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writes:Hi Eveyone!My boyfriend and I of 11/2 year decided to move in together in his house. He seems really committed to me. He even get me a car to drive (since I dnt have one) he pays for my phone bill and he said he really loves having me around in his house. He even plan of us moving in to vegas 3 yrs from now. But I noticed that everytime I ask him where this relationship going. H ewould say that he cannot guarntee anything.. this sends out red flag and hes giving me a mixed signal of wanting me but he doesnt want me to ask questions about our relatiosnhip. I am confused. also I want to get married and thats one thing that I am worried about asking him about I dnt want to put pressure on him.. I really want this relatiosnhip to work.. whats the best thing to handle this relationship? Will he ever marry me? Please help! Thank you so much! Reply to this Question
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reader, PR_Scorpio +, writes (10 October 2011):
I think the fact that he's making future plans to move you guys to Vegas shows that he's thinking longterm. I can understand the fact that he say's there are no guarantees because truly, no relationship is guaranteed to succeed. You just have to trust that it will and work hard at making it last. A lot of men are scared of that 8 letter word (marriage) and if you're boyfriend is one of them, you'll have to give him time to warm up to the idea. Again, you living with him, him giving you a car and paying bills, is his way of showing that he's committed and thinks longterm. Bottom line, if this is not good enough for you and you insist on getting a straight answer from him, then I would suggest having a heart to heart and making your decision based on what you hear/feel. Personally, I don't think I would press the marraige issue, but everyone is different and if it means that much to you, then address it. Either way, good luck!
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