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41-50,
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writes:I need some advice. I have been dating a guy for 1 and a half year. Nearly broke up once before. He has a lot of baggage. When I met him, all was fine. He seemed mature and like he knew what he wanted in life. It has been a emotional rollercoaster ever since. I feel like I am not a priority in his life. His cellphone is always flat or missing so I cannot get hold of him. He doesnt tell me what he was doing unless I literally drag it out of him. He has many interests, and he needs more time on his own than the average guy. He is not ready for a commitment and is emotionally unavailable. He has issues with his "manhood"...and he has huge anger issues. Question that I ask myself is why I put up with it. I dont know. Maybe I am addicted to the "bad-boy" image. I generally try and do special things for him...now he tells me I shouldnt because he feels guilty if I do. Must say...that hurt a lot. He does make time for "us" every week, but when it is not "our" time it is like he vanishes from the face of the earth. Is this normal? Am I too clingy? Or is my gut feeling telling me to move on?
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reader, Luaris  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Yeah this doesnt sound like a good situation. If he is only making time for you when its time for "that" then he is apparently not prioritising you. I cant believe you've stayed for a year and a half, although Ive been there before myself I guess.
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