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writes:Vent.....When does the pain stop when the ex husband, who left his family for a 22 year old, when he picks the kids up on his weekend. My heart breaks when the kids leave. Reply to this Question
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reader, makeyourwifehot +, writes (30 June 2009):
Pain of loss (especially when you are constantly reminded of him) will be there and is impossible to simply "wish away".However, YOUR mental and physical health are important to you, your children, your friends and family.1. Do NOT look at his "new life" as a rejection of you. Men often leave a stable and familiar face for a new one. That doesn't mean you aren't worthy...far from it. His values have changed and while it may appear that it is you, it really is not...IT'S HIM! He is the one who chose to leave. He is the one who is following primal instincts that are in conflict with his family commitments. They may be misplaced, but there they are.2. You are most likely a wonderful, personable, and terrific person and mother. There are THOUSANDS of men who are fed up with crazy, unstable women who would be blessed to be with a woman like you. In order to heal your heart you need to take care of yourself.Exercise: Physically feeling fit works wondersRead: Inspirational books feed the soulNetwork: Association will create a new foundation for youForgive: It's not for him...its for youAccept: Once you move through the pain (takes time) Your acceptance will give you peace.THEN, after you go through all this crap, you can love, live and laugh again! Millions have done it, you can too!
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