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writes:I don't get this, why can my ex bluntly talk about our past together by saying, remember when I did this with you? Or I gave this to you, but when I talk to her about our past together or to tell her how I felt about something she had been asking me for months on end, she just ignores it and ignores me? I know when she gets frustrated she just stops talking to you, its something that I have recently learned about her. I also knew she was having a bit of a rough day, but she just acted like nothing happened the next day and acted very friendly which annoyed me. Why would she do this?
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reader, Simply Jane2011  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Looking at the situation, possibly she is still trying to get over the relationship or she still has feelings for you, she cant accept that the relationship is over, being friends is good, there are two sides to a story, she should let you experss your feelings, and she shouldnt have acted like nothing had happened, it is annoying when people do that, try to ask her whats wrong, if she decides to ignore you, then let her be and she will talk when shes ready
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reader, BunnyAce +, writes (20 November 2010):
 This is odd. She is your ex girlfriend, why is she bringing up the past?
Seems like she is playing a mind game with you! She wants to rise up emotions and be testy to keep stringing you along. It is a power trip thing.
It's weird how some can do this, they want to keep the guy interested to keep their ego high. If she gets mad at you for bringing things up, just like she is doing, then she just wants to prove that you can't have her like that again but if she wanted, she could have you.
If you were to stop her in her tracks when she starts talking about something, it would be like throwing a curve ball at her. Showing her that you are independent and don't need to hear her petty flash backs. They are no longer amusing to you and you have moved on. This will confuse her and if she does have feelings left over for you, you better believe she will want you even more when she thinks that there is a possibility that she cant have you. That is how the human mind works...always wanting what we can't have.
Personally I wouldn't associate with an ex. Especially if he was acting this way, totally inappropriate and uncivil.
Buttt if you really want her as a friend, make that known to her. Tell her next time she attempts to bring up the past: "look, those were fun times, but that was in the past, i don't understand why we can't just talk presently, unless there is something you are regretting. But if their isn't lets just keep it to friendly conversations. I don't think that talking about this is appropriate. I value our friendship and don't want to mess it up by bringing up what we used to be".
If she gets mad at you for this, she isn't a good friend anyway. Double standards are degrading. Don't let anyone hold you back, especially an ex!
Give yourself space to find someone that respects you as much as you respect them. This ex of yours is bringing out the weakness in you. In these cases, he person who cares less has the most power. Don't let yourself be controlled ever!
Hope this helps.
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