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writes:me and my wife have been married for twenty years now . until recently she never went out without me . now she out at least once aweek . i trust her and i know she would never be unfaithful. but i can help feeling very hurt by it.we argue so much about this .i dont what ishould do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): After twenty year's of marrage my wife started going out alone to and left me at home with the kids. Like you I trusted my wife because I adored her. (BIG MISTAKE) I was not happy with her going out alone but I felt at the time that she was just having a bit of fun with her workmates but I did feel hurt because we always went out together. Anyway after a couple of months going out with her friends she ended up having an affair with one of them a married man that gave her a few compliments. This affair broke my heart and now our marrage is over. If someone had warned me of the dangers of a wife going out alone I might have been able to save our marrage. I am not saying that every wife that goes out alone cheats but when a wife suddenly wants to go out alone after twenty years of marrage I would be VERY CONCERNED If I were you. Nicky
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reader, BeSimplyTrue +, writes (18 August 2010):
 This sounds like a very hurtful and confusing situation for you, but I don't know if it has to be. I mean, I don't know the nature of her outings (other than the fact that you don't think she's being unfaithful but you feel hurt anyway). Can you give us some more information? I have a lot of questions about this.
Does she make it plain that you are not welcome on these solo outings?
Do you two make a habit of still going out on date-type outings together (not running errands)?
Do you know what she does on these outings, or does she keep it a secret?
I think if you answer some of these questions we can do a better job of helping you out.
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