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I think my boyfriend likes his brother's girlfriend!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and I think he is into his brother's girlfriend. She has been dating my boyfriend's brother for 4 years now and she is at his house everyday to see her boyfriend. I understand that they have a ...
A. 30 September 2008: Hi there, Hope you are doing well otherwise. This woman is going to continue her skankiness, so now you didn't say whether or not you spoke to him, to let him know you were not going to put up with the flirtation, which she is going to continue to ... (read in full...)
Is it rational to end the current relationship I'm in, for the girl I'm still in love with?
Q. I'm going to try and make a long story short, or at least as short as possible, so bare with me. I moved to Alabama a year ago last June. I moved my entire life from Georgia, to chase love. Quit my job, left my friends, my home, my comfort zone - e...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi, It may be that, you really need to stand down, as they say, and give yourself some space from both these women.
It seems to me that there is something missing, in the curent relationship that you are in perhaps, or just maybe, you do not know... (read in full...)
Is it rational to end the current relationship I'm in, for the girl I'm still in love with?
Q. I'm going to try and make a long story short, or at least as short as possible, so bare with me. I moved to Alabama a year ago last June. I moved my entire life from Georgia, to chase love. Quit my job, left my friends, my home, my comfort zone - e...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi, It may be that, you really need to stand down, as they say, and give yourself some space from both these women.
It seems to me that there is something missing, in the curent relationship that you are in perhaps, or just maybe, you do not know... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits? What are your opinions on this?
Q. I've fancied a guy for ages, but i know he's got a reputation, and he is a bit of a player. I know he likes me but i also know he doesn't do relationships and just wants friends with benefits. What is people's opionion on this?...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi there, You are very young, but not too young to think about what you really want, for yourself and your life. This is the time, when you are trying to make decisions, which could affect you, well into the future. Friends with benefits. Is there a ... (read in full...)
I retaliated in an email to a guy I just met and am very fond of! How can I turn this around?
Q. I am a female aged 49 and got very fond of a guy I met as friends only on holiday. However on returning we e mailed a few times and then he got cross in one and I retaliated-which of course is stupid. I would still like to be friends with him as ...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi, From your letter, you realize that you made a mistake, sometimes we let our emotions get the better of us. That is what I would say to him, explain that you are extremely sorry and that you have felt terrible, since the time you sent him the ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend likes his brother's girlfriend!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and I think he is into his brother's girlfriend. She has been dating my boyfriend's brother for 4 years now and she is at his house everyday to see her boyfriend. I understand that they have a ...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi there, Based on what you have told us, I would say at the least, your boyfriend is somewhat infatuated with his brother's girlfriend. He may not want to admit it, but people are not always in control of their emotions, and body language will show ... (read in full...)
My husband left me when he found out I lied to him years ago, now I can't make him listen to my side of the story.
Q. My husband left us just before Xmas saying that he 'wanted out' and didn't feel anything for me anymore. This started because many years ago I told him a lie and he found out about it. The thing is the lie was explainable and justifiable but he will ...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi, Thanks for your additional information. My question to you would be, since your husband, was a recipient to your spending of the money, which was ill gotten, did he ever suggest that you both pay the money back, even anonymously to the company? ... (read in full...)
I'm resentful that my boyfriend has so much money when I have all these health/financial problems! Why is he sooo frugal?
Q. Hi, I am feeling jealous, resentful and bitter that my boyfriend has so much money and I don't know how I can get past this issue. I'm not working and am on disability for lupus and kidney disease and I'm staying with him rent free. I get aro...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi, You do have a bad situation, but not terribly bad regarding your boyfriend. It depends on your perspective. First he is giving you shelter for free, that would be cost to you, if you were not with him, so whatever the cost of a one bedroom ... (read in full...)
I just want my husband to show some affection, he thinks by cleaning the house it shows he cares...
Q. i have been with my husband for 12 yrs. he never show`s me he cares, he says he can`t show his feeling`s. i have tried to except it but i can`t. i don`t feel loved, wanted, i just feel i have no one. he is never there for me. i have to cope with thin...
A. 30 June 2008: Hi there, In reading your letter, I really feel that by staying in this relationship, you are stressing yourself to the point that, your physical being is being affected. This is very bad. You recognize what is wrong, point by point.
Your husb... (read in full...)
She's showing the same signs of cheating again, what should I do?
Q. Hey heres my question... Ok so ive been with my girlfriend for over a year now. we broke up a couple of times because it was obvious that she was cheating on me, so i broke up with her. we got back together about 2 months ago and everything w...
A. 30 June 2008: Hi there, What you may have here, is a person who has a very hard problem, with commitment to one relationship. If this is the case, then you are going to spend your time with her, wondering if she is cheating on you again. No one is worth that kind ... (read in full...)
How can I break this off without looking like a jerk?!
Q. I no longer want to have any contact with a girl who has been interested in me for six months. The girl had been using me as a back up for her rocky relationship with her boyfriend. (She never told me she had a boyfriend. I found out through her ...
A. 30 June 2008: Hi, How about just biting the bullet, and being honest with her, tell her how you feel, get it off your chest, as nicely as you can and get on with your life. Anybody is flattered by attention, and that is what is going on, it is an ego thing, ... (read in full...)
My husband left me when he found out I lied to him years ago, now I can't make him listen to my side of the story.
Q. My husband left us just before Xmas saying that he 'wanted out' and didn't feel anything for me anymore. This started because many years ago I told him a lie and he found out about it. The thing is the lie was explainable and justifiable but he will ...
A. 29 June 2008: Hi there, If an indivdual does not want to listen, then it appears to me, that they have made up their mind, and do not want to listen, because they want their version of things, to be the one that prevails. They do not want to be persuaded by any ... (read in full...)
I emotionally cheated on him 3 years ago and he can't get over it! What can I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of nine years are in a huge fight. It's to the point where we haven't lived together in over a month. I take complete responsibility. Three years ago I had a emotional affair with someone, no sex. Well three years later he can't ...
A. 28 June 2008: Hi, This is tough, because I would think that you have apologized until you are blue in the face, so to speak.
It was an emotional affair, not a sexual one. But with women, an emotional attachment is sometimes stronger than a sexual affair. Men can ... (read in full...)
We really lash out at each other when we argue...but the table always gets turned on me!! How do I deal with this??
Q. Hey all, I'm hoping to get a lil advice cuz I've run out of ideas. I've been dating this wonderful woman for 6 months now. We get along great, talk everyday, understand each other, see a future together. I truly do love her and I know she loves...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi, In relationships. there has to be mutual respect. You can love someone to pieces, be a very nice person, on both sides, but if you don't mutually respect each other, the problem will always rear it's head and the walls go up and the anger flows. ... (read in full...)
He coming along way to visit me..should I 'put out" for him? I feel obligated..
Q. I've been on 3 dates with this a guy who lives 2hrs away from me. He's coming to visit me this weekend and staying over for a night. We get along really well and communicate via e-mail a lot. Am I expected to put out, since he's coming all the way ...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi, thanks for your return answer. Take your time, enjoy yourself. You know he likes you, if he is coming where you are, to see you. It should be fun. Take care. Surprise him with a small rosebud. :o) Be true to yourself.... (read in full...)
He coming along way to visit me..should I 'put out" for him? I feel obligated..
Q. I've been on 3 dates with this a guy who lives 2hrs away from me. He's coming to visit me this weekend and staying over for a night. We get along really well and communicate via e-mail a lot. Am I expected to put out, since he's coming all the way ...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi there, You are concerned that there is an expectation of sex. Has he asked you or indicated in some way that this is why he is coming? I think you are putting pressure on yourself for no reson. Get to know him as a person, what are your ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and am not sure I can continue this relationship. Am I over-reacting?
Q. Ok I met this lovely girl 6months ago when i was on holiday in another country. We were instantly attracted and had a holiday romance for a week. I expected nothing to come out of the relationship. Then we communicated online and she flew to my ...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi, I do feel that there is more she wants to share, whether it is about this particulare person or something else about her. She is someone who has a problem releasing all her anguish at one time, and she does not know what your reaction will be. I ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know how old she was when she lost her virginity?
Q. I am having trouble coping with the fact that my girlfriend won't tell me how old she was when she first had sex. I know who it was with, just not how old she was. I also want to know how many different guys she's been with and who they are. To a ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi there, Could you please tell me what good this information is going to do for you? Why is it important for you to have this information, to mull it over and possibly become incensed. I see no value in gathering this information. First of all it ... (read in full...)
He's been flirting with his ex via e-mail, what do I do?
Q. i dont know what to say to my boyfriend.he is flirting with his ex-gilfriend.this what he said to her over an email. "Y is it always so hard 4 u to believe me, am i dat a lie?? Anyways, am feeling bad 4 ya hornyness, where is ur man, if u aint get...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi, The e-mail, I am afraid, speaks for itself. Now, if you confront him, he will have an excuse, he was just joking, he didn't mean it, whatever. Reality bites, as they say, he is still talking to her and has not ended the connection. By the by, ... (read in full...)
When is the best time to ask someone out?
Q. Well, I met this girl at work today. She was pretty, she was really nice, and she had an easy sense of humor (that is, I made her laugh quite a bit with minimal effort). You know, all of the good signs pretty much. But just as I was ready to ask...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi there, If we could, I'd like to talk about the young lady later in my response. There is something much more salient in your letter, that I would like to address. The fact that you said, "annoyed because it seems like anything I try on my own, is ... (read in full...)
Does he want to be with me, even though he said he doesn't?
Q. I met my ex-boy friend 12 years ago when he was going through his first divorce and so was I. He had three young children with custody of them and I had three also. We went out a few times and then went our separate ways. When we stop seeing each ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi, Take care of yourself, and good luck to you.... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and am not sure I can continue this relationship. Am I over-reacting?
Q. Ok I met this lovely girl 6months ago when i was on holiday in another country. We were instantly attracted and had a holiday romance for a week. I expected nothing to come out of the relationship. Then we communicated online and she flew to my ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi, I am glad to hear you talked it over with her, it does sound as if she told you as much as she could, at that time. There may be a little more, but I think you need to let her tell you in her own time. She is a fragile soul, from my humble point ... (read in full...)
She has not been interested in sex since our child was born four years ago!
Q. I'm a 26 yr old male and i have been with my fiance for 7yrs and she as 26 as well we have one child together and he was born in 04 and I have done everything and tried everything but she is not interested in having sex with me,she hasnt really ...
A. 25 June 2008: Hi there, Taking into consideration that she has seen a doctor and there are no medical or emotional problems involved, ie, depression, or that she has just lost her sex drive. Then I go to the thought, that maybe she is not interested, because she ... (read in full...)
Are the good times we have worth all this arguing?
Q. Hello all, thanks for reading. I've been with my boyfriend for nine months now and it has really been a roller coaster ride. For the first two months of our relationship we were both living in Arkansas, then I moved back to Montana to be with my ...
A. 25 June 2008: Hi Dear,
Thanks for answering my questions. It sounds like when it was good, it was really good, but when it was bad, it was very bad. It is truly exasperating, when someone does not have enough confidence in themselves, to believe that the pers... (read in full...)
How do I convince him I will change? How can I get him back?
Q. My boyfriend just broke up with me 4 days ago and I really can't let go. We've only been dating 3 months but I felt a huge connection with him. Maybe it was because he was older (i'm 22, he's 34), or maybe its because of something deeper. But the ...
A. 25 June 2008: Hi, Good for you, take care and put yourself first, there will be room for others, if you take good care of yourself. ... (read in full...)
How can I make my brother's wife have sex with me?
Q. How I can make my brother's wife to have sex with me?...
A. 24 June 2008: Hi, You must be really in need of therapy or something. Please go somewhere and get you head put on straight. Have
you ever heard what goes around comes around. You are asking for much trouble. Have you ever heard of Cain and Able, ever wonder why ... (read in full...)
How do I convince him I will change? How can I get him back?
Q. My boyfriend just broke up with me 4 days ago and I really can't let go. We've only been dating 3 months but I felt a huge connection with him. Maybe it was because he was older (i'm 22, he's 34), or maybe its because of something deeper. But the ...
A. 24 June 2008: Hi, He broke up with you because of stress related issues,
was your drinking, as you mentioned in your letter, part of the stress related problems. You seem to realize what you have done, on your side to cause some of the problems. The thing is, ... (read in full...)
Are the good times we have worth all this arguing?
Q. Hello all, thanks for reading. I've been with my boyfriend for nine months now and it has really been a roller coaster ride. For the first two months of our relationship we were both living in Arkansas, then I moved back to Montana to be with my ...
A. 24 June 2008: Hi, From what I read, you don't mention, how the two of you behaved during the first two months when you lived near each other. So we go from when you moved, it seems as though
your boyfriend may have insecurity problems. Maybe because of the long... (read in full...)
How can I strike a careful balance in this friendship?
Q. Hey hope you can help. I don't have many friends and those I do have seem to care only about themselves. When they have problems they turn to me and while I am willing to help and offer advice, I often get frustrated when, once i need to turn to ...
A. 24 June 2008: Hi, My thought is that you have to decide what it is, you
want from this friendship. It is obvious to you, from your letter, that you know, as a person, she is incapable of being a friend, that you can depend on for advice and counsel. She is a take... (read in full...)
Should I be insulted, my husband tells his friends he was attracted to me because of my breasts?
Q. would you be insulted if your husband told a group of people we were out with (mainly his friends) that the first thing that attracted him to me was my big breasts and was the reason he approach me. I felt a bit like it was disrespectiful, ...
A. 24 June 2008: Hi, There are two different ways to look at this, first, he made the remark in front of other people. That could be embarrassing. Two, he was attracted to you because of your breasts, yes, but, why did he stay, and why did he marry you. There was ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and am not sure I can continue this relationship. Am I over-reacting?
Q. Ok I met this lovely girl 6months ago when i was on holiday in another country. We were instantly attracted and had a holiday romance for a week. I expected nothing to come out of the relationship. Then we communicated online and she flew to my ...
A. 24 June 2008: Hi, I realy think that she was afraid to tell you that,
she and the gentleman who texted her, had been involved in the past. Now he has come back into her life and you are
in her life as well. And she therefore did not want to stir anything... (read in full...)
Can love really happen this fast?
Q. I met a wonderful woman online a few weeks ago. It took me one week to fall in love. I met her online first, and in only one round of email correspondence back and forth, we both had made one Hell of a connection. We both immediately sent our ...
A. 24 June 2008: Hi, It hit you without face to face contact, you met her , didn't quite like her, then you hung around, got to know her snd really got to like her. Sounds to me like a country western love song.:o) Seriously, it has happened before. Someone I know, ... (read in full...)
Do you think our age difference will interfere in our relationship in the future?
Q. We were engaged two years ago, but we split up. I am almost 28, he is 56. Do you think age difference will interfere in our relationship in the future? HELP PLEASE...
A. 23 June 2008: Hi, The information you provided and the tone of this letter says, take your time with this, as far as marriage goes. It seems as if you will want a little more, than a comfortable life, you care about him, but the strength of that caring, does not ... (read in full...)
Do you think our age difference will interfere in our relationship in the future?
Q. We were engaged two years ago, but we split up. I am almost 28, he is 56. Do you think age difference will interfere in our relationship in the future? HELP PLEASE...
A. 23 June 2008: Hi, If two people love and more than that, if they like each other, they should be able to make the relationship work. Any relationship takes work, otherwise why would we have over 50% of the married population divorcing. In your case, this is a big ... (read in full...)
I recently broke up with the man I love and I really need your help.
Q. I am writing this because i need advice, from either people who have been there or for people who think that they may be able to offer me support. I have just recently broken up with my boyfriend and we were together for almost 2 years. I love him...
A. 23 June 2008: Hi, Although you say you had a few drinks the first time, you had sex with your co-worker. The second time you were sober and you made a concious choice. You wrote it down somewhere and he found it. Now, that to me is strange, was there not enough ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but want my builder
Q. Hi Im confused! I am 21 and have always been very headstrong! 4 years ago i met a married man who i instantly fell for. I found out he wasnt happy in his marraige and made a play for him...it worked and i am now married to him! He worships the grou...
A. 21 June 2008: Hi, I think you need to define what "marriage" means to you. You took a vow, does that mean anything to you? Granted, you are young, but you have to have a value system. The man you are married to , was married when you decided to go after him, as ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I've spent weeks thinking but haven't come up with a solution...all advice really appreciated!
Q. Hi all, My husaband recently got back from a business trip in china. I know it sounds untrusting but I checked his phone and to my horror there was text to one of his sports friends it went something like this, Hi mate, can't play squash, still in ...
A. 20 June 2008: Hi, I think this really goes back to, why you checked his messages in the first place. Something else has gone on to make you doubt his faithfulness. You have the answer to that. He said "eating a lot, drinking a lot and f.....g a lot", now he could ... (read in full...)
I drunkenly told her I liked her - How can I let her down easy?
Q. K, so I'm wondering what to do about a girl who totally won't get the hint. She ALWAYS wants me to call her, she wants to hang out everyday, the whole bit. We hooked up at a party a week ago, I was completely smashed, and while we were hooki...
A. 20 June 2008: Hi, Direct and up front, should be the way to go. If you take the time, not at her house, and tell her, you were definitely drunk, you remember nothing, so what you said had no meaning. You do not like her as a girlfriend, and don't want to be with ... (read in full...)
Does he want to be with me, even though he said he doesn't?
Q. I met my ex-boy friend 12 years ago when he was going through his first divorce and so was I. He had three young children with custody of them and I had three also. We went out a few times and then went our separate ways. When we stop seeing each ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi, This is just a bit complicated. He wants comfort from you because, as I see it, he appreciates the kindness you offer to his daughter and the emotional connection you still have for him, that why he kisses you unexpectantly, and shows up where ... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with this guy? Help!
Q. hello I am kind of confuse with this guy i am dating, he does everything to please me, we have never fight, we have develop feelings for eachother, he is always trying to see how am I feeling ( because I have a little bit of bad health), he even...
A. 18 June 2008: Hi, It sounds as if the two of you care about each other, love? I would take things slow, he did tell you what he told you, for some reason. It seems to be a sort of protective cover, so that you will be comfortable with the idea, that he does not ... (read in full...)
I've dug a hole for myself, what do I do now?
Q. So I started dating this girl in December and over the course of a couple months I have led her to believe that I spent some time after high school travelling because I was extremely insecure about entering University as late as i did...I was ...
A. 18 June 2008: Hi, If you were not basically an honest person, the things that you told her, which were untrue, would not bother you. Liars don't usually have guilty feelings about things, it's what they do. So, I would say, you should go out to a neutral place ... (read in full...)
What else can I do to get over my ex?
Q. My online ex dumped me a few months back and we have being comunicating now and again. We exchange e-mails on a daily basis. A few days ago, we talked, like properly and it felt like we were "us" again. Thing is I know he's over me and I know tha...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi, Emotions cannot always be controlled, just as we fall in love unexpectedly, if you have been close to a person, and you feel you really care, then it's hard to just let go. But time will take care of it, don't try to suppress the feelings, you ... (read in full...)
I get depressed about my "small" boobs...
Q. im 18 and just wondering if my boobs will grow anymore or if im gonna have to wait till i have kids or the next stage of my life? im a size. 12A sometimes 10A and i feel like i have the body of a 14 year old. i was a late developer didnt get my p...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi, I'm thinking it only depresses you, because you are comparing your breast size, to pictures of women with
larger sized breasts than you. Your self image is very important, but how you are inside and who you are as a person, should be at the fore... (read in full...)
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