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*arahstar
writes:I've been dating my Jacob for over four months. He's been so wonderful to me-he taught me to love myself again-to be more accepting of myself-he got me to start writing again-he's helping me to lose my stage fright when it cgomes to siting-he motivated me to do well in school-he's caring and affectionate-he taught to trust people again-he's neverdone wrong to me-I've never had to lie to him and has never lied to me either-he makes me happy-he said his job in life is tomake sure I stay happy-he doesnt care that I might have to wear a back brace to fix my slight scoliosis some time in the near futureHe means so much to me. He has helped me to find myself. Him and I both have problems with the "love" word. But I really do believe I love him...but I am so desperately scared to tell him how I feel...I am scared he does not have that same feeling-even though it seems asthough love for me radiates from him...I am scared...but I feel I need to tell him...I don't know HOW to tell him...Is it too early to tell him?how do I tell him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): Sometimes the easiest way is just to say it. If he's done all those things for you and is able to say "my job in life is to make you happy", then its apparent hes in it for the long haul and not just as "something to do". There are times when the big L word can frighten off a guy or hurt the realationship by bringing it to the "next" level, but this is definately not one of them.If your not comfortable doin it face to face then my advise is your not ready. If you truly love someone with every piece of your heart and soul, then it shouldnt matter where or how you do it. You'll feel like climbing the roof and screaming it to the world when you know, in your heart, its the right time to say it. Im not gonna play the "you 16 and dont know love yet" part because i dont believe love has an age. I myself told my first girlfriend i loved her after about 6months, and we were together for almost 3years. And my with my current realationship, i told her how i loved her, while we were walking along a beach, for the first time after only 2 weeks. I've now been with her almost 5years and even proposed to her last month on the same spot on the beach where i first told her i loved her.So i guess my best answer would be, just do it. I no you putting yourself out there to get hurt again, but your also taking a chance of really bringing him into you life. Just talk a deep breath, and tell Jacob how much you love him. I think everything will work out if he is the boy you think he is, if not then it was never meant to be.
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