A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:We're American expats residing in Mexico, and both really want to move back due to the current crisis, but have worries; finding a job and racism.My husband does NOT want to take a McJob, claiming "At 48, I'm too old", and he says he can't do his current job effectively anyway, work-from-home makes it impossible.I'm able to work, but was laid off and can't get a job now... not that there's many places able to.I'm 45 - well, 46 on July 4th.This move is causing us stress.We want to move back to Illinois, where we're from, but there's no guarantee we'd get a job on the outskirts of Chicago (well... technically speaking, I'm from California, but husband is from Illinois).I'm Indian-American and my husband is Japanese-American, and racism worries me a lot due to recent news.As it is, should we move back to the U.S. given that there probably won't be much for us here in Mexico?We enjoy it here, but reality unfortunately has to bite into things.We've been here since 2014, and now the coronavirus has made us reconsider things.It seems the consensus is move back to the U.S. now, but in reality, how will a middle-class couple like us ever manage to get a home etc. and live the same sort of lifestyle when things can't even be as they were in 2014 due to social distancing and mask-wearing and no guarantee of jobs?Please help us! Reply to this Question
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reader, Metobe  +, writes (5 July 2021):
 Dear Friend, I can only imagine how a move can cause such stress and anxiety for the both of you, especially since covid, restrictions etc. However a few things, why not take baby steps first, can you stay with family in IL for a short period of time while you look for a place to stay, and settle back into IL, can you husband/you start job hunting while you are still in MX? Do a bit of research online before taking on this huge burden of the move, make a list of the priorities, break them down, and don't be afraid to ask for help/assistance from a friend or family member that you can trust in IL if you need it. Also, racism, that is a tricky one, Please remember you are both still human beings with hearts that we all have, shut off your mind from the thoughts in your head about not being accepted, racism is a choice that people can make, it's not up to you to carry that burden too. Be proud of whom you are and if some others can't see that, then screw them! Best of luck, take it in bite sizes and stay positive. Please.
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