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writes:I saw another post about dreams and it made me think i should ask about a few dreams i have repeatedly. I have a recurring dream where I am single. In real life I am married. I have been having this dream now for at least a couple years and it's at least twice a month where I have it. What happens is in my dream I am going about life, a lot of times dealing with going out on a date with some random guy. I have forgotten all about my ex (in my dream my husband is my ex). I then remember and start thinking about "my ex" (my current husband) and I think- it's been X amount of time since I have heard from him (usually weeks) and then I think- I will not call him, I'm not giving in, then I go about my life. I even have a weird feeling like I dislike him. Sometimes I do talk to him and find out he is dating someone else, but it isn't like I'm sad about it. Its just the feeling you have after a break up. Then when I wake up I literally have to see him and remind myself it was just a dream, it feels that real. I have another recurring dream where I am back in school. Usually it's like there was a flaw in their system and it turns out I haven't graduated after all. I then spend the whole dream trying to work out ways I can get out of going to class- like, I will go 3 times this week and I'll only miss a few homework assignments so I'll be fine. It's all an elaborate plan in my head to be able to skip class. These are more frequent than my dreams where my husband and I aren't together. I know it's pretty random and I always have vivid dreams, but I am really curious if there is something in my subconscious causing these. any ideas or do they probably mean nothing? Thanks!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (16 November 2012):
Hi there. Dreams very often symbolise things that are going on in our lives currently.
They can symbolise feelings we have about our lives, our work, anything at all about us.
It could even be some kind of secret yearning.
What I have found very useful in my own life, is to write down all my dreams in full - every single detail that I can possibly remember.
Although they are often rather abstract, because they tell a story in pictures, not words, they still convey a message to us, just the same.
Perhaps, you could buy an A4 size notebook, so you can start writing all your dreams and keeping a record.
Over time, you will see a common thread of thought, that seems to consistently come up, over and over again.
Just as long as you and your husband do have a really good relationship, well then there probably isn't any need to believe it really is coming to an end.
Keeping in mind, that dreams are ALWAYS symbolic in their nature.
Perhaps your unconscious mind sees your relationship as going through some different phases, and this isn't necessarily a bad thing.
It could even be that perhaps secretly, you believe that you and your husband spend too much time together.
And by that I mean, that you might feel that you would like some time on your own to visit your own friends, and maybe pursue some hobbies or interests, that will take your out of your home at least once or twice a week.
Maybe you and your husband are home a lot, and all of your free time, is spent together.
Perhaps you are feeling slightly held back by this situation. Perhaps even a little stuck.
The being over with the marriage - in your dreams - would seem to hint at that a bit.
And when you said that you and him - in your dreams - are still friends, even though you are separated, this seems to point towards a good relationship with him, which you probably already have now.
So because of all those things, I don't believe it's a foretelling of your future.
Well not as far as your marriage is concerned, anyway.
It seems as though it's more about you wanting more "Me Time" for yourself, and perhaps doing more with your free time.
And not just sitting around watching tv with your husband - day in and day out.
It could be that you feel you are in a bit of a rut at the moment.
And that you are wanting more variety in your life, generally speaking.
Now, regards the dreams about your graduation and feeling that - in the dreams - you realized that you were NOT graduated after all, could simply be that you might like to consider furthering your studies in the not too distant future.
And that if you take this path, that you will most likely choose to do the extra education on a part time basis, a couple of nights a week.
It does seem to correspond, doesn't it?
Have you been thinking about doing more study?
If you have been, it could be that you would like to do some more subjects on what you previously graduated on.
And perhaps also, it could be that you are considering studying in the same field, and branching off in a slightly different direction with it, when you go back to college, should you decide to go back.
In any case, it definitely seems to be hinting at further study either in the field you currently work in, or a related industry.
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