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writes: My problem is that I had been seeing someone for about 9 months. Everything was going great but I admit it was my fault that things got out of hand and I started to push him away but we worked it out. Then finally we started having arguments and then over two weeks ago we broke up. We talked a little after that and we both agreed to try again. Then his mother got involved and well it made things get back to the way they were and now he doesn't want to give us a try again. I went to go see him and he said he would call and didn't call. What's up with that? I love him so much and I have no idea what to do. Please help me to figure out what to do. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2005): Perhaps there is something else in his life that is keeping him occupied and you don't know. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Something tells me he will call you. Just give him time and space and do want you need to do. Good luck and don't worry anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): Remember the saying ...if you love someone set them free... (not just a song by Sting). You can't make him come back, he'll have to choose this on his own.
If he does, perhaps you need to communicate with each other about what you both expect from the relationship. Do you expect to always be happy? Not gonna happen.
Expecting to always be happy in a relationship is as unrealistic as expecting to always be happy with anything. There will be good days and bad, and the true test of love is not in how the good times are handled, but the bad.
As for myself, if I argue with my girlfriend (it happens), we make it a POINT to stop from time to time, hold each other, take a break from the arguement. We don't want to let a simple arguement turn into a bitter fight.
After all, couples who fight (vs just argue) spend far too much time fighting AGAINST each other, and far to little time fighting against the true problems.
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