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writes:Okay me and my boyfriend have been together about 7 years off and on. I care about him alot and love him. During our years of being together I have cheated once during a time that we were not doing to good. Now, we have moved past that which was over 3 or 4 years ago. Since then we have had a child together. And have been living together since November 09'. I see all my friends getting married and getting engaged...I just wanted to know am I wrong for feeling like he should have been proposed to me? ..but he says that we have came a long way in our relationship and that he want to do it when the time is right for him! I do not want to get married right away, I just want to move to the next step... I feel like I been the girlfriend.. I been the babymomma.. Why is he waitting to get engaged? Would I be wrong if I leave him for this? What do everyone think?!!!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 Marriage isn't a stage in life, it is a promise that you both have to be willing to make. If he isn't ready then, he just isn't ready. It could be a number of things that put him off the idea. Your past affair could still be causing trust issues and the fact that this relationship has been quite turbulent for the past 7 years. That is not what a marriage should be like. I think he is waiting until he knows and he can feel that this relationship is stable enough.
Do not rush something like this. If you leave him, just ask yourself, what then? You said you two have been through so much together, could you find someone else so easily? Wouldn't you just end up waiting even longer to be married? A committed relationship cannot be forged over a fortnight.
I hope that helps.
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