What can I do to mend our relationship before he leaves for europe?

A female age , *ixiexiu writes:

My bf and I dated only 6 months and he asked me to move in with him. I lived 135 miles away so quit my job,and gave up almost all my furniture (because he had everything in his house). Within 2 months we started to argue because I wanted him to set up something to protect me in the event that we split up or something happened to him. He did set up something in the event of his death, but I told him that he needed something in case he became ill or in the event that we split up. He wont do this. So, I decided that the best thing to do was for me to give up on him ever providing me with any sense of security and go back to work to fix this on my own. Now, we have been living together 14 months and I find that we argue more frequently. We both love each other and neither of us is able to end it. My bf though has gone from being able to be married to admitting that he is a committment phobic. He never has made any future plans with me wether it be for a vacation, a long weekend away or us making any important decisions for our future. He tells me that all he wants is for us to live together "day to day". He leaves for Europe for a month within the next week I am so afraid that he may become more distant with the separation. He has told me things that he will be doing until the end of the year related to his work but he has not mentioned any plans that include me. Does anyone have any suggestions of things that I can do to mend our relationship before he leaves ? Am I being blind to what our relationship really is ?

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