since I had sex, I would say about a year, and we had sex yesterday. It ...
A. 25 November 2008: Yes. Sometimes a guy is just too big for you. Bigger is not always better. ... (read in full...)
Was I in the wrong here or was he? Advice appreciated!
Q. I'm trying to gain some insight on things..i wish my ex would come back but i have questions the situations that happened over the course of the 3 years i was with him. i wanted to reveal some aspects that made me feel insecure which led to a ...
A. 3 November 2008: You each have two totally different love languages. Yours is all about respect, honor, protection. He treats you more like one of the guys. And there seems to be some kind of power play between you and his friend, which he allows. I think your ... (read in full...)
Married man broke it off with me! I'm heartbroken-should I contact him?
Q. I know this is a long post, but I am desperately searching for some advice. I started dating a guy back in March. I had known him for about 5 years, and also knew that he was married. He had flirted with me before, but I always kept my distance...
A. 3 November 2008: Hmmmm, you have to ask yourself this one question: If his wife had truly "left him" to the point that he was seeing you so much, he actually asked you to move into their home -- Why did he not file for divorce and make it final?....Yes, you are ... (read in full...)
I have a family and BORED why??
Q. Hello all Iposted before and received so much great information. I have something I would like everyone's thoughts on. I ended an affair of 2 years this weekend and I'm feeling upset about it I almost feel depressed. I'm married for 14 years an...
A. 2 November 2008: Let's analyze what attracted you to your husband, and the whole concept of marriage in the first place. Was it the comfort factor, knowing you were no longer alone? Or did your man used to have plenty of sex appeal and you're just taking him for ... (read in full...)
How do I attract him?
Q. Im 19 and im guessing he's like 22 or 23. I dont really talk to him in class, but he always looks at me and he for sure knows my name because he gave me my quiz back without me telling him my name while everyone else did. I want to show him im ...
A. 31 October 2008: The next time he looks at you, just smile and let your eyes linger on his face just a moment longer than usual. Say hello to him. Ask him how his week-end was, or did he watch the game, or something to break the ice. Seem non-challant and you'll ... (read in full...)
His ex is coming over from Australia and is staying at HIS house! Should I be worried?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and I usually spend all weekend at his house. I occasionally see him during the week but we both work so it is sometimes difficult, if we dont see each other we will be in touch in some way every ...
A. 30 October 2008: No, he should not exclude you and in doing so, he is indicicating that he plans to have one more little fling with her while she's here. I would be very interested in knowing why he suddenly thinks it's not such a good idea for you to be around, ... (read in full...)
I am torn between two girls I have fallen for....
Q. I am completely torn bewteen two girls I am in love with. My first girlfriend of 8 years is the same as as me(31). Everything was amazing in our relationship... except the sex. It was very dull and I tried everything to spice it up(games, dirty ...
A. 30 October 2008: So what else does the 22 year old have going for her besides the amazing sex part? You mention nothing about having things in common with her outside the bedroom. You didn't say if she had a brain, understood how you think, shared your same values ... (read in full...)
Are our lives predestined?
Q. We all know that things happen whether they are good or bad.... but do you think that whatever happens to you in your life was supposed to happen to you? I mean is it to teach you a lesson or is it just that things happen? What if it was bad, am I ...
A. 30 October 2008: I think God has a specific plan for us but he allows us the free will to chose our path. Each choice comes with a different set of circumstances and outcomes. He can take a bad thing and make it good if we ask him to. It all comes down to asking ... (read in full...)
I feel insecure, I hate my looks and wish I had bigger boobs!
Q. Help me, I'm such an insecure idiot... I hate my looks. I just feel very insecure. Especially with my boyfriend. Yes, he thinks I'm pretty and have a nice body. But there's this factor: a) I asked. He likes toned bodies and bigger breasts....
A. 8 October 2008: Well you could try gaining like 25 pounds. That'll increase the size of your boobs. Unfortunately, everything else will be larger too. And yes, some men do like women with "a little meat on their bones" but I didn't. Acceptance comes with age. ... (read in full...)
I want to spare my boyfriend the heartache when I die! Should I let him down gently by now? Or continue being with him?
Q. My boyfriend loves me and i love my boyfriend more than anything else in the world and i want to spend the rest of my life together with him (yes i am gay!) I have an inherited disease called Cystic Fibrosis and i wont live to be beyong my mid 20...
A. 8 October 2008: If your b/f is cool with your disease, then why don't you just enjoy the fact that you have someone to share your last days with, instead of facing them alone? You're b/f sounds like he's fairly strong. Don't rob both of you of at least getting to ... (read in full...)
Do breasts look better pushed together or separated by a bra?
Q. I my bra size is 30G and when I wear a bra my breasts are pushed together into a 2 inch cleavage line (most of which I do not normally reveal as I am not a HUGE fan of overly low cut tops). However when I am not wearing a bra my breasts fall out...
A. 8 October 2008: I personally think most women's breasts look better when they wear a push-up bra, which gives them a little lift, alot more support and some sexy clevage. But you don't have to go overboard. Just find a bra that really fits you, and gives you that ... (read in full...)
My ex and I still think about each other but I am planning marriage with another, when in reality I dislike this new relationship and wish I were single! What can I do?
Q. Hi ill get straight to the point! ive been very silly full stop. I was in a rocky relationship with my ex of four years on and off our problems were only caused to me basically acting like a little girl and causing arguments for the sake of it and ...
A. 8 October 2008: By all means, don't get married! You're too young and too mixed up with too many emotions. You don't know what you want yet in life. It may hurt him to tell him the truth, and ask that you guys postpone the whole wedding thing, but it'll hurt ... (read in full...)
My aunt tells me that I should wait a year or so to have sex because she said the older you wait to have sex the better it will be for you.
Q. hi, I'm a virgin and I'm 18. I really do want to have sex but I take my virginity a lot serious. My aunt tells me that I should wait a year or so to have sex because she said the older you wait to have sex the better it will be for you. Do you ...
A. 8 October 2008: I agree with your aunt. There's no harm in waiting. Plus you're more likely to find a stable man who actually wants to be with you long term, instead of just an 18-yr.old fling thing. Hang in there! It will be worth it.... (read in full...)
I'm torn between two guys and I don't know who to choose!
Q. I have been with a male that we will call ram for just about a year now. We fight we argue and practically tear eachothers heads off. There has been cheating from both sides in the relationship. All of my friends wonder why I am soo crazzy about him ...
A. 30 August 2008: Being treated like a queen is overrated, and I smell boredom in your future very soon. Go with the guy who turns you on, even if you fight like cats and dogs. I'd be willing to bet that passion translates nicely in the bedroom. One thing I know, ... (read in full...)
Should I stop masturbating?
Q. Masterbation is the best, but my girlfriend told me to stop because she said that it is like killing millions of babies, and one that could have had a chance to live, should I stop, or should I keep masterbating. she said she would dump me if I ...
A. 30 August 2008: Oh for Christ's sake, stop telling her that you're masterbating. Some things are just private. She doesn't need to know about your personal shit. Besides, everyone does it. And it has nothing to do with killing babies. Good grief. She just ... (read in full...)
What kind of conversations are most likely to attract a woman?
Q. Hi. There is this babe where I work who is really hot (or perhaps she just cycled into work that particular day!). She works off the next corridor. I've seen certain guys hanging around her alot. She laughs at their jokes and seems to like them. I ...
A. 30 August 2008: Make her laugh. She'll never forget you. And be comfortable in your own skin. Once a woman doesn't feel like you're trying too hard, you'll wow her. Good luck.... (read in full...)
If she had wanted to hit me with the bottle, she would have... right?
Q. was at the pub meeting my friends n i bumped into this boy who is gorgeous..we hugged said hello..he introduced me to his friend etc..anyway bit of history..he is kinda mates with my ex..he stares at me and litrally turnt his head as far as it would ...
A. 30 August 2008: Well let me put it to you this way......If YOU were with him, totally diggin his company, smoozing on his kisses, loving him completely, would you want some other girl moving in on your vibe? I think not. He's a two-timer and trust me, if you do ... (read in full...)
He just proposed to me except I don't know what to do?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we've been datieing for such a long time. Sense the 7th grade...... and we graduate this year. We both plan on going to college. And he just proposed to me. That changed everything. I havent said yes or no, but im just not ...
A. 30 August 2008: Well you know what they say. When you don't know what to do, don't do anything. You're young, you should date a few more men before you settle down. Sounds like this is the only guy you've ever been with and it would be a mistake to settle down ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed! Does he have a penchant for older women?
Q. I get very depressed sometimes and alot of the time I have no idea how to express what I'm feeling to my partner for fear of feeling insecure. I have a very loving relationship but at times we fight - and when we do it's absolutely awful. His last ...
A. 30 August 2008: It's the carefree no-strings relationship that draw men like flies. Try to keep a level head and don't get wrapped up in depression (or coke) because it clouds your vision. Stay sharp. He is with you. Yes, she probably still has a lure on him, ... (read in full...)
My fiance was telling his ex how much he missed her just 2/3 weeks before we met. I can't shake the feeling he would go back to her.
Q. I was going through my fiance's profile on another site, and saw that about 2 or 3 weeks before my fiance and i met, he was telling his ex how much he loved and missed her. And days before we started dating (after we had already told eachother that ...
A. 26 August 2008: Stand your ground. You should never share your man with an ex. And he needs to let go of this woman otherwise, he'll never have a future with you or anyone else for that matter. He needs to chose. Don't compromise. Best of luck.... (read in full...)
She lost her sex drive completely and doesn't know why...
Q. My sweetheart and I are very much in love. In our eyes we are like no other couple, we have something very special that no one else has, not even in the movies. We've known each other for years, and our chemistry is absolutely perfect. Yesterday ...
A. 8 July 2008: Her hormones may be doing weird things, couple that with the stress of school, work, money, parents, and a boyfriend and it may be zapping her sex drive. But more than likely she has probably just met someone else and doesn't know how to end your ... (read in full...)
My fiance was telling his ex how much he missed her just 2/3 weeks before we met. I can't shake the feeling he would go back to her.
Q. I was going through my fiance's profile on another site, and saw that about 2 or 3 weeks before my fiance and i met, he was telling his ex how much he loved and missed her. And days before we started dating (after we had already told eachother that ...
A. 8 July 2008: Yes he probably would go back to her if she wanted him but apparently she does not. If you give it time, he will love you more and then you will feel better about your relationship. Alot of guys hang on to their ex'es until they find love somewhere ... (read in full...)
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