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writes:Hi everyone,What's the correct etiquette when couples go clubbing together? Like do you dance with people of the opposite sex, how far can you go? If my boyfriend was dancing very close to a girl (like bodies touching), is that acceptable? I've never went clubbing as a couple before, so I don't know what other people do
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 Oh, then if your comfortable, then let him dance and you go dance as well... Dancing isn't sex, if your group play free and easy and your boyfriend want's to join in, it's probably best if you do the same thing.
We don't want you standing alone, and it's not worth turning a simple dance into a big argument and fight. I think he will change his mind once he sees you and some guy "dipping and grinding". Just wait until you get there and follow his lead about what is suitable for you and him.
Jealousy is much better when it's shared. You can do whatever he can do... if he can stand the heat, then so can you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): I wasn't sure what the "normal" boundaries are. I have some friends who would never dare to even step into a club, and others who're married and would go to the club and dance REALLY suggestively/sexually/grinding, the full works,etc with other guys. The group of people who we are going with are more of the latter and I think the bf will be pissy with me and go "well, the other girls don't mind that their boyfriends dance/grind with other girls", etc ... and if I said no, I would probably also look very jealous, insecure, controlling, etc?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): Sounds like you need to talk and set the boundaries in advance. I think in general you shouldnt nor should he dance provocatively with someone else. But to dance with someone you know, or for him do dance with a friend should be fine.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (3 September 2010):
Negotiate about what's suitable for you and your boyfriend. Anything is possible as long as you both feel fine and agree. I usually stay with my partner, unless other family and friends are there, and then I think it's polite for both of us to circulate and dance with other people who are there.
Don't think dancing close is appropriate though, but you must ask your partner what he thinks and discuss what you feel is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): Generally when I go clubbing with my boyfriend, I'm there to dance closely with him, and not anyone else.
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reader, Morrissey-fan +, writes (3 September 2010):
I'm pretty sure you both stay away from other people and dance together!! Would you not consider watching him get close with another woman cheating??
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