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writes:I'm 14, and have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. We are very close, he knows everything about me, and we even talk about things that I'd usually talk to my girlfriends about. Sometimes we have our moments where we talk about...sex... And not that I don't feel I'm not ready, I just think or worry too much about how it'll be. For example, I think about us starting off, and I think to myself, "how are we going to feel? is it going to be awkward?". I honestly feel that I'm ready for sex, not that I'll be doing it any time soon, but I'm just concerned that one day me and him will come across that line in the street and I won't know how to react. Usually I go along with things like this, but the actual "it", I just don't know if it will be awkward. Like before, I used to go out with a boy, I was stupid and young, (I still am), and I was just desperate for attention because I had SUCH a low self esteem. So I used to sneak to his house around 2 in the morning, to let him "grind" on me, as he said it was called. I did it because I liked it, but then again, I shouldn't have done it because at the same time, I was only trying to keep him. I was 12 and he was 14. I should've known that he only wanted one thing. But as mentioned before, I was younger. Well at the time we were doing what we were doing, I didn't feel wrong at all, because I liked it, and because it wasn't actually sex, it was only touching and getting close. But I just don't know if sex will be awkward for me. Any thoughts or answers to how it will be or anything else? Feel free to help me out, thanks! Sincerely, Kimberly.
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reader, jrunlucky +, writes (8 August 2010):
 at your age sex should not be done only because you dont know your body as well as you think you do. i'm not trying to act like those old ladies telling younger people not to do it but from experience sex is not something you should do without knowing yourself first. i'm not saying your in the wrong for anything you have done, your just trying to find out things you dont know. sex, for most girls, is very pleasing and for the first couple times it hurts. another thing: at your age your vagina is still growing and it'll be even worse for you if you put in a penis that is "grown up" so if you must have sex now, i suggest you find a partner your age.
another thing about sex for virgins is that it is kinda awkward. for the most part you have no idea what your doing and how to do it. people around you make it sound easy but it really isnt just "putting a bandanna into a doughnut" if you know what i mean. you need to be wet enough or it'll feel even more uncomfortable so foreplay is in order (for both you and him.), and missionary (the kind you see on tv) is not very exciting not to mention it sucks. they do say you can never go wrong with that position but it isnt pleasing.
plus sometimes sounds are made. funny stupid sounds. it's okay to laugh at them, they are after all somewhat funny. feeling embarrassed during sex or even before sex means you arent ready. you should be comfortable and you must have a partner you will not regret doing it with for times to come. i know i'm ranting but it is something you should be wary of.
if you have any questions just ask me. oh yeah. condoms you'll need condoms (fitting condoms)
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reader, kylapaige +, writes (7 August 2010):
i know how you feel...
im 14 and been with my bf for a year at less.. hes 16 tho.. and those same questions always cross my mind.. so one day i just got over my nerves and asked someone.. there are these girls at my school and they sleep with everyone lol (i dont really like them). there pround of themself.. but there in one of my classes so i asked her questions.. she said it feels uh-mazon!! and ect. but idk cuz alot ppl tell he its weird... ect..
me and my bf talk about it alot... and i feel im ready and hes ready too. :p we are both tested for hiv's and std's and stuff... and he said he will never use a condom but i told him.. “no glove no love” lol :p jk. but hes gonna wear a condom...
just make sure if ya'll are ready plz use a condom too... we dont need anymore pregnant teen in the world..
lol. but he prob. won't be so weird... you can just kiss him and make out while your well doing it. :p
my bf said hes gonna kiss my neck and we're gonna make out and other stuff. cuz i told him that i think its gonna be weird.. and we are prob. just gonna sit there lol. and he told meh he wants it to be perfect for me and my first time. lol. he dont want it to be awkward for meh lol.
hes a basketball player... and ima da cheerleader.. n well b4 homecoming this year we wanna do ... it.. butwe are playing safe.. but if one of use change are mind we arnt going to...
we meet at homingcoming a few years ago.. we started liking each other at homecoming.. (are school luvvz sports) and so does he.. and he told meh if we do, do that that wil improve him on his game lol.
homecoming is in nov. so i gives me lots of time to think about it..
(he wants it to be perfect for meh.. so ever year at homecoming we go to are friends house the friends that live by the school.. my best friend happends to be his best friends little sister.. :p but we go there every year..and get ready for the game and stuff.. me and amber take showers and do are hair n makeup and plan are outfits.. haha
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