I was trying to change but he's not listening
Q. I need help getting over my ex. He just broke up with me. He was my first everything. But its my fault because I was stupid and constantly accused him of cheating when I had no reason to. I didn't clean or cook cause I didn't know how to and I ...
A. 25 September 2010: You need to get some help from somewhere other than here. If you are depressed can you speak with a doctor or other health professional?
If he was demanding and had flirts and has told you he would like to "do" another girl he doesnt sound li... (read in full...)
My friend told me my crush and I would date and now she says we won't. Why the change?
Q. hi im Josie and in my last year of middle school well my friend morgan has a bf but she told me she likes slade my crush(she didsnt know)but when i told her she was happy for me but you can hear a little sadness in her voice.She told me earlier ...
A. 25 September 2010: Hi Josie, unless Morgan has a crystal ball or communicates directly with Slade about who he is going to date and who he isnt, it doesnt really matter what she says about it does it?
... (read in full...)
Does a brazilian wax hurt?
Q. Hey I'm 19 and I wanna get a brazilian wax and I was wondering does it hurt?...
A. 25 September 2010: I've never had a brazilian but I do get my brows waxed often and I did have my upper lip waxed once, and based on those experiences I would not be expecting having pubic hair pulled out by the roots to be a walk in the park.
But thats just me ... (read in full...)
Does my crush like my friend?
Q. well I like this guy very much but I think he likes my friend more even though she knows I like him.I mean cause he is always looking for her.Even though she say she thinks he is going to ask me out I think he'll ask her.Pluse im to shy to tell him ...
A. 25 September 2010: Just because your friend knows you like him doesnt mean that he has to like you more than he likes her. Your first sentence makes it sound as if she is at fault somehow ....
ITs up to you to be more approachable if you are now shy, initiate... (read in full...)
Husband had an affair wants to work it out but says he can't get over her!
Q. My husband had an affair and I recently found out. I still love him and am willing to work it out. He says he still loves me but can't get over her. I told him if he wants our relationship to work, he needs to get over her, but he can't. At this ...
A. 25 September 2010: My advise, as a woman who had to do the walking with three kids and nothing else, get your finances in order, tie them up tight, make sure if you have joint accounts that there are not substantial amounts in them, make sure no joint credit cards etc ... (read in full...)
Would you be upset with this?
Q. Would you be upset if your boyfriend had a pirture of him and a girl togather even though there just friends and she gave it to him?...
A. 25 September 2010: depends on the picture ... if a picture of them winning a race together for example, no, if a picture of them cuddling up yes
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My huband always talks down to me in front of his friends!
Q. my husband ALWAYS talks down to me when he's with his mates. Even to the point where he starts fights over nothing just so he can yell abuse at me. what the hell is the deal?? maybe his mates don't like me and he's proving himself somehow? im sooo ...
A. 24 September 2010: grrrr
Do you want this to go on for ever and ever?
If not, do something about it, if he wont listen seek counselling, if he wont go, go by yourself. If you live in a city or big town find out if any of the local churches, such as the Anglican... (read in full...)
Do I need to confront the married friend that keeps calling my wife every night?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 12 years now but she asked me to leave for a while, She said she needed space, Time alone, Wanted me to keep in touch with her. She started having a thing for one of her work friends, It's a guy who is married ...
A. 24 September 2010: All those who have responded so far have been other men, so here is a female's perspective. I agree with each and every one of them.
Act quickly to quarantine your assets, and then lay it on the line, its you or him, but be prepared to accept h... (read in full...)
Why won't he cuddle or hold me after sex
Q. a guy I'm just friends with will never cuddle with me after we sex..we talk everyday, chill and stuff,but I've known him 5 months,so why not hold me? ...
A. 24 September 2010: maybe because you are "just friends" he doesnt see the need to, or maybe he just sees you as a convienient receptacle for his bodily fluids, and who hugs and cuddles receptacles.
If you want hugs and cuddles go find a proper boyfriend, one that... (read in full...)
I was trying to change but he's not listening
Q. I need help getting over my ex. He just broke up with me. He was my first everything. But its my fault because I was stupid and constantly accused him of cheating when I had no reason to. I didn't clean or cook cause I didn't know how to and I ...
A. 24 September 2010: see, dont make excuses, you needed to get up straight away, the baby is only 5 months old, nobody likes to hear a baby crying, especially when the mother is asleep in bed.
Maybe your ex has gone for good, and maybe a little bit down the track yo... (read in full...)
Changing her mind about having an abortion
Q. We found out at monday that my girlfriend is 3 weeks pregnant. She wants a abortion how can i change her mind not to do that? ...
A. 24 September 2010: You cant change her mind. Have your thought this through? You list your age as 18 to 21, I am going to assume she is just as young, whatever decision your girlfriend makes (and sorry, but it is HER decision) is going to affect her for the rest of ... (read in full...)
I was trying to change but he's not listening
Q. I need help getting over my ex. He just broke up with me. He was my first everything. But its my fault because I was stupid and constantly accused him of cheating when I had no reason to. I didn't clean or cook cause I didn't know how to and I ...
A. 24 September 2010: Your life sounds like it needs a massive injection of help. Where is your nearest Salvation Army, find their phone number and tell them what you have written here.
If you werent getting up to the baby that is not good. You need to learn how to l... (read in full...)
Are older men better lovers?
Q. Is it true that older men make better lovers, due to experience?...
A. 24 September 2010: what if the older man has only ever had one partner ... it does happen you know, so his experience could/would be limited.
Some older men have only ever indulged in sex, not love making, I doubt they would make better lovers regardless of how many... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't tell me her sex fantasies.
Q. Note: Askers own title: My wife has never told me her sexual fantasies. And when I ask she just kind of stares at the cieling and goes "no i havnt really had any." Now I think she is bullshitting me. Why would she do that? ...
A. 24 September 2010: you list your age as 18 to 21, which would make your wife quite young as well.
Here is a tip for you, some young women find it difficult to talk about their sexual fantasies, some like to keep certain thoughts private, she may feel uncomfor... (read in full...)
Should a 20 year age gap matter?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. I like this man who is 20 years older than me. I'm 26 and he is 46. He winks at me everytime he sees me, which, by the way, i haven't seen him do to anyone else, just me, and he always gives me a kiss. He has also said that ...
A. 24 September 2010: In my opinion you are attracted to the unknown in him, the idea he has done bad things when he was young, I beleive there is a sexual attraction, but not a lot of substance.
He is, in some ways, forbidden fruit. He seems to have already given yo... (read in full...)
Was leaving his cell phone number for business or pleasure???
Q. I had emailed a guy at a bank (on business email account) that I thought was attractive. Thanked him for his help and that I owed him. I said "How about a drink sometime?" He wrote back (on business email) it was a pleasure doing business with me. ...
A. 24 September 2010: His personal cell was an indication he would like to hear from you.
As already mentioned, if he works in a bank his emails could be screened for content. Many banks do not permit their staff to use company computers, or even phones, for private ... (read in full...)
One week after breaking up he hasn't even tried to contact me
Q. me (25 yrs old) and my bf (28 yrs old) of 3 months have had a rocky relationship from the start. first few weeks he was wonderful guy but then i realised he'd been sending sexual texts to other women. I confronted him, he apologised and we stayed ...
A. 23 September 2010: You broke up with him, so why are you expecting him to call. Just put your three months with him down to experience, and be happy it wasnt a lot longer.
I am sure the right guy for you is out there somewhere ....... (read in full...)
Convincing a shy girl to wear a bikini?
Q. how can I convince to wear a bikini. she is a shy type....
A. 23 September 2010: Why try to convince somebody to wear something they dont want to wear? Why not respect their decision to not wear it?
What she wears is not your decision to make but hers. ... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my husbands ex wife!
Q. So the thing is my husband and I have had a 3some with my friend. No issues came from it and everything was fine.. Well, I have been keeping a secret from him that I finally just told him. I want to have a 3some with his ex wife...Yes I know Im nuts ...
A. 23 September 2010: why did you bother getting married? Why did they bother getting divorced? Did you exchange traditional vows at your wedding, forsaking all others etc etc? Does the ceremony you and he went through went you got married and committed to a legal ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want a title on our relationship?
Q. why doesnt he want to have title after two months of sex, me cooking for him, meeting his mom, him meeting my mom, and countless dates, and meeting his friends, hed rather not call it anything...
A. 23 September 2010: Maybe he has heard the old saying "fools rush in where angels fear to tread".
There is nothing wrong with taking your time, but if you are cooking and doing other domestic duties for him, maybe you need to pull back a bit as well, dont rush in, ... (read in full...)
15 year old guy and 27 year old man, what to do?
Q. Hey, I have a really bad problem. I'm a 15 almost 16 year old guy and I'm in love with another 27 year old guy. I met him when I was on holiday and we became really good friends but on my last day he just kissed me and I never thought I was gay befo...
A. 23 September 2010: I am very, very happy to hear that you have sorted this problem! And I can imagine how relieved you feel.
Don't forget, if he does try again tell him if he doesnt stop the stalking you will talk to your parents and you will also initial 'legal p... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and got the girl pregnant
Q. I am a woman that has been married for 3 years just found out that my husband may have a son. I will not leave him but we are both trying to deal with the problem i personally think it was a trap for him because he was being stupid its not ok he ...
A. 20 September 2010: what do you mean he hasnt decided to deal with it and that you are not dealing with it either?
Have you discussed what is going to happen when the baby is born? Is your husband going to acknowledge the child as his? Is he going to pay maintena... (read in full...)
15 year old guy and 27 year old man, what to do?
Q. Hey, I have a really bad problem. I'm a 15 almost 16 year old guy and I'm in love with another 27 year old guy. I met him when I was on holiday and we became really good friends but on my last day he just kissed me and I never thought I was gay befo...
A. 19 September 2010: This man is grooming you, he is a paedophile, you need to talk to somebody about him, and soon, preferably your parents but if that idea makes you uncomfortable a social worker or an aunt or uncle, a member of the police force, a doctor or even a ... (read in full...)
I can't decide between 2 guys
Q. I can't decide between 2 guys. The first guy i dated for about 3 months then he left me for another girl who was pregnant with someone else's baby. Then he broke up with her and came back to me where he continued to sleep with her behind my ba...
A. 17 September 2010: I'm sorry, but your question made me laugh.
A cheater or a guy whose religion you cant share?
What a choice
Oh, here is a novel idea, why not not chose neither of them?
It's not as if there are no more men anywhere in the world, and your perfect... (read in full...)
My ex has tracked me down after all these years, but she is married! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I had a wonderful/fantastic relationship with an ex (Sophie),we even talked about marriage. We were always 100% honest with each other.Anyway we split some time ago as I was working abroad and she couldnt handle a LDR. She recently tracked ...
A. 10 September 2010: wow, Two times during your evening meal she said .."...god I thought you'd been snapped up ages ago..".
Where was her husband, was he invited, did he know where his wife was, and with who, did she lie to him to be with you?
You don't wan... (read in full...)
(asker's original title) The One Who Got Away ..........
Q. When I was 18yrs old I started college. I met a guy who I thought was great; through mutal friends. At first he acted like he really wanted to get to know me. He would message me all the time and we would always chat online. He messaged me more ...
A. 10 September 2010: Your title is intersting, it suggest you feel he "got away". Sounds like he was a fish and you a fisher person who really wanted to catch him.
I have heard of fishermen who get fixated on trying to catch a particular wily fish who just refuses to g... (read in full...)
The question has been bugging me
Q. Ok, we all know that when you have a F*** Buddy it's just about sex, there isn't much of a friendship there or whatever. So, my ex fbuddy still contacts me because he was adament he wanted to stay friends (he now has a girlfriend), to be honest i ...
A. 10 September 2010: I think he wants to keep you hanging around for when he wants some casual sex ... he probably feels he has already done all the hard work with you, he is too lasy to go find himself another convienient receptacle for his sperm.
And that is all you ... (read in full...)
Work place is gettting rid of staff!! Please help
Q. Please help me i dont know what to do, My work place are starting to let poeple go, like working them out slowley but for sure, like finding a problem with something keep going on about it, and then fire them. So now the thing is its almost the end ...
A. 7 September 2010: I am sorry to hear you are having the stress of uncertainty at work while you are pregnant, I know how frightening it can be.
Unfortunatly there is not a lot you can do, except plan for all contingencies, start now, redo your budget, cut costs wh... (read in full...)
Is it a waste of my time to keep thinking about him?
Q. First of all i wanted to say thanks for taking the time to read this and for the input, I really appreciate it. So.. I am a 20 years old female, from the midwest. I am over in New Zealand for six months as a nanny living with a single mother and ...
A. 5 September 2010: you are young, you only live once, as long as you take care of the importants bits, like let people know where you will be, have enough money stashed somewhere so you can get home in a hurry if need be, have the ability to get work in the UK easily, ... (read in full...)
Please help, I cheated on my wife with a prostitute
Q. I've been married for a year and a half, I cheated on my wife with a prostitute and got caught. I love my wife and was seeing the prostitute just because I was so damn horny and wanted to do things with the prostitute that my wife doesn't do. Since ...
A. 5 September 2010: You just dont get it do you?
By turning to another woman you were telling your wife she wasnt good enough for you.
By PAYING for sex with another woman you were telling your wife not only wasnt she good enough for you but the other woman was so m... (read in full...)
I don't understand what I did wrong, and why he's acting this way now.
Q. I met a guy a couple of months back while I was staying with my friend in Pittsburgh. He lives in WV, but he's only a half an hour away from her apartment to where I was staying. It was one of her boyfriends real good friends. I wanted to meet ...
A. 5 September 2010: He dumped you because:
1, you had some concerns about all his close female friends and wanted to talk about how you felt about this?
2, he says YOU have problems
3, he says you live too far away so he doesnt know what you do when you are at home ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating, but I'm not.
Q. [Mod Note: OP title] Ok, so this is the deal. My boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and 4 months. We met on myspace and live 3,000 miles apart. I cheated on him when we first got together i dont know what i was thinking but it happ...
A. 5 July 2010: Here is my advise or opinion, in case you missed it the first time:
You have cut out contact with your friends for him, but you need to socialise and mix with other people in this life you have been given, your lifestyle is not healthy, him ruli... (read in full...)
How do I leave a controlling cop?
Q. Help, I am living with a controlling man, who is also a policeman. I own my own house and have told him to leave but he refuses to. He had a messed up upbringing, doesnt speak to his family, has issues beyond belief and is manipulative. ...
A. 5 July 2010: Contact your nearest Salvation Army, they will be able to direct you to where you can get help with this situation, as a minimum they will be able to give a list of organisations who will be able to offer help and advise.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Problems staying erect, think it's psychological
Q. Hello,Im a very frustrated 49 years old guy right now. Im married 22 years ago,and I love my wife.But I have a serous sex problem. I cant stay erect,and also I have no sexual desire,and on the top I have premature ejaculation,and it goes on now quit...
A. 4 July 2010: I find it difficult to beleive none of the specialists you have listed have been able to help you.
I suggest you go back to your doctor and ask for a referral to somebody else.
Of all the professionals you have listed I am sure at least one of t... (read in full...)
Abortions, what do you think?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Hey aunt and uncles. I just wanted to know your opinions on abortion. About a year ago i went with my brother and his ex girlfriend for them to have an abortion. I know it wasn't me having an abortion but it really a...
A. 4 July 2010: When a woman, or girl, finds herself pregnant there are three choices she can make. And regardless of which decision she makes she will live with it for the rest of her life.
She can keep the child, she can choose to have the child adopted or she ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating, but I'm not.
Q. [Mod Note: OP title] Ok, so this is the deal. My boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and 4 months. We met on myspace and live 3,000 miles apart. I cheated on him when we first got together i dont know what i was thinking but it happ...
A. 4 July 2010: You met on myspace and live 3000 miles apart. You have cut out all your friends and everyone else you used to hang out with for somebody 3000 miles away.
Sweetheart, listen, you need to socialise and mix with other people in this life you have bee... (read in full...)
I have found out my boyfriend has been lying to me for nearly a year, I'm scared there could be even more he is hiding!
Q. Hi, I'm a little lost as to which dirction to turn. My boyfriend lied to me. Everyday, for nearly a year. He told me that he lost his licence because he never converted his international licence to an Australian one about 1 year ago. I recently ...
A. 30 June 2010: You need to let him know you know.
You say you stay sober to drive him, that means he is still not a responsible drinker, is he capable of remaining sober for a social event?
Do you really want to look down the next five, ten, twenty, thirty o... (read in full...)
Is My Husband my Third Cousin or Not?
Q. Ian currently married to my couson Which my grandpa has a half brother an he has a son,which he has a son which is now my husband,it would make us third cousins right?we have a son too....
A. 28 June 2010: I think the relationship is so vague that it wouldn't really matter, especially if you are asking because you are worried about problems passed through the genes.... (read in full...)
We are Both in Relationships, But he Wanta A Blow Job, Should I??
Q. Im 14 and this guy iv new for over10 years hes 15 and wants me to give him a blowjob and i said ill think about it..couse he gots a girl friend and i have a boy friend...i want to but dont know what i shoud do?...
A. 28 June 2010: Why would you do this if you have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend.
Its still cheating, and he will just be using you, mouth or vagina, it makes no difference, he is not interested in you as a person, just a convienient receptacle, tell him to g... (read in full...)
We live together and he texts his high school sweetheart a lot - what do I do?
Q. I live with my boyfriend and we have 2 sons, but he has this friend who was his high school sweetheart, whom he texts a lot. One day I went through his texts, and I saw that he calls her all these cute names he doesn't even use for me and when I ...
A. 27 June 2010: This does not sound innocent or "nothing" to me. You need to put some thought to planning how to leave him if worst comes to worst.
Tell him again how hurtful you find the fact he exchanges so many texts with her, how hurtful you find his cute name... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's behaviour is outrageous
Q. This is the third time me and my girlfriend have been together. Each time the relationship started i approached her and we talked things out and everything always starts off great. The first time I broke up with her she didn't like my friends ...
A. 26 June 2010: normally in these situations I would suggest a "walk, don't run" solution but for you I am going to suggest, run, start running, don't look back, run away as far and as fast as you can.
This woman is off her trolly, unhinged, a sandwich short of a... (read in full...)
What if there IS a journal entry that I don't remember and I lose my son?
Q. I had something bad happen to me almost eight months ago. Me and my ex got back together almost 6 months ago. We have been married now for almost three months now. The person who did the bad thing to me is still insisting I'm lieing. My husband says ...
A. 25 June 2010: You need to go to the police. Somebody may have hacked your account and made a fake entry into your journal. If you can afford a lawyer get one, if you have access to free legal advise go seek it. This situation sounds quite messy, also go see your... (read in full...)
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