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writes:I met a guy on vacation who i really like...we've been back a few days now but he lives far away...he calls me all the time and says how beautiful i am and how much he misses me....when i asked him on vacation what we were he said "for now,having fun" he calls me all the time and tells me how he wishes i was with him where he lives...one state away and how he can still smell me...and all this really cute stuff...on vacation and recently we have discussed how much we really like each other...i'm not sure how to ask him if we are like seeing other people or if were just a thing...i think i am really falling for him so i don't want to let myself fall for him to fast if he just wants to be "for now, having fun"....what the heck does that mean??? I know were not dating but i don't know how long people normally wait before dating...i haven't been in a serious relationship lately im 16...any advice...asap please.....ps: i wait all day to talk to him on the phone and he says he waits all day to talk to me too Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 When a guy tells you "for now having fun" that means he will be pursuing and seeing other girls. He had a great time with you, he thinks you're beautiful, so this is not personal and does not mean he likes you less. It's unrealistic for a guy this age with raging hormones, in highschool, to wait and put his life on hold for some girl he can only talk to online or on the phone. Same for you! Keep in contact with him, have fun, but please don't think this can be a serious relationship right now. He likes you, he wants to have fun with you, but he's not going to give up girls he can see, touch, and feel "in person", locally, for an online, out of state deal. There is no way you can date this guy anyway, right? Maybe if you keep in touch, in a couple of years, if you go to the same college or something, things may be different. Have fun with it and enjoy but don't expect anything, okay?
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