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writes:I knew this man for a short time and we never had sex purely because I dont give the goods away too quick.he contacted me a few times by e mail and we met up again for a short while as he was off on a business meeting. In the e mail I told himn I was starting to have feelings ok big mistake-but after that he e mailed me and said there will be no further meetingsand the only contact will be by e mail and was very sharp and ubrupt., no he isnt married and I know where he lives and have his address which he gave me and his phone number he is actually widowed. I can understand it if he doesnt want to get too involved but why the decision for no meetings? couldnt he jsut meet and say he doesnt want to get involved -take it or leave it-not the huge "off with your head" . When we were dancing some people said how good we looked together and we have a lot in common and by pure coincidence only it turns out I own a flat jsut two miles from where he lives in a seaside resort. I think we could have at least tried for something but he said there is to be no more contact face to face. Does he hate me? It seems a shame - now I have lost a friend-I dont know whay he has reacted so strongly when he could at least give me the choice take it at a lower level or not-but he didnt-straight away he was cross and pushed me away. Why? He knew I owned the flat in the beginning so its not that it was jsut when I said I had feelings. Ok so he doesnt want them so give me the choice surely??? Reply to this Question
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reader, xray2112  +, writes (31 July 2008):
It's hard to understand people sometimes but to answer your question as to whether or not he could have given you a choice or an ultimatum is no. For whatever reason he had for ending it, there was no room for a choice on your part. He wouldn't have respected or wanted anything other than your agreement. I think maybe he is the kind of person who can't talk or finds it difficult to do so. Still, there is no excuse for the way he did things. You can ask him but you might not like what you hear. I know it hurts but look at the bright side... better now than having to live with those moods.
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