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writes:Have been with my wife 13 years, married almost 10 and have 2 wonderful children. About 6 months ago I noticed her "turn off" emotionally with me. Gradually it had come out that she no longer felt the way she thinks a wife should feel about her husband. A little background, I admittedly have taken her for granted, not shown much affection and never really appreciated anything she did. She had brought this to my attention several times and I paid it no mind. So after a little bit of marriage counseling she came to the conclusion there is no fixing it and we need to separate. During this time I have seen my issues and have corrected them all. We picked a separation date and it's about 3 weeks away at this point. Over the past 3 weeks we have become closer, more affectionate, and more intimate then we ever had in our previous 13 years. We both are heart broken at the thought of separating, but for some reason still feel it needs to happen. We spend all our time together, holding hands kissing and cuddling. Is this truly odd, or just a normal thing. If she is so sure we need to split and I am 80% sure is that the best case? We have agreed to remain best friends and even hang out frequently. Not sure how i feel about it all part is sad and part is excited we got married at 21 and had our first child shortly after. Single life intrigues me, but i don't want to lose her either. Any thoughts / suggestions
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Perhaps just the idea of the imminent "end is nigh" is having an effect upon both of you? I'd say that neither of you genuinely deep down want to split. Were that the case, at least one of you would be trying to run out the door already.
I'd advise caution on pursuing the "joys" of single life too enthusiastically, however. If you do reunite at some point the excess baggage you accrue could prove to be more of an issue than you have now. Perhaps consider postponing the split and see where this new road takes you both? Good luck!
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