| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: Will someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong? I'm a 32yr old single mum and can't get a new man. I dont seem to have trouble attracting men initially. A number of men have approached me and eventually asked for my phone number, and most of them seemed quite sincere when they said they would ring.But nobody ever does. Why??? I haven't had a date in over 4 years. I'm starting to feel quite paranoid and unwanted. Should I just give up and resign myself to the fact that I'll probably have to spend the rest of my life single. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2006): I dont think it is down to the fact that you are a single Mum I am single and have no children and again when I go out and stuff guys talk to me and ask for my number but they very rarely call, I'm getting paranoid about it too maybe its a guy thing
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): I'm in the exact same situation. I've dated a few guys who were really great, but they've never turned into relationships. I think guys might initially like you, but then start considering the fact that you have a child, and it freaks them out a bit. Then they start to reconsider whether they actually want to put the effort in to see you and change their mind when they think they might end up hurting you.
I personally think guys automatically make a lot of assumptions about single mothers. They think we are out there looking for fathers for their children, that if they start a relationship with us, we are expecting it to be for the long run. I think this is what scares them away. It's a shame, because even if you present the attitude that you just want to go out and have fun, no expectations, they still make these assumptions.
I think the best thing to do is just to have a carefree attitude about it. You're still young. I think the right guy will come around eventually.
...............................
|
