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writes: I had a best friend for almost 8 years. We did everything together and were friends since high school and college. She then started to change a lot and we seemed to drift apart. It seemed she would purposely disagree with me about every thing I said, picking arguments with me and saying things that she knew annoyed and hurt me on purpose so that we would get into a fight. Well now I’m guessing she obviously purposely pushed me away, she was busy with her life or whatever and didn't want to be friends anymore. Getting me angry all that time was her way of getting rid of me. I know I shouldn’t take it personally because she seemed to also stop talking to another mutual friend, but I heard through the grapevine that she STILL talks about us and makes snide remarks. It’s like she doesn’t want to be friends, yet she still has to have some control over us if she has to talk about us. I guess I’m just confused because we didn’t really have a major blow out or anything, we just sort of drifted apart…. Yet even when we weren’t talking as much, we would meet up, but she’d act snooty. But then when I distanced myself, she said she missed me. Why is she such a “hot and cold” person? How do I deal with this and calm my thoughts so I don’t dwell on this like I have been doing? It just doesn’t make sense. I know I should make new friends, but I’m afraid they’ll be like her and this type of situation will be repeated.
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