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male
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anonymous
writes:my girlfriend came to me as her cheating/violent ex partner of many years finally beat her so badly that he put her in hospital she was to scared to go back and i offered a place to live. A few months later we started getting on well a physical relationship developed and we decided to officially go out. Things have been up and down over the last eight months though we were extremely close. In the last two months she started being more distant i talked to her about it and things went back to normal for a days though now talking does not do any good. She just says she needs time. I have not pushed her as she will have to go to court soon to sort out the house etc with her ex and Im hoping its just because thats on her mind. There is no closeness between us atm i get what could be called reluctant kisses and there has been nothing physical between us for nearly two months. She says she wants to stay with me and that she loves me, she even hinted that we should get engaged though i wont until her past is totally sorted and our relationship is more normal. As each day passes she seems a little more distant. I have tried arranging Romantic things for us to do together which at the time is fine and she is happy but she goes strait back to being distant after. I love her and will look after her and help her however i can. Though will she ever go back to being the loving affectionate person i fell in love with?
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (17 May 2011):
Well, she's obviously been through terrible times, so she's probably still very affected by what happened. Is she having any kind of counseling? Is is very important for victims of domestic violence to talk to a therapist.
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