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*ibeauty
writes:Dear Cupid, I have been feeling lots of heterosexual urges lately and I am currently in a relationship with a woman I'm in love with. She turns me on and our sex life is stellar. However, I can't help but crave full penetrative sex. We own a strap on and we've used it on each other many times. It does work and the sensation is about the same, but there's something about man in his masculinity that gets me off. I also have been craving being the only girl in the relationship. Often times I feel like I have to nurture and smooth over arguments or be chivalrous for her. Although I love doing them cause they make her happy and make me feel like a good partner, sometimes I wish I was the only one being doted upon like a man does to woo a girl. I'm not too sure what to do. I would never ever act upon these urges and I don't intend on at all pursuing them because I would never cheat on my girlfriend. I love her to death and she's everything I could ever want and more. So why does it still feel like something's missing? (Very tiny but always there)Can a bisexual ever be fully complete?
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reader, Bibeauty +, writes (11 October 2010):
Bibeauty is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey everyone thanks for your replies. I would jsut like to start by thinking that I feel like I am passed the "bi until graduation" thing. I am totally in love with my girlfriend. She is everything to me and yes their can be moodiness and what not, but I still love her and she makes me the happiest. I don't think I can picture anyone else making me as happy ad she does. It's just a sexual thing mostly. But, I don't know I don't think it's important my feelings for her definitely surpass any desires for a man at this point in my life.
To clarify I did not make the title for this question. So, I don't feel anything is missing I just feel at times that I'm missing out sometimes. My relationship is whole and complete but all of my desires are not. But as I said I think that's just what bisexuals have to go through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): Probably the way to think about this is to try and figure out if your desire for or curiosity of being with man is stronger than your feelings for your girlfriend and the relationship you have now. If you're mostly happy with your gf, then you might want to stick with it!
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reader, Cupid Boy +, writes (11 October 2010):
 If she were truly everything you could ever want and more, then would you really be feeling like something's missing?
Not saying this will be the case with you, but being bi often seems to be a "phase" girls go through in their youth. They're "Bi Until Graduation," then almost always end up settling down with a guy. You'd think roughly half would choose girls but for some reason they don't.
What you mentioned is I think a reason most girls are not lesbian. Although they find other girls physically attractive, they don't like dealing with their neediness and moodiness. Unfortunately, there can be only one "princess" in a relationship, not two.
You sound very committed to your gf. But if these heterosexual urges persist and grow, at some point you will have to start taking them seriously -- as an indication that just maybe a lesbian relationship isn't the best for you in the long-term.
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