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writes:Why men fall in love?Is it beauty? Is it intelligence? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): 'Love' is a feeling. It takes more than beauty to fall in love with someone. Of course, it always helps when you feel physically attracted to someone - I don't personally think it would work out if you didn't. But personality is a lot stronger than looks when it comes to love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): Given that no one in the last 180,000 years since modern man evolved has figured out the answer to this question... you are asking an awful lot of us.The answer is different for every man. What one like, another may find destestable.There is no blanket look that all men go for. I mean I like women to have a darker look, like Sasha Grey (not to mention women who prefer not to look like pre-teens in the pubic hair area by shaving it... I have always said, neat and tidy is better than bald, always said it).BNut not everyone likes that look. Or has my preference for Red-Headed women and green eyes.The point is, you question will NEVER be answered.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Beauty definitely plays a role. But I suppose you mean real love.
True love is strange. I can't tell you exactly what it is or what leads to it but it goes beyond beauty & intelligence. It feels like magnetism. Like being drawn to someone. You can't explain why because people aren't trained to view each other as walking magnets. No matter how good looking someone is or intelligent or whatever if the attraction/chemistry is not there it's just not. It is not about beauty. Really don't know myself what causes it but I know it exists.
But that is the best way I can explain it. Like putting two magnets together and the force that holds them together is what we understand as attraction or love. Not sure why but some people you just click with. And that's that.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (29 December 2010):
 Is it a combination? Yup.
It's different for everyone. I'm looking for a GF right now. The traits I personally look for are intelligence, kindness, the ability to carry on a conversation, open attitudes toward communication, sexual compatability, and physical attraction. I may have missed something, but that seems pretty close.
To fall in love, it's just a feeling. There is no one thing that makes me fall in love. I've loved different girls for different reasons. The traits I look for help me narrow down who I'm with to someone I could be with long term. Love is intense at first, and fades/changes with time. Compatability is important to make that relationship last.
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