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writes:I seriously need help. I have never been like this. This guy that I like, is in the same circle of friends that I am. I cannot for the life of me have an intelligent conversation with him and I've always been able to in the past. What's worse is the way I've been handling the whole situation, I have been acting like some elementary school girl, in other words very immaturely. I don't know why for the life of me I'm acting like this, and I'm in my mid-20's, so I feel especially pathetic. If anyone can help me figure out why I'm acting like this or what I should do, I would greatly appreciate it.Thank you so much!
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (4 August 2008):
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let us know how you get on
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for all your great advice!!!! I greatly appreciate all of it. It has honestly helped me figure myself out a little bit better.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (4 August 2008):
You need to relax.
Everybody gets nervous or does silly things around someone they like or fancy. The anon reader is partially right; sometimes resorting to silly personalities means it may not be meant to be; but that doesn't mean you should give up straight away.
Why do you need to have an "intelligent" conversation...what are you are you planning to talk to him about; quantum physics or something?
What's wrong with talking about the weather, tv, music, film, etc? That why you get to know more personal details about the man....and you don't need to be a genius or schoolgirl to say things like "gorgeous weather isn't it?"
However if you do struggle there, then maybe is simply isn't meant to be...
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): You probably really like him and so you get really giddy and silly when you're around him. That happens sometimes. In my experience, when I don't feel comfortable enough around a guy to just be myself, no matter how much I like him, it usually means that its not meant to be. If the chemistry was absolutely perfect, you would be able to be yourself around him. And above all, you'd feel comfortable around him. So the fact that you don't, and you feel like you have to resort to silly personalities while in his presence is, in my opinion, just a sign that he's not the guy for you. So, in that case, I wouldn't stress about it too much.
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