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dmanforever1985
writes:HeyI just tonight think i lost my wife, i have done everything to make her happy and healthy. Then tonight she tells me she wants to leave and move in with a ex-boyfriend who by the way cheated on her over 40 times in 6 months. My question is what do i do to help ease the pain or even possibly get her back. Thanks Reply to this Question |
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reader, Miss C  + ♥, writes (13 November 2007):
 You said you have done everything you could possibly do to make her happy. You've been taken for granted completely. I'd say she's going through a confusing stage in her life, she is unsure of what she wants. Perhaps she is bored with being with a nice, honest and honourable guy like you and has turned to her ex because she see's him as the exciting bad boy. Though why she would return to a man that cheated on her that amount of times, I don't know. She must be very deluded to even consider leaving you for someone who has done that.
My advice? Let her go. I can almost guarantee that she will probably come crawling back. It's up to you then if you want to forgive her. Consider though... If you do decide to take her back, how do you know she won't do the same thing again? Do you still trust her? Is the marriage really worth the pain she put you through?
For now though, do not make any form of contact with her. If your wife is going through a phase where she is fed up with the monotony that married life often brings then the last thing she'll want is you begging her to come back to you. She'll want to get away from it all and experience something new and sometimes this is enough to make people realise fully just how wonderful the person or thing they gave up was!
If you really want her back that badly and believe you can still make your marriage work then give her time, more than likely she'll come to her senses and realise what she gave up. Sometimes it takes stupid mistakes like this to make a person see that the grass really isn't greener on the other side. Good luck anyway and keep us updated! Miss C xx
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (13 November 2007):
 to be honest your wife has put up with a lot when you marry someone you have made a vow to them which you are sopposed to keep if you knew you couldn't stop cheating. i so surpised she put up with your cheating and if you want my honest opinion you can't get her back you have cheated 1 too many times. i hope this has taught you a lesson, you will never get her back, and maybe in one relationship you will get cheated on and you will know how your wife feels and thats when you might actually learn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): Like i have said in a previous answer, we can do nothing to stop people going out of our lives if that is what they want. If she wants to go back to her ex then you cannot do anything to change her mind. If you did change her mind then you will always be looking over your shoulder and wondering just when she is going to be reunited with him in the future. Let her go and make her mistake. He cheated on her all those times in such a small time span. She must be mad to want to go back with him. I say, let her go, and make a new life for yourself. You deserve better and if she has chosen this life of destruction then let her go.
take care
xx
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reader, rcn  + ♥, writes (13 November 2007):
 Please expand on your information. What are her reasons she give you for wanting to make this change?
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