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female
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writes:What qualities/characteristics in women cause men to fall in love with them? Not want to date them, but truly, genuinely respect and adore them. Obviously, I realize that every person is different, men are not attached to some kind of CPU, no one can be convinced to fall in love with anyone else and there is no magic formula, but I'm sure that there does exists a set of characteristics in women that would make a man go.. hey, this is a wonderful amazing girl, I wonder if I can really truly commit to her. Any ideas on what they are? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): Yeah. Well initially a man notices how pretty you are. So always look cute and pretty when you are around him. But obviously that's not enough. Its important to feel confident about yourself when you are around him.
And be warm and try to be friendly with him, and keep it mostly platonic at first. I mean its ok to kiss him but avoid having sex until you know he loves you. That will make him respect you and that's CRUCIAL for a man to fall inlove.
And don't ever let him feel like he has a 100% hold on you. Men like the chase. This doesn't mean you should play hard to get. Try not to play games. But instead have alot of things going for you, in other words, you have to feel that you like him in your life but you don't NEED him in your life. This is VERY important.
And be confident in yourself, be happy of who you are, and don't jump into anything too quickly with him. Take it slow. But don't play games either, I mean if you like him, let him know, just don't drop everything at the drop of a hat for him. Men don't like that.
And make sure you both have great conversations and lots to talk about.
But if you don't hit it off with someone, don't take it personally. It doesn't mean you are not great, it just means you both are not meant for each other, so don't force the connection. Let it happen naturally.
For a man to love you, you have to love yourself. So make sure you have a rich and fulfilling life, with lots of goals and lots of things to look forward to, great friends.
And lastly, make sure you have some control in this desicion. Its great and all when someone falls inlove with you but make sure you take into account your own needs and wants, so make sure you think he is good enough for you, without being so concerned of what he thinks.
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