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Why do I miss him? He treated me like crap!

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Question - (5 March 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 5 March 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My ex and I have been broken up for 2 years. He cheated on me and has been with that girl since we broke up. He did some horrible things to me, aside from the cheating, his best friend raped me and wasn't on my side, he spread rumors about me in my neighborhood saying I made it up and im a slut, he constantly to this day talks bad of me and recently him and his girlfriend tried to run me off the road. I don't know what I ever did to him but be a loyal and great girlfriend. but, my question is.. why do I still have feelings for him and miss him? I think about him almost everyday and he's in majority of my dreams. after all the things he's done to me, don't you think by now I should be completely over him? he even got a std from his new girlfriend, and I sometimes imagine him coming back to me and telling me he wants to be with me and I accept. why?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009):

Human mind is unpredictable. We like certain things which may not be good for us and we hate certain things which are good for us. Dont try to interpret it and feel bad about yourself. You realize that he is not good for you and he will hurt you again. So just ignore your feelings. Time does wonders. You will get over him in time. All the Best :)

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A male reader, mace United Kingdom +, writes (5 March 2009):

mace agony aunti am sorry if this is off the mark but it sounds like a partner i had my girlfreind who was in a similer relationship with one of her ex's who had raped and beaten her and alot of nasty thing you chould still see the fag burns and in my opinion its becoes they are so undercofident with them selfs they need something to rule over any way i think the reason you still have fealings is you have gotten this attachment that you are in some sort of way not alowed to be with any one els yes you will talk about it for years to come but if this dude comes back it is only bad news and yes their are a lot of good guys out their and you need to talk about your fealings or as above said have a book to write them in but you get no responce from a book all the best to you

mace

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A male reader, tux United States +, writes (5 March 2009):

tux agony auntTip: Buy a sheet of posterboard, some bright, good-sized markers and one good-sized black marker.. Take the said materials and write in big, bold, bright letters the word "NO!!!" Then flip it over.... Take the black marker and write the words, "This is for when *insert ex's name* comes back begging me to go back to him.

^remember the above mentioned tip.

This guy is bad news for you. By any means possible, forget him. He will hurt you and drag you down further. You need to get your self-esteem and respect back. There are plenty of other guys out there that you should be missing, have feelings for and be dreaming about more than this major league jerkwad.

You are better than this. Drag yourself up, and respect yourself. Spend your time worrying about spending time with friends.. stop thinking about being in a relationship with anyone. There are better guys out there.

and follow and do the above tip. ;)

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